@gayaznboi22: I'm between d and e; though I am rather thick at abotu 5 inches.  Makes it annoying to top when lots of guys complain you're too thick  lol. I would love to see that

@Josh99: Can you trust that stranger to look in your bank account and not take any cash out, just because he wanted to see how much money you had? Can you trust that stranger to tell you if he had any infectious diseases?  Can you trust that stranger not to have secretly filmed the whole business even after you said no? I don't have a clue, I wasn't there,  I wasn't the one that met that particular stranger, so I can only guess. But we all trust strangers every single day and we make judgements on all the info we have at that particular time in whether we put our trust in them. So with trusting a stranger who wants to film something for his 'own personal collection' would be a judgement call after I had more info about him, checked him out, all that kinda stuff.  Generally, I'd always be a bit wary of someone filming something for their 'own personal collection' sounds a bit suspect to me. However, if he'd said I wanna film myself sucking your cock to put it on the net, or word to that effect, I'd admire the honesty and probably agree! Well explained!

@gayaznboi22: I feel this is a problem more common than people realize or want to admit.  I myself have a hard time staying hard when I'm about to fuck someone; it's why I usually bottom.  I have no issues getting hard any other time; it's just when I'm about to enter an ass. For me, I'm not even thinking about "I'm about to go in" or "Hope it goes well".  I just legit start softening until it's nothing.  And strangely enough, it's always when I use a condom that it goes down.  Kinda makes me feel like George from that one Seinfeld episode where he complains about losing an erection between the time of getting a condom and opening it. But seriously, I have no mental qualms about wearing condoms.  It just seems to affect me as such when I try my hand at topping.  It's somewhat better when I bareback fuck someone, but I reserve that for only one person whom I trust but is a total top who miraculously lets me at him once in a blue moon. That said, it's best to talk to your doctor to see if there's anything you can do to change it. A doctor though may help may not.. ::)

Using an enema.  It could be a hand-held one or one that goes as a shower attachment; just make sure to give yourself about 30 or so minutes after the enema.  Sometimes, there may be some leftover water that needs some time to naturally pass. Also, make sure you go a couple rounds.  It's done properly when the water runs clear.

@porkyV2: try drinking alka seltzer or 1 teaspoon of baking soda in warm water for 1 week. it's really good in clearing up UTI's. No, LOL.   :cheers: Your stomach is so acidic that it quickly neutralizes either one of those and eating alkaline foods has no effect on any kind of infection, anyway, including UTIs. but dont forget to visit your doctor. he will prescribe you antibiotics- follow the instruction to the letter- then return for another check up cause it may not resolve the problem yet. go back until the problem is resolved. also, do not engage in any form of penetration without a condom (you or him) as you are prone to getting infection. Yes.  

I have no problem doing it in the restroom, if it's in a closed stall, or whatever those are called, with doors. However, I'd have to be quiet so.

