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  • "Agony Aunt" column

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    I would love to answer your questions on health and romance so please drop me a line! [image: 1658952997902-360_f_388333407_i3ponvaueyj7yjdyw3lyh6a9r4stx0cv.jpg]
  • Ever been caught masturbating in public?

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  • Revenge Fuck - Definition?

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    @vortensen I'm not sure, actually. Just reading the synopsis and what I can find online, I don't know what exactly happens.
  • feetlover

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  • Adequate penis sizes

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    @nf16 said in Adequate penis sizes: @bi4smooth : With all due respect, the whole "selective breeding" thing is mostly a myth. Even if it were not, there is no evidence that male slaves were bred for penis size. Large-scale studies of penis size have not found any statistical significant differences between black and white penis sizes. Not so much - being born & raised in the American South, and educated in the 1970's and 80's - when we weren't being so prudish about these things, I was exposed to this information in both HS and college. The printed flyers (advertisements) from the slave auctions, as well as the documented sales of slaves, often mention their estimated age, precise height & weight, and an "other" category that was PRIMARILY used for their breast or penis size & usually filled in as U for unremarkable, L for large, or XL for extra-large. Sales receipts from the auctions show a clear correlation to the "other" having an L or XL entered to higher sales prices. NOTE: sometimes the "other" field would have a "H" entered - indicating that they were "household trained" - that is, trained to work inside the owner's home. The field would also sometimes have a number - which was used solely for women, to show how many live children she had birthed - women who had successfully had children were highly prized, as the children were "free slaves". History aside, remembering that the immigration of dark-skinned people has not abated since the abolition of slavery 155+ years ago, it's fair to say that there has been ample time for the "law averages" to come into play, and the percentage of Black Americans who can trace their ancestry to slaves is decreasing (statistically speaking: they are being diluted). As a result, the differences are "evening out" over time. That said, many of the "studies" you refer to were flawed on 2 counts: they were run by white men who had an interest in showing that there was no "real" difference - because of an ill-formed belief that a larger penis was somehow "superior" - and they couldn't have a study showing blacks as being superior! If you read the statistical details, you'll see that they "threw out" specimens that were "abnormally large or small"... in other words, they pared down the samples so as to all-but-guarantee the result they wanted! the more modern the sample, the more "diluted" the pool of Black men who are the result of the selective breeding exercise in American slavery. I've looked for it, but there was a Japanese study from pre-WWII that looked solely at Black American men descended from slaves - and they DID find a statistically significant size difference - in penis length, overall height, and low BMI (associated with muscularity). We saw the study in my college statistics class (these studies were being used to show how filtering, or not-filtering, the source data can be used to skew results), but I haven't found it in my Google searches. Since this discussion has the potential to get quite ugly, can we please go back to the original topic? Personally, yes, I'm happy with what I have. As a top, I'm perhaps not as concerned about the penis size of my partner as some might be. His ass, on the other hand..... I agree that the topic could get uncomfortable - but that doesn't mean it should be ignored either! Again, as a study in American culture: isn't it amazing that it's OK to refer to Asian men's smaller endowments, but not to Black men's larger ones? (Isn't it even MORE amazing that we throw ALL Asians - from Chinese and Japanese and Korean, to Thai, Vietnamese, and Indo-Chinese, to Indian and Pakistani! These are NOT all one "race" of people!) Personally, I couldn't care less about penis size. My ex-fiance was Black and about 8.5" in length (erect). My current b/f is Vietnamese and is about 6.5" in length (erect)... I fall in between those 2 measurements (I was smaller than my ex-fiance, and I'm slightly larger than my current b/f).... and all of that means didly-squat! Although, whenever this comes up, I'm reminded of a segment from a live concert by the a cappella group The Flirtations. They have a segment called "One of us," in which they say things like, "One of us was a high school wrestler." One of those statements was, "One of us thinks size matters," at which point, the individual in question piped up, "And the rest of them are lying!" It is sad, but true - men have been comparing penises pretty much since we realized we had them! One of the things I try to teach my children is that - it is important for your lifelong mental health that you come to terms with, and like your own body: height, complexion, eye color, body-style, hairy or not, large-breasted or small, large penis or small - these are all aspects of your body that are generally (without surgery) unchangeable! Learn to like it, appreciate it, and do not envy others for the body THEY got! It was all an accident of nature... it doesn't make them superior to you in any way... just different! A related question: when you're reading an online profile hookup site, how much do you automatically subtract from their stated penis length? That's an excellent question... but, alas, I don't add or subtract anything - because I don't care so much... I'd rather know about their chest and face vs their penis! (I know that's just me - I don't intend to speak for others!)
  • Penis size

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    I'm average 16cm and a big girth. My boyfriend doesn't complain
  • What is your experience with curved dicks?

