I prefer to sniff rather than lick

Anal has always been a problem for me. I have had Crohn's disease since I was 16, so my relationship with my ass has always been complicated for various reasons. The Crohn's is mostly under control, but I'm super, super tight back there and it hurts as a motherfucked to try basically anything. I've had two dilation proceedures done to widen my hole but it's hasn't held up. A day or two later and I'm just as tight. After the last time I just haven't bothered to try it again, I just don't have the energy. I've tried with lube and fingers, lube and toys, alone, with a guy, it never works. All made worse because I'm a submissive bottom. I don't really despair, even if it kind of sucks, but there's lots of things to enjoy around being pounded. I'm quite kinky so there's lots of other stuff I can "make due" with.

But the same could be said about anyone from a different culture than your own. thank god no. That's the very problem with them in our societies : their religion is a legal code : it's political , it means they think rules edited by their religion are ABOVE those of the country they live in. In their countries that's no problem as their laws, political views are from their coran. But in western europe it causes lots of troubles because of this. So no, you don't have that kind of trouble with people from india, from china, from south america.

I loooove facial abuse. Throat fucking, gagging, spit, slime, getting slapped, cum play as well as piss play.

I've never really gotten much into it, but I've followed some people posting pup play stuff (usually videos) on tumblr and I find it just heart-meltingly cute.  Also, I really like the masks, They can seem kinda weird at first, but the one's i've seen look kinda cute and dopey, and just happy in general like a puppy ^_^ In one video I saw in particular really stuck with me because you could see his eyes through the mask clearly, and with out being able to see the rest of his face, I could still tell his expression was this mix of glee and anticipation.  The two pups got curious and WOWEE it's just so awesome.

I can't resist contributing to this discussion because although I've been interested in SMWHSWM topic for a long time,  my curiosity begs to know more about it. So right out of the bag people start saying labels are useless and restrictive etc.  I couldn't agree more, but the title says "straight" which is every bit a label as "Gay" "queer" what ever people are identifying as these days. I only have anecdotal evidence for you today.  I'll use myself as an example I came out as being gay early in high school trying to own the fact that I knew I was more secure being a little different.  These days if someone asked if I were gay, I would probably say yes, but only because it makes that discussion go easier, and then we can go back to life.  I've been aroused by women but it's incredibly rare and far between and the few sexual events I've had with exclusively women felt very unsatisfying.  For this reason, I find it easier to tell people that I'm gay, as opposed to "mostly gay" or "kinda sorta bi sometimes."  I have romantic and emotional feelings for men and women both, but stronger for men, so far this is all lining up. But then I want to address the idea that a horny guy will fuck anything (for example straight needs to fuck, will fuck a guy).  I am willing to believe that this is somewhat true, but the idea is so incredibly foreign to me.  It doesn't matter the gender of my partner, if I don't have this affectionate, emotional attachment, I can't perform ( and don't want to).  Due to these reason, I get sex from boyfriends, or long time friends, and it's gratifying but trying to find someone on an app or website, or a rendez vous with a stranger just doesn't arouse me. Sometimes I'm jealous of people that can have more casual sex, or don't mind what gender they are sleeping with.  They make it seem like it's fun and rewarding (and easy to find?), and I don't feel any of those things in the few one-nighters I've had. I need to talk more about this casual sex idea.  I recently was talking with a group of men, and multiples said that they hadn't masturbated since teenage/ early adulthood.  This seemed odd to me, cause if I feel like masturbating when I get home from work well.. I'm going to!   Anyways so I ask them, to explain, and they said that at a certain point in their life, they just were always going out to meet women, or had fuck-buddys or whatever, and that when they were horny they would go find a person to fuck.  This baffles me, because while I think both masturbation and romantic/emotional intercourse are amazing, I would definitely much rather touch myself than go through all the trouble of finding someone to shoot my load into(if all I'm looking for is that release).  Sounds like a lot of effort and money, and socializing.  What if you are horny so you go out to a bar or club, and you strike out, or no one of interest is there whatever, it's last call, lights come on and suddenly (because you don't masturbate) you need to find someone that will help you get off before you are asked to leave the bar…  When I proposed this hypothetical to the guys, they said that they would rather take someone to screw, that they were not attracted to, before they would go home and jerk themselves to sleep (lol).  I struggle wrapping my mind around how a person can even fuck another person if they are not attracted.  I've given it a shot a couple times and had no luck in this regard.  maybe "luck" isn't what I should call it... writing all this, portrays me as if I have some diminished libido which seem inaccurate, only that I get arousal from affectionate, emotional, and romantic endeavors, instead of the fuck til your dick is raw style other prefer.. (Sexuality is a spectrum right?) A poster here talks about having sex with another man because his wife is not enjoying anal intercourse.  That's fine, and I agree that I wouldn't much call that "Gay" because it seems that the arousal came from the fetishized nature of anal intercourse.  In this case I can see why gender would not matter, as all genders seem to be fully equipped with anuses. =] So one of my neighbors is bi, and he is married and has kids, but we still fool around sometimes, and while we aren't seeing each other romantically, or anything, at the same time, there is a weird emotional romantic element to it.  We are comfortable talking about our love for each other, but sometimes I wonder if it's accurate or if he just likes being railed from behind, as he has his wife wear strap-ons too.  Again.... labels aren't helping me make this point. so SMWHSWM are they really straight or are they something else?  My only answer to that, is: I don't care, but I feel sad for them that they feel the need to clarify their sexual orientation.  If you are looking for homosexual relations of any kind, who gives a fuck what your orientation is.  Who you pound (or get pounded by) does not define you.  Although I will concede, to what another poster said about "if the guy is straight I want to fuck with him more..."  I totally relate to that, I have fantasies about straight guys, but at the heart of it all, the fantasy isn't that I want to sleep with someone who has no attraction to me, the fantasy is really about, having something seemingly unattainable or taboo. oops my two cents is up.

