Dude, don't worry… I'm 19 too, and i can say to you that everyone have their time. I was devasted when i'm 18, because i was virgin, and i felt horrible, because all my friends (straight, and i'm still today discrete) had girlfriends or a active sex life. I was shy too and i lived in a small city. One day, I traveled to pass a week in another city in a friends house. He went to work all day long, so i decided to walk around and meet people. I met an older guy (he is 32), a very nice person, via chat. I said to him that i'm intrested in sex, and he asked me to went into his house. I was terrified, i was like: omg he'll kidnap and kill me. But when i met him personally, it wasn't so bad. I had an awesome sex, omg... I went into heavens. I realised that fuck loose virginity early or after. I was ready for it, the sex doesn't happen with one person, you know that you're prepared when you have the right time and the right person, or any person inclined to it. You feel ready and he or she wants? go for it

I think its one of those situations like, all terriers are dogs but not all dogs are terriers. Being on the dl could mean their closeted, or it could mean they are in a relationship, or don't want friends to know about their promiscuity, or even used as a way to heighten fantasy elements.

Mostly a Top nowadays used to love playing the bottom role, but somewhere along the way guys just stopped being able to please me that way. I guess it's all part of getting older

Im still do believe in true love

what sort of risk do you mean. Like the risk of bruising from the pressure, from suffocation or from eating ass for so long?  :cheesy2:

@rickydrexel: @bear1515: It's because many people attribute it as being a thing that women do. That's why there is that stupid thing: The woman of the relationship. Its just a extremely stupid concept that many people still use. I really hate that, but I don't feel like the gay community has made it any better by accepting this. I hate when guys refer to their assholes as "pussy"!! But you hear it in porn, and all over the gay community. There's nothing attractive about that. Indeed!  I was once in a scene where one of the guys kept going on about my "pussy".  At the first use of it, I excused myself for a couple minutes, second use of it I corrected him & third use of it I was out of there. Also, real men take it up the ass!

It can depend on the situation and especially who you're with, I have managed 5 times in 5 hours with the right man in the right mental space, other times it's once and that's it for hours Take life as it comes 

I have this one lover who fucks me doggy style and is big enough/skilled enough to hit my prostate. And he gives me these incredible internal orgasms. Very often nothing comes out of my cock but an extended leak, but the head-to-toe spasms I get are better than any cock-centered orgasm I've had. Can't even describe it, but my whole body simply cums. Interestingly, this is the only position where this happens; I guess part of it is an angle thing. So yeah, love me some doggy style!

Pretty solid consensus, which I hope you take seriously. Emotions are, by definition, not rational, so no need to attempt to defend them rationally. If yr not interested, yr not interested. Period. Interesting that you are not, by yourself, sufficient for his erotic satisfaction. Is he playing the field and wants you to join in? Wants your permission/approval? If playing without yr permission/approval, is he putting your health/life at risk from dishonesty? Does he have any particular third person in mind? Who would get to choose?

strangely enough I find that doggy can be intimate. My partner doesnt like it but i like to see his ass moves. and then there is good old missionary

@pornofan: Ben351500 is exactly right, and beat me too it and said it better than I could have. Hit all the main points, too. Here's an idea. Why not find someone who can provide a temporary tattoo? I don't mean those little paper things that kids put on with water or spit. I mean large, elaborate, very real looking body decorations that stay in place in the shower but can still be easily removed when you want. That's right, i mean you might figure after a few days that you don't even really want it. getting a tattoo is not the only procedure that's painful and costly, but so does removing it. temporary tattoo 1st is a really good idea until you really knows what you want

@ninjapow: @Minerboh80: I wanted to be a doggy for him but, darn, he was into girls! :cry2: His loss. :hug:

@tigerrawr: Me to, there is even lube stains on some parts… time to change them I  guess Mine looks like it needs to be incinerated. 

Some dildos are much harder than a real cock, so they hurt and you bleed…

amazon, giant selection, pretty cheap, discrete packaging and lots are prime eligible

if i'm with a guy who only goes for 15 minutes i'll often hold off…

You did not think about it and so you relaxed naturally. Relaxing is the key, but TELLING somebody  :cheesy2:"Relax" :cheesy2: will NOT work. He must learn how to do it.