Talk about it first. It's important that you have set "the rules of the game" before you play. Remember that many fantasies should be just fantasies.

@pols1337: Hi, you're looking for romance on Grindr? I hope you know that during those 4 years while you were texting the love of your life, he was probably getting cornholed by every random Grindr  hottie he could message. I know this sounds blunt, but if you want a normal relationship, then take a step back and first identify the avenues where people might actually be looking for serious and real relationships.  I'm not saying you can't find love on Grindr, but I am saying it is your fault for pinning all your hopes on a Grindr hookup. Can you recommend alternative platforms? Tinder and Hinge and Chappy are the worst…. chat chat chat and never ever meet. At least with GR I get some physical interaction lol.

@SimonSaid: In my case no, I love big/huge guys but I'm planning to remain small myself Me too  ;D

@AnythingOld: @iheartbears: I don't think I would be with someone who flat out forbid me from watching porn. It's a sticky situation. 'Cause you can look at it in two ways. Is he trying to control you? Does he think you'll cheat if you watch it? Or does he think he's not enough when you watch it? So many different ways…. But, like I've said earlier (I think), if I really loved the person I'm with, I naturally don't have the desire to watch porn. Unless of course, I'm not getting it enough from him, and that would be a discussion we'd need to have. That's the point: Not watching porn is NOT about loving your partner. It's all about sex impulses, fantasies, desires… For an exemple: we all might have a fantasy that turn us on when it's just a fantasy, but we might not be that excited to (or we simply can't) make it happen (like public spaces, beach, sex with your teacher, boss, whatever). And watching porn may bring these fantasies alive, make you experience it... something like that. When you're on a relationship, some fantasies just don't disappear, and maybe your partner is not into that thing you wanna do... That's why I think it's a helthy thing to do when you do it ocasionaly. It's a moment for your own, your own fantasies, it also kinda feed your creativity a little bit.. The problem beggins, as mentioned before by a lot of users here, when you're not attracted that much to your partner. You find in porn the best scape to satisfy yourself and keep the relationship going. I actually don't think it's a problem by itself… to me, the problem is: does it bother you? Why do you run for porn instead of having all that sex coming true with your partner? That's something people must think of. Sometimes the person you love is not the person who drives you crazy... but how much are you ok with it? It's fine if your husband is not the best sex you ever had, but no fun at all?... Love is the base for a great relationship, but it'snt everything. Sex is as important as love, and if there's not a match on it, maybe you should go find it with someone else. Hope it helps

It happens to me all the time. My partner makes me cum without me even touching myself, specially when he sucks my dick, but also when I'm fucking him… when we are very horny I have even cummed when he fucks me without me even touching myself!

No, I haven't ever done that. Is it worth it?

I used to get dates with Grindr. And I always had good experiences with the guys I met there (actually I met my current boyfriend there  :)), for just one night or for more time.

Jamie Dornan :cheesy2: [image: 113236_jamie_dornan_2579.jpg] [image: 113238_jamie-dornan-hoy-4_2.jpg_652719110.jpg] [image: 113240_mm-jamie-dornan-hero.jpg]

I'm versatile and it is true that it hurts a lot the first time, if I haven't been fucked for some time. I guess i need to be a bottom more frequently

I'd fuck him.  :cheesy2:

For me it does: if the other guy's cock is too big, I am very reluntant to be fucked because it hurts too much. I prefer a more regular dick which will not hurt me when fucking me.

lots of practice

I had a Levett Caesar (just died on me after 2 yrs of use)… Rotating tip, perineum massager...  Loved that thing, and going to buy another to replace it with.

Their own kind – men?  Then certainly, yes. In a broader sense, this could encompass physical type, age type, skin type/cultural affiliation, socioeconomic status, general interests, sexual interests... I've met as many men who prefer "quite similar" as those who prefer "quite different" when all those factors are tallied...

Hey guys, Thank you for your advice, turns out you were both right. Even though I decided to continue our relationship for as far as it could go it seems that it ends in bitterness. Long story short, we kept seeing each other and engage in fantastic sex, but also a deeper connection was evolving. He kept sending me double messages, but I could understand that he cared about me more than just raw sex. One time, he said to me "I need you more than you need me" and he cuddled with me until we fell asleep. I did not respond. So during our last meeting I decided to open up about my feelings and said that "I am starting to fall in love with you". He said "you should stop doing that" (stop developing feelings for him). So I drunk a lot and it ended with me in tears in some sort of meltdown. He left the house. The next morning he send a message asking how I was feeling after drinking too much. I replyed that I am OK, and this was our last talking. I understand by our talks that he has a vision for his life which cannot include a m2m relationship or romance. Even though I feel a little sad about the way things ended up, I was expecting that this is how it would end. Once again thank you for preparing me for the future that would come.

Thank you for your informative input on this topic ColinTNM.

@ColinTNM: Gay men were invented by well off middle-class white Americans sometime after the second world war. If that's true, we owe those folk an immense debt of gratitude. ;D