@Ballbusted12: @gayaznboi22: From a personal standpoint, I get what you're feeling.  I was fresh out of high school and starting college ten years ago.  With that new freedom and a chance to finally explore my sexual desires, sex was at the forefront of my mind.  I often found myself willingly skipping class to meet up with guys I found on Craigslist just so I could try out the various types of sex I've seen in porn videos.  My grades suffered for it and I actually got academically disqualified for it.  I thankfully got my act together and finished college after doing some reflection of what my sexual freedom was doing to my academic and future life. While I wouldn't change how I acted in those sex-filled college years - because it helped mold my current sexual proclivities to which I am very comfortable with - I was a loose cannon.  It sounds like that is the same for you minus the availability to release sexual hormonal urges.  Might I be safe to assume you never played around with others before?  If so, then that can be contributory to how you're feeling.  It's how I felt before my first sexual experience to which I became a college whore for a period of time. If it's true that you are a true virgin who hasn't had any kind of sexual encounter, my suggestion would be to take up a constructive hobby.  What got me through my sexless high school years was taking up creative writing.  While it didn't keep me from jerking off 4 times a week; it did keep my mind off of "I want to try fucking/getting fucked" and other such thoughts. If you had sexual experiences before and are craving it again, my suggestion is the same.  I would also add that you should mentally remind yourself that you know what the feeling is and that it isn't a new novel idea to be trying; that it's already been done and you can wait to experience it once more. As a final note, it also seems like you continually touch yourself to the point of it taking over your life.  That it is being triggered by looking at porn/sexy models all day.  Once again, my suggestion is to take up a constructive hobby.  Also, I would say that you should try dedicating a specific amount of time a week for looking at porn or other such materials.  I used to continually look at porn in college; another reason for my grades dropping.  It wasn't until I limited myself to four hours a week of porn; it could be a few minutes in a day or all four in one day.  After I reach that limit, I'm done for the week no matter how horny I am. Of course, everything I'm saying does require a specific amount of self-discipline.  That's the shining light in your predicament; this is your first time being in such a dilemma and a chance to build up your sexual self-discipline.  If it is not working, then I would suggest asking for help from your doctor or a college psychiatrist.  Those folks are there for a reason; to medically help you out with problems no matter how personal or sexual it may be. I do hope that you will feel better once the feelings you're experiencing come to pass.  It's not been a great time for any of us; I was lucky enough to have had sex once a month ago during this quarantine with a good trusted friend of mine.  It's still not what I'm used to in terms of sexual satisfaction, but I've learned to make due with it thanks to my sexual discipline. Thank you for sharing your experience. You are extremely right. I am having these urges all the time. I fear they have returned. I have had a few sexual experiences but none of them really left me extremely satisfied. That’s why I’m also fixated and obsessed with dating apps to try to find a partner that I’m compatible with but it only resulted in damaging my mental health even more so. I have started working full time a week ago and I have started my online classes this week and I am having an incredibly difficult trying to focus. I am afraid I’m going to do horribly because I am constantly thinking of sexual pleasure. I have reached out to a college psychologist and will have a first time evaluation with them tomorrow but I’m not sure if I am ever going to be comfortable enough to share this problem with a college counselor. There is an LBTQ center in the area that I live and they have a 10-week waitlist Not sure what to do. Hopefully the counselor can give me some pointers. How should I tell her what is going on with me, without going into too much detail? I would just keep it simple.  Say that you feel your sexual urges are constantly at the forefront of your mind regardless of what you're doing.  That you feel it is overwhelming your want to do more productive and important matters and thus lessening your ability to be productive.  At least, that's what it sounds like from what you just told me. And just as a quick note, I completely understand what you mean about sexual experiences not feeling fulfilling.  I'm 28 now; I had what I called my whore years all throughout college.  I was fresh out of high school and ready to try what I've seen in gay porn for the whole of my high school life.  Though unlike you, I didn't look for help with regards to feeling sexually insatiable almost constantly.  I ended up getting academically disqualified from college two years in and had to work hard to be reinstated.  The fact you both recognize your issue and are seeking help for it is already a step further than I took it.  You're already taking a good step forward. And as another note, might I suggest talking to guys on those hookup sites instead of outright going "hi, let's fuck."  I find that if you establish a bit of conversation first and lay things out on the table, the sex can be a bit more fulfilling.  Believe me when I say there's a difference between a quick fuck and fucking around in a way you prefer it to happen.  That and just having someone to talk to at least somewhat openly about sexual matters can do wonders. That's actually how I met my current fuck buddy; it was supposed to be a one-night stand three years ago that ended up actually becoming good friends.  Because he understood what I was looking for and was willing to meet me in the middle, I found myself being more sexually satisfied when with him.  We're still friends/fuck buddies to this day; it's also ironic he's a ambulance first responder with some specialty in psychological health. Again, I'm glad you found my experiences helpful.  I hope further insight into my sexual life will prove further helpful to bettering your mental and sexual health.  Because while I do regret whoring my way through most of college; I wouldn't change it because of the invaluable experiences I earned from it that essentially made me smarter in terms of sexual topics.  I hope this experience and bump in your current point will also serve as a learning experience for you.

It sounds like he likes to be a dominant person when it comes to sex.  The first few times was him getting used to you; now that particular phase is over, he feels like he has more free reign to participate in the rougher sex in which to exert dominance and territoriality. I can see two sides to this, one I see as hypothetical and the other I side with.  The first being that you do like the rough sex.  In that respect, you should speak more openly about it with him to distinguish certain boundaries of what is and isn't kosher during sex.  With any sexual relationship, deep conversation is key while avoiding the superficial responses. Secondly, and one I side with, is that he has gotten comfortable with having sex with you and is now exerting his more innate dominant side.  Based on his comment of wanting the world to know "you're mine", I find that to be rather disconcerting.  I would have a conversation about it in a public place and insist it be made there if only for your own safety.  If he continues to refuse or gets overly hostile, then that's a humongous red flag to plug up your ass and take it somewhere else.  Even if he is into dominant-submissive sex, there are boundaries that both parties recognize and respect; he clearly does not respect your boundaries. My overall advice here is to not approach the topic with rose-tinted glasses.  When asking the questions, listen to what he is both saying and not saying.  Oftentimes, people sidestep questions or artfully leave out particulars that you were hoping be answered.  If you feel too attached or are in the "but I love him" phase, please take a mental step back and view the picture as a whole. As a sidenote, I had my share of one-night stands when I was in college.  I was fucked by this one guy a few times; he was okay and normal with his style.  After a few times, he got too comfortable with me and started getting kinda dominant with me; refusing to let me cop a feel of his dick to make sure there's a condom and stuffing his fingers in my mouth or even covering it.  The last time we did it, I talked to him about it beforehand and he said I signed up for it before stuffing his barely lubed dick into my ass and practically raping me.  Gave him the surprise of his life, though; lifted his 200+ body off the ground with my 115 pound self to the point he was forced to get off lest he fall and alert his neighbors.  He immediately had me leave. Point of that side note, don't settle for having your sexual boundaries continually being broken.  Make your thoughts known and get away if things don't change.  And don't be afraid to defend yourself if it's needed.