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    @megazor I'm also quite curved (to the right). I think upward OR downward curve is best and quite hot. But left / right, not as much.
  • How many times do you jerk off in a week?

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    I'm 28 and usually I jerk off 3 - 4x a week, for the last 3 years, give or take
  • Sex toys - Reviews

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    Anyone have a review of the cade maddox fleshjack dildo?
  • Can you selfsuck?

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    Only tried when I was in high school when there was no other options and was able to get the tip mostly
  • DATING WHEN YOU ARE A CHUBBY

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    @rickchub said in DATING WHEN YOU ARE A CHUBBY: hi i am a black chubby lad and I have been single for a few years to be honest i have given up dating because i felt not desired for the right reason but more of a fetich for some blocks because of my weight or my skin. I just want someone to want me for me, just quirky self and shyness. I am not a 10 and would never be one and I am honest with myself and I wonder if I will ever meet someone right or I will just finish my life alone and no one cares about me. I know that I have to deal with a lot past trauma and therapy is here for that and it is a long road ahead but sometime I am just tired of doing that road alone and just want someone but no anyone. What should I do ? Babe, there is someone out there for you.. but as much as you want it to happen, you also have to be OPEN to let it happen! I had a friend when I was in my 20's - Asian, short, and quite overweight... he was always complaining that no one wanted HIM FOR HIM, overlooking his extra weight... Truth be told, there were PLENTY of guys into him, but they didn't match HIS physical ideals! I'm not saying this is you - but for my friend, it wasn't until another friend of ours - who was into him, but who was turned away one too many times had a "come to Jesus" moment with him that he started to change... they dated a while, and broke up... but I believe both found happiness shortly thereafter... I will say this as well... sometimes you have to LET THE UNIVERSE WIN! I have told this story way too many times, but I attended a house party (non-sexual) about 10 years ago. I was divorced (from a woman), and newly back "into" the gay scene (after 15 years, it was unrecognizable!) I was in my mid-40's, bald-ish, and about 20 lbs over my "ideal" weight (personal ideal)... so I wasn't attracting a lot of attention. There was this other guy I really liked at the party - Tom - and I arranged to get his number... so I texted him a couple of days after the party... A day later, I got a text from another number asking me to dinner... I assumed it was Tom... I showed up at the correct time, at the correct place - and this GORGEOUS, 6'3", 23 y/o Nubian GOD sat down... I was CERTAIN he was in the wrong place... I was embarrassed for him! He clearly thought I was someone else! Right? Cut to the chase, David and I fell quickly and madly in love... to this day, the most passionate and "complete" man I've ever known! We had issues, and ours was a FIERY relationship - but it was the MOST REAL, and most intense interpersonal relationship I'd ever had, and likely ever will have! Sadly, while we were engaged to be married, David came down with a MRSA infection in his chest. The ER misdiagnosed it - twice - and he passed because the infection had grown too bad before it was finally diagnosed and treated. I won't go into the details, but his death was 5 years ago now, and I still talk to him, dream about him, masturbate to memories of him... you get the idea... The point: I would NEVER have "gone for" David - he was outta my league! WAY! WAY outta my league! But when the Universe put us together, we didn't think a second thought about our age difference. Much less our racial difference! I "fought" seeing David again at first: what would my kids think, what was I thinking, being with such a younger man - and later, was I crazy getting feelings for him? I let the Universe in - and I had the time of my life while David was in it! Be open to other people - NOT "your type"... and get out there! The Universe will send someone your way, but NOT to your doorstep!
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  • Need Advise about Fisting

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    While this article is mainly focused on fisting for women (vaginal), all of the points are good and valid for anal fisting as well Top tips: Be patient! Don't measure yourself against a porn video! LOTS & LOTS of lube! then add more lube! Be patient! DO NOT USE numbing agents (including lube with numbing agents in them)! Pain is a bad thing and blood is a bad sign! If it hurts, slow down. If it bleeds, STOP for now! Be patient! (You don't have to take a full fist the first time!) Oh, and BE PATIENT! FWIW: I've been a fisting top since my 20's...
  • Can a bottom rape a top?