leather 70's? 80's??  take a look at http://northbound.com/ it's a gay friendly manufacturer in Toronto. it rocks. [image: product_detailed_image_33678_1885.jpg]

Personality. A pretty slab of meat is still just a slab of meat.

You could use the foreskin to cover your own glans. It's called docking. Wouldn't advise it, but there you have it.  ;D

But people also react to straight couples kissing in the streets. Why would you want to make a public spectacle of yourself? Kissing in public is simply awkward and people do not appreciate it. If you saw an ugly straight couple kissing, you would probably turn away as well. Or an attractive girl kissing a guy who might be considered handsome but you personally find revolting. Or how about seeing your brother kiss his girlfriend? Or your sister kiss her boyfriend? Or your parents? Moral of the story: you shouldn't be kissing in public.  ;D

There are many different types of lube. You should check out different brands. Rule of thumb is that water-based lube dries out faster and that silicon-based lube is more difficult to clean (in addition to removing it from the sheets). Silicon-based lube might be detrimental for your anal region as well, whereas most water-based lubricants have been medically tested. (You can find the certification on the box or description.) The japanese have many different brands as well. Just find an online webshop and buy a couple.

17, hooked up with this guy through an online dating site. He was older, around 40, bearish with a blonde goatee. To this day one of the best sex I've ever had. Met up with him a few times after, he taught me how to give head and the secret to deepthroat properly.

I give them a blowjob and that often does the trick  :laugh: But the neck thing is something I always do too… I am too a bit... erm... vampire hahaha I have a huge thing for necks...

Definitely a BIG OLE YAY!  :cheers:

leenie, you beat me to it as I've just read that. But, thanks because you've reminded me I meant to post the link on a site with a large following of mature admirers

@ivanunss: Being jealous of your bf's ex is a must. Otherwise you are just not in love. ivanunss… That's straight bullshit! "Jealously" is not an indicator of one's love, but more so of one's insecurity; and the issues behind that insecurity. Of course, that's my personal opinion; and you too (sigh), are entitled to yours.