@megazor I'm also quite curved (to the right). I think upward OR downward curve is best and quite hot. But left / right, not as much.

I'm 28 and usually I jerk off 3 - 4x a week, for the last 3 years, give or take

Anyone have a review of the cade maddox fleshjack dildo?

Only tried when I was in high school when there was no other options and was able to get the tip mostly

@rickchub said in DATING WHEN YOU ARE A CHUBBY: hi i am a black chubby lad and I have been single for a few years to be honest i have given up dating because i felt not desired for the right reason but more of a fetich for some blocks because of my weight or my skin. I just want someone to want me for me, just quirky self and shyness. I am not a 10 and would never be one and I am honest with myself and I wonder if I will ever meet someone right or I will just finish my life alone and no one cares about me. I know that I have to deal with a lot past trauma and therapy is here for that and it is a long road ahead but sometime I am just tired of doing that road alone and just want someone but no anyone. What should I do ? Babe, there is someone out there for you.. but as much as you want it to happen, you also have to be OPEN to let it happen! I had a friend when I was in my 20's - Asian, short, and quite overweight... he was always complaining that no one wanted HIM FOR HIM, overlooking his extra weight... Truth be told, there were PLENTY of guys into him, but they didn't match HIS physical ideals! I'm not saying this is you - but for my friend, it wasn't until another friend of ours - who was into him, but who was turned away one too many times had a "come to Jesus" moment with him that he started to change... they dated a while, and broke up... but I believe both found happiness shortly thereafter... I will say this as well... sometimes you have to LET THE UNIVERSE WIN! I have told this story way too many times, but I attended a house party (non-sexual) about 10 years ago. I was divorced (from a woman), and newly back "into" the gay scene (after 15 years, it was unrecognizable!) I was in my mid-40's, bald-ish, and about 20 lbs over my "ideal" weight (personal ideal)... so I wasn't attracting a lot of attention. There was this other guy I really liked at the party - Tom - and I arranged to get his number... so I texted him a couple of days after the party... A day later, I got a text from another number asking me to dinner... I assumed it was Tom... I showed up at the correct time, at the correct place - and this GORGEOUS, 6'3", 23 y/o Nubian GOD sat down... I was CERTAIN he was in the wrong place... I was embarrassed for him! He clearly thought I was someone else! Right? Cut to the chase, David and I fell quickly and madly in love... to this day, the most passionate and "complete" man I've ever known! We had issues, and ours was a FIERY relationship - but it was the MOST REAL, and most intense interpersonal relationship I'd ever had, and likely ever will have! Sadly, while we were engaged to be married, David came down with a MRSA infection in his chest. The ER misdiagnosed it - twice - and he passed because the infection had grown too bad before it was finally diagnosed and treated. I won't go into the details, but his death was 5 years ago now, and I still talk to him, dream about him, masturbate to memories of him... you get the idea... The point: I would NEVER have "gone for" David - he was outta my league! WAY! WAY outta my league! But when the Universe put us together, we didn't think a second thought about our age difference. Much less our racial difference! I "fought" seeing David again at first: what would my kids think, what was I thinking, being with such a younger man - and later, was I crazy getting feelings for him? I let the Universe in - and I had the time of my life while David was in it! Be open to other people - NOT "your type"... and get out there! The Universe will send someone your way, but NOT to your doorstep!

While this article is mainly focused on fisting for women (vaginal), all of the points are good and valid for anal fisting as well Top tips: Be patient! Don't measure yourself against a porn video! LOTS & LOTS of lube! then add more lube! Be patient! DO NOT USE numbing agents (including lube with numbing agents in them)! Pain is a bad thing and blood is a bad sign! If it hurts, slow down. If it bleeds, STOP for now! Be patient! (You don't have to take a full fist the first time!) Oh, and BE PATIENT! FWIW: I've been a fisting top since my 20's...

@eobox91103 thanks, very well explained. and it's kind of erotic too... in a weird sense.