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    @eobox91103 thanks, very well explained. and it's kind of erotic too... in a weird sense.
  • Is it just me? WHO pulls out of a fine ass to cum on a dude's face?

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    So, let's differentiate here: In PORN - which is fantasy and NOT a how-to manual for sex - the "money shot" is virtually always made visible in some way (sometimes it's even faked - usually badly, see many sketchysex.com clips). I, for one, prefer it (in porn) when a guy being sucked off cums in/on the mouth of the sucker, and then the sucker goes back down on the cock, sucking up every last drop. It's even hotter if he keeps sucking as / until the cock starts to soften! Likewise, I prefer (in porn) when a guy fucking another guy pulls out just as he starts to cum (to show that he's cumming), and then stuffs it back in - especially when you can see the pulsing cock delivering another shot deep into the bottom's hole! What I don't enjoy - even in porn is the situation where the top fucks for a while, then pulls out - not to cum on the guy's ass or chest or stomach... no, he pulls out, re-positions himself, then jerks off (because, honestly, who can stay THAT CLOSE to orgasm while you do all of that moving around!?!) to cum on the guys's face... to me, that's a signal that the top just wasn't "feeling it" and couldn't cum fucking that bottom, so had to finish the scene jerking off... But, reality is another thing entirely: When I'm sucking a guy and he cums - it's in my mouth! You'll never see me pull off to "display" the cum... (not even on my tongue) ... I take every shot, every drop, down my throat and swallow "while its hot"... no display necessary, as the only one who's there to see it is the guy who delivered it to begin with! When I fuck a guy and I cum, I wouldn't DREAM of pulling out to cum on his ass or chest (much less twist around and try to cum in/on his face)! I cum in his ass - as deeply as my endowment allows - and I usually "lean into" him to kiss him while I continue to convulse! I do admit that, when in groups, this changes... I have been sucked off my multiple guys simultaneously, and they WANTED me to cum across both their faces - so they BOTH got a taste! I was happy to oblige... Sadly, that is not a common scenario for me (at least, not anymore!) LOL
  • Jockstraps

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    @nomadtimm Nike recently came out with some which look hot. But can't go wrong with classic Bike
  • How are you dealing with hookups during covid?

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    @indybr05 For me, I decided that it was safest if I could meet 1 or 2 guys max, to just keep them as sole fuck buddy[s]. At the moment, my guy & I stay strictly to one another. We feel that what is there that either of us can't get vs. a random dude in unsafe times? That would be my advice. Plus, you have the freedom or oral or going bareback sex without worrying like a random hookup. Granted, both of you stay protected normal day to day. Think of it this way If, If you feel comfortable them Nutting in your butt, then that's a good bro in my book.... Hope this helps!
  • Open relationship?

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    Can we get back to the nice subject of open relationships? (For free speech you guys can start another feed.) Most friends of mine with an open relationship seem to make it work nicely. I might even conclude that their relationships are better then the closed relationships. It helps to prevent lots of frustrations within the relationship.
  • What gives you the best orgasms?

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    @truthbtold6 said in What gives you the best orgasms?: @andergarcia said in What gives you the best orgasms?: When he's fucking me hard and hits my insides  Not sure if this is the same but when he cums inside of me. I love when he tells me he is going to cum and I get to tell him to breed me, please. I love that too, but that's not my BEST orgasm! The BEST ones for me come when I'm being restrained and can't touch my own cock, then I'm brought to orgasm -either directly, or with some edging- completely out of my own control! At least those are the times when I cum the MOST and HARDEST! I've said many times: pulling out is for porn! That is: not for real-life! The penis is a semen-delivery-system designed to deposit the fluid as deeply as possible into the target. You are genetically programmed to want to pump your load deep!
  • Tesão Incontrolável de Chupar o Renan

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  • Anybody in Berlin from November 2021?

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