I was 18 and just getting into the hookup scene.  I answered an ad from craigslist and went to the guys place.  Didn't tell him I was a virgin.  I was sucked off once before this, so I had an idea on how to suck dick when he put his to my mouth.  After a bit, he put on a condom and slowly sunk into my ass without prep.  Being a complete virgin, I'm to this day surprised it did not hurt at all.  He fucked me until I came and kept on going until he came in me through the condom.  That was the only part I didn't like; I was already sexually finished and was waiting for him to be done. My second time being fucked was a lot more memorable, but that's a different story.  lol

For me, I'd say no more than 7 inches long.  I've tried 8+ a few times; it ended up more painful than enjoyable.

@flarefright: I only know of one scene to be honest, and it was actually my introduction to felching. The scene in question is Lucas Entertainment's "Bulrog Takes Command of Ace Era and Michael Roman". At first it kind of put me off, but now I find it super hot! Just checked it out and got rock hard immediately. If you want felching videos that will make it impossible not to nut, check out the 3 or so Ultimate Gay Felch Compilations. Amazing.

I did, with my boyfriend, I used to work in a hotel, and we were horny most of the time but I wish I didn't do it. It was really risky.

It definitely has to do with the kind of lube. I use J-Lube or Crisco as they don't dry out and last a long time, you don't want to use too much. A dried out hole with a toy in it feels awful.

Thanks for the info! A new thing to learn today  :hug: @bearbearbear: @andergarcia: Really???   Never heard of that before! Looks like it may have been the standard mostly in English-speaking countries.  It was required for hygiene but only for men, not women! https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nude_swimming#1900s

If it's with my boyfriend, jerking off in front of him so that he can eat my cum; alone, sitting in front of the computer, watching some porn, with my legs spread.

it depends. but not a issue in general

I can understand not wanting to mess with a good thing, but also consider that secrets like this have a way of coming out eventually.  How would it affect your relationship for him to find out from someone else versus you telling him on your own?  Tread carefully, and consider what you know about your husband's personality, but my gut says an honest confession is going to lead to a stronger marriage than comforting lies. Also consider that he may know already.  I was in a relationship with a guy who would very obviously lie about looking at, talking to, and later meeting up with other guys.  He's done the same with his boyfriends since, as well.  I wouldn't have minded so much if he didn't always deny it, but he seemed utterly incapable to admitting to any fault.

@lololulu19: I am sure there is no single reason why people are gay, but here is one reason I think is valid. It is a FACT that in families with multiple sons, the YOUNGEST son is far more likely to be gay than the older ones. Being a youngest son, I have an explanation for that. Parents typically pay a LOT of attention to their first born child.. and lesser for each child after that. Quite often, the last child was not wanted in the first place - but was the result of thinking that the parent's child bearing years were over with, but they got a SURPRISE. I think the last sons are often neglected.  I certainly was.  Both of my older brothers were encouraged to be in Boy Scouts, drum & bugle corps, etc.  I was pretty much ignored, and left to rot at home.  Whenever my parents would go out with my older brothers to a restaurant or to the beach, they would leave me at home, with no baby-sitter.  I think that when a child is neglected, he realizes that it is more important to have a friend than it is to have a family that can't be depended on. For reason I think it far more beyond the family conditions and attention one receives as a child. I think there some more at the level conception when parents were in the act of making baby. Requires more scientific consideration, how does that act of making baby can affect the sexuality of the baby.

I wish a sexy hairy man to massage my back and suck my man boobs and then have shower with me. Also I wish this ritual continues a life time with the same man and we live under the same roof.