So, let's differentiate here: In PORN - which is fantasy and NOT a how-to manual for sex - the "money shot" is virtually always made visible in some way (sometimes it's even faked - usually badly, see many sketchysex.com clips). I, for one, prefer it (in porn) when a guy being sucked off cums in/on the mouth of the sucker, and then the sucker goes back down on the cock, sucking up every last drop. It's even hotter if he keeps sucking as / until the cock starts to soften! Likewise, I prefer (in porn) when a guy fucking another guy pulls out just as he starts to cum (to show that he's cumming), and then stuffs it back in - especially when you can see the pulsing cock delivering another shot deep into the bottom's hole! What I don't enjoy - even in porn is the situation where the top fucks for a while, then pulls out - not to cum on the guy's ass or chest or stomach... no, he pulls out, re-positions himself, then jerks off (because, honestly, who can stay THAT CLOSE to orgasm while you do all of that moving around!?!) to cum on the guys's face... to me, that's a signal that the top just wasn't "feeling it" and couldn't cum fucking that bottom, so had to finish the scene jerking off... But, reality is another thing entirely: When I'm sucking a guy and he cums - it's in my mouth! You'll never see me pull off to "display" the cum... (not even on my tongue) ... I take every shot, every drop, down my throat and swallow "while its hot"... no display necessary, as the only one who's there to see it is the guy who delivered it to begin with! When I fuck a guy and I cum, I wouldn't DREAM of pulling out to cum on his ass or chest (much less twist around and try to cum in/on his face)! I cum in his ass - as deeply as my endowment allows - and I usually "lean into" him to kiss him while I continue to convulse! I do admit that, when in groups, this changes... I have been sucked off my multiple guys simultaneously, and they WANTED me to cum across both their faces - so they BOTH got a taste! I was happy to oblige... Sadly, that is not a common scenario for me (at least, not anymore!) LOL

@nomadtimm Nike recently came out with some which look hot. But can't go wrong with classic Bike

@indybr05 For me, I decided that it was safest if I could meet 1 or 2 guys max, to just keep them as sole fuck buddy[s]. At the moment, my guy & I stay strictly to one another. We feel that what is there that either of us can't get vs. a random dude in unsafe times? That would be my advice. Plus, you have the freedom or oral or going bareback sex without worrying like a random hookup. Granted, both of you stay protected normal day to day. Think of it this way If, If you feel comfortable them Nutting in your butt, then that's a good bro in my book.... Hope this helps!

Can we get back to the nice subject of open relationships? (For free speech you guys can start another feed.) Most friends of mine with an open relationship seem to make it work nicely. I might even conclude that their relationships are better then the closed relationships. It helps to prevent lots of frustrations within the relationship.

@truthbtold6 said in What gives you the best orgasms?: @andergarcia said in What gives you the best orgasms?: When he's fucking me hard and hits my insides  Not sure if this is the same but when he cums inside of me. I love when he tells me he is going to cum and I get to tell him to breed me, please. I love that too, but that's not my BEST orgasm! The BEST ones for me come when I'm being restrained and can't touch my own cock, then I'm brought to orgasm -either directly, or with some edging- completely out of my own control! At least those are the times when I cum the MOST and HARDEST! I've said many times: pulling out is for porn! That is: not for real-life! The penis is a semen-delivery-system designed to deposit the fluid as deeply as possible into the target. You are genetically programmed to want to pump your load deep!

@kraykid Im into all kinds of shiny shorts. Love the feel an looks.

@martin526 & bi4smooth I agree with what's been said above, especially the "pulling out before you cum" stunt. One peeve of mine is bored actors. I realize that it's a paying job, and one actor might not be turned on by another actor...but hey, guys, you are acting. Act like you're enjoying it even if you aren't, but don't overdo it. Then there's lack of communication between actors. Yes, we know that the reason you switched from doggy style to missionary is because the director told you to. But again, it's acting: Have the bottom say, "I want to try it on my back." Also, let's be creative: It seems that 90% of the time the bottom sucks the top's cock first, and then maybe the top reciprocates before they start fucking. How about switching it up more 50/50 so we can be a little surprised at the outcome (so to speak). While top/bottom identification can be obvious from the start when there's some "macho" guy paired with an effeminate twink, if it's two Fratmen-type guys, leave us in suspense for a while. On a more general level, these problems don't occur as much in purely home-made porn. The lighting and camera angles aren't as good, but real people having real sex often make better videos than the "professionals." Maybe the pro directors need to get laid more often.

