I am a top only. My opinion is that being a top just means that you do not enjoy in any way to be penetrated, and only like to penetrate. Aside from that there are other preferences and behaviors that can be tied to being a top, but arent necessary. That includes not liking sucking dick, being dominant, being distant, not kissing and generally displaying a "straight" behavior. Until you get to the ultimate stereotype that combines all these. For me its a matter purely of biology. I have tried many times to be the receiver, with different guys but I just dont get any satisfaction mentally or physically. Even when it doesnt hurt, its boring me out. Sucking dick, I dont mind it but it also bores me out. Oh, and I do like to kiss of course. Its a big turn on. So yes you can be a top only.

Well… if you have this fetish, it sounds like you're the person who can answer this question?

If you are not really into one night and all that sh*t, I guess tinder is the most realiable one. They cannot upload nudes and even trying to get something quick does not work there so that would be my first choice to try something serious.

Have you ever seen some of the "porn" that's made expressly for women? I mean, the men are extremely fit and handsome, but the films can take 60 percent of the time on the "meeting," the "seduction," the somewhat endless kissing and caressing.  Then, the "cock shots" are done in hazy light, the the BJs and sex are nowhere near the, um, reality of gay OR straight sex, lol. So, maybe women who are just more "real sex"-positive are the ones who will watch your gay porn.

Wise words, US dude.   :cool2: Pot was a staple of my college days, but I didn't get laid (in a small town) with enough regularity to report on any pot-sex synergy. Anybody else enjoy a toke, followed by a poke?   

@Mcjl: I don't do well with ignorant people.  Use your words sweetie.  Maybe your dumb ? How do you cope with yourself then? Believing bisexuality is not a thing is extreme ignorant.

Straight dicks are always desired. Maybe I am just too desperate for anything to happen.

OMG I did to, different kinds of underwear turns me on big time.

Yes, you should stop. I'm afraid he's not interested in you that way. Good luck going forward!

@JohnAllenson: First reaction was use both hands. Serious hint on deep-throating.  The position for 69 straightens out the passage between the mouth and the throat.  On your knees puts an angle that's difficult to work around. bingo

Flavoured lube, to me, tastes just as nasty as the original.

Ohhh you meant literally dirty? LoL

@KissMyAirs: Gay date apps and websites help but you cannot trust them. so i've heard

eeeek. like not being fully clean and ruining an expensive pair of sheets. then doing the laundry LOLs 

Getting HIV is my greatest fear

No.  The only thing you could do would be to reply to posts and ask for a picture.  If its his picture you know he's lieing to you.  The CL relay is designed to be anonymous.  For exactly this reason.

is there a way to eventually like bottoming? i play with my ass on occasion but i've only ever liked it a few inches in….never all the way in

@cteavin: @detroiticus: Ho old was your first sexual experience? Which experience? First masturbation? First group masturbation? First oral, anal, heavy petting? With gay men that question is harder than with women.