@torrhuz: From what you say I am assuming you may be Asexual, Demisexual or Pansexual. Asexual being that you truly have no sexual attraction to either male/female Demi being that you need a strong emotional bond before attraction Pan being that you may not care for their genitalia nor their gender-identity and may end up liking them for who they are By the way everything I'm saying here is by my own logic and understanding of sexuality, I do not have formal training in psych/sexuality aside from what I've done for my major in college. In any case you may be one of the above or something else, you'd have to do more research on these however. That aside, it is possible that you have a narcissistic attraction to yourself. As I understand it, regardless of sexuality it is entirely normal to do something like looking at yourself in the mirror while masturbating. Of course you know yourself best you know how to please yourself and you probably really like how you look physically. Nothing wrong with that. I suppose its really a pretty complicated thing. It could be that because you haven't known anyone else your best choice is you and therefore you turn yourself on. If you end up dating someone and after getting close you prefer to fantasize them instead of yourself then your current issue is just from lack of experience. Then on the other side of it even if you do date someone what will matter is your perspective on it… That is, did you get with that person because they happen to look very similar to you and that was the majority of the reason you're together? Whether yes or no the other part is that even if you did get close with someone else if you still prefer to exceedingly turn to fantasies of yourself versus your partner then it is most likely that you're narcissistic. I think I understand what are you talking about and wow, it does clear up alot of stuff up. Based on what you said, I think its highly probable that the lack of experience is the case. In the past, I've been attracted to others before regardless of gender, though then I leaned more toward the guys XD. Its also a matter of experimenting with things, dating etc, that will help to find myself sexually but living in a part of the world where exploring ones sexuality is difficult and looked down upon does make it tough. But, I appreciate your thoughts on my current predicament ;D ;D ;D and as of now, I kinda see a tie to demisexuality. Thanks!!

My spouse and I were both sluts when we met 39 years ago and fortunately for us an open relationship has worked all these years. Talking about our other sexual encounters has made our sex life even better. Sometimes we have shared others with each other or enjoyed watching each other having sex with others.

I wish I could blame the economy for the incident!

Talk to the other guys about their experiences. Say things did not turn out how you expected (true), and ask them what their expectations were before hand, and how it actually turned out for them.

I am 6'2" and I think I have only had sex with one guy that was taller than me and two that was almost the same height as me, it was actually really nice not to bend your knees and you could stand tall and kiss. Younger guys seems to be taller today, but guys at my age is usually almost a head shorter than me.

@Waldo1215: There is a guy that works at the Subway across the street from my workplace, I go there every Saturday to buy cookies, he always seems to get a great mood when I come in(been going in there for about 5-6 months), the other day he asked me if I wanted to sit down with him while I eat my cookies(I said no since my brake is only about 10 mins and if things go a bit differently than I think then it will end up being a 30 minute brake). What are your thoughts on that? I wouldn't look for anything more than friendship tbh. Start with a friendship, and see how he feels about gay guys.

@martin1981: Just 50 to 250 dollars?  :afr: I mean: these twinks are all very cute (depending on what you're looking for  ) and only get this little - wow… Yeah but a lot of first-timers do it for reasons involving narcissism, getting attention, and achieving YOLO-type goals. Then "entry-level" guys beyond that do it for the (better) money and (sometimes) as paid advertising for their more lucrative rentboy jobs.

Take a break. Go visit family for a few days or more. He'll miss you

really can it be shared? isnt it not hygienic to do it..you got sperms there and other will use it

You already share spit when you kiss. You might as well enjoy it if you're into it. Don't do it if you just want to stick to kissing.

depends if you are willing that privacy..porn actors will have their vids viewed forever

he is a butch or manly gay..really depends on your set up as lover

no biggie there is nothing toxic with it or wait it depends on the chemicals of the liquid

no one does sex for a long time..that only happens in porn where editing is rampant

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Had sex with a boy and his best friend.same day.both f them dot know i had sex with other

Hyper-masculinity turns me on (big muscles, jocks, uniforms, leather, bikers, etc…). I am versatile. I can Top oral / Anal just about anyone (good imagination). I'm VERY picky on who I will bottom for. Fem is a huge turn off. So chemistry is a huge part of my sexual orientation. If you haven't found your chemistry I can see being confused on orientation. Have you played with any toys? Sometimes that can help you figure out if you can get any pleasure from anal, then try to find the right partners to give you that pleasure.

You seem kind of paranoid. But considering where you are? it may be justified. What you are experiencing is normal for everyone, regardless of orientation. Think about what is going through your mind at the time of having sex? If its any worries or anything other than sex with the person in front of you? Then you are just doing it wrong. Sex is 90% in the brain and mind. If your mind is preoccupied by fear, anxiety or a host of other emotions. Things just don't work well. I was somewhat like this when I was younger. Eventually, I found that I needed some bonding to enable sex. Just a little conversation and that was all I needed. Bond made and dick worked fine. But just throw me into a room with a hot stranger/ Something just didn't click and the dick didn't work right. Some people are the exact opposite. They only respond to quick sex with no connection at all. Talk and strike up a conversation and they can't perform. Sexuality is weird.