@martin526 said in I want to have sex with all men I’m attracted to: Anytime I meet a meet another gay man I’m attracted to, I instantly want to fuck them. It’s hard to have friendships with gay men, because I want to have sex with each one I come across. Whenever I hang out with another gay male, especially if they’re attractive, I can’t help but feel a sexual tension, and sometimes, it feels like they feel the same. There’s certain actions, the ways we look at each other, it feels like our eyes are screaming rip my clothes off grab my neck and kiss me. I would love to have more friendships based off common interests, but the common interests make me feel even closer to them, and then I want to have sex with them. Does anyone else have trouble like this with their male friendships? There is a difference between "attraction," "desire," and "action." I am attracted to a LOT of men... that attraction translates into DESIRE in some of them (that is, I might actually DO something to meet or converse with them)... and sometimes I'm luck enough that the desire turns to ACTION. If I am single (and I am currently), or I'm otherwise NOT in a monogamous relationship, the number of guys I sleep with is purely a personal choice. These are the days of online hookups after all! Never let someone shame you with words like "slut" just because you get more sex than they do! Consenting adults can fuck whomever and as often as they like! We are PROGRAMMED (genetically) to like sex - without that programming, we would have been an extinct species a LONG LONG time ago! However, when there IS a relationship in play, my desires should NEVER turn to action - out of respect for my partner (and myself). I can control my desires (to a point - I have been seduced before!), and if I lose that control (say, I'm too drunk to stop myself) I usually regret it. Still, if you cannot control your desires, you may need counseling. There is nothing wrong with needing or seeking counseling (I have found it extremely helpful at various times in my life!) FWIW - I'm "easy" when I'm single... I've had sex with 4 different guys (not an orgy - separate "encounters") in a 24-hour period before! But that is a rarity... these days (COVID days) I'm lucky to get laid more than 3-4 times a month. (Oh the pain, says Dr. Smith! ) But I think your question ALSO goes to mixing friendship with sexual activity. And that can be a tricky thing... BUT, in my experience, so long as you discuss and agree on the "limits", there shouldn't be problems (though there always will be - as with any friendship). What kind of discussion? Will this be a one-time thing? Or are we gonna be FWB? If we do this, are we gonna still just be friends, or will we be lovers? If "just friends", are we both clear we're not looking to BECOME "lovers"? Or are one or both of us open to this growing into more? You get the idea... TALK about it! (My current "candidate" for a boyfriend needs to be trained to talk about HIS wants and needs... he keeps it all bottled up inside him... I'm not clairvoyant (not even in drag!)... he's gotta tell me what works best for him and what doesn't! LOL Communication is REQUIRED for good sex AND for good friends! Why wouldn't it ALSO be needed for a good FWB?

@kamyk said in Advice for sucking cock and breathing: @kekkaishi If it really is your thing (and it's partially a thing of mine too) realize this: There are many people who do things like swim or dive, or other things of that sort who practice holding their breath. Some can hold their breath for up to two minutes, Some even longer, although that is not the norm. And of course, they are not forcibly inserting something down their throat at the same time, which complicates learning the technique. It is partially about breathing, learning to pull off far enough to get a lungful before going back down, but also about extending the time you can hold your breath. I am able to deep throat for about 1 minute before having to back off enough to get some air in through my nose at least. There is also a reason why you see people in porn lick around the head and shaft a minute, or rub it on their cheek, before continuing, and it's not purely cock worship. Also, if the idea is not abhorrent to you, some people like to make you gag, both for the feeling of control, and because it makes your throat tighten around their dick. You can also learn to control the gag reflex caused by choking, at least far enough that you don't throw up. Either way, gag or not, as the person above says, practice makes perfect. At 57 years young, I've never believed I had enough practice... I always need to "work on my technique"

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