@flozen
I have lamented this for years now...

Younger guys who think they need to pull out when they orgasm

• in porn, its for the "money shot"
• in real life, it just makes a bigger mess
• in real life, you're missing out! You're biologically programmed to want to ram your penis deep into something (presumably, someone) when you orgasm - the effect being to get the semen that much closer to the egg(s) and that much more likely to procreate!

Younger guys who think that, once you orgasm, you jump right up and run off to get cleaned up

• in porn, it's because the scene's over, and you probably weren't all that into the other guy anyway
• in real life, you're missing the opportunity for real intimacy
• in real life, your partner may be multi-orgasmic, so you might not be done yet!

And those are just 2 ways their sex-lives are affected... never mind the idea that they can somehow follow a porn-like script to meet and hook-up with a stranger....

NOTE: I did porn in the mid-1980s - so I'm not speaking from some ivory tower

@lololulu19 said in Different way to have sex...:

@Kowmei Thanks for the information!

It is so seldom talked about, that even I didn't know what it was called!

Well, your notion that gay "culture" is fixated on penetrative anal sex is quite true. There also seems to be a curious fixation (at least in porn) with the "facial". I've taken to just deleting a LOT of porn where the top pulls out of a perfectly good bottom and maneuvers solely to finish by jacking off on his face.

Don't get me wrong - I like a facial cum shot - as an ending (or partial ending) of ORAL sex... but all that rearranging of bodies so you can finish a FUCK with a facial - well, its a turn off to me...

Back to intercurial sex - it can be VERY pleasurable for both the top AND the bottom, if done right!

OMG - my Gaydar is non-existent! I'm generally clueless about other people in groups.

Case in point:

In 2014, I attended a party - a mixed party: gay/straight, male/female, old/young - and there were about 50-70 people there. I was still at the end of a 4-year marathon divorce process, but i was "livin the single life" and made it clear to several people at the party that I was "available"... Nonetheless, I went home alone

2 days later, I got a text from an unknown number. This guy says we met at the party, and that another person there gave him my number. He wanted to have dinner. I wasn't sure WHO this guy was, but there was this dreamy 55 y/o guy there I had had my eye on. He too had kids, but he was financially well off and retired... (I was struggling financially because of the divorce). He was looking forward to traveling and "enjoying his life to the fullest"! Anyway, we had chatted briefly, but he had "moved on" and started chatting up a group of very young guys... message received.

But, now I wasn't so sure! The thing was: I was certain his name was Richard, and the caller's name was David. But, I'm awful with names, so I went on the date.

Instead of 55 y/o Richard, this beautiful 26 y/o ebony God sits down at the table, says HE is David, and he was so glad I agreed to see him. Well, I did NOT go home alone that night...

David, being much younger, was still a very active "socialite" in the scene of Tampa Bay's Gay Life... we were invited to parties, and David liked to go out dancing (I'm an absolutely horrid dancer!)... On MOST nights, David would point out guys who HE SAID were checking me out...

The romantic thing would be to say "I only had eyes for David", and while that is true, the fact is: I was as oblivious to their presence or interest in me as I was to David at that first party!

Hence: I HAVE NO GAYDAR!

PS: Sadly, David passed away in 2017 as a result of a medical missed diagnosis. My heart remains, to this day, broken...

@duke4172

I'm not so sure about histrionics (and from @raphjd? Pot meet kettle!)

But it certainly has a liberal bent... that said, a lot of the "acceptance" of LGBTQ people are progressive ideals.

The terms "Conservative", "Liberal", "Progressive", "Libertarian" and so forth can be applied to many very different "parts" of our politics.

For example, I consider myself a Conservative on many fiscal and government policy areas. I consider myself a Progressive Libertarian (both) on most social issues (in a nutshell: leave people alone to live their personal lives they way they want, so long as it doesn't actually hurt others!)

In a broad sense, I think our American (and global) Society is being challenged on 2 major fronts:

• the lack of privacy (everything seems to be everyone else's business these days!)
• the rise of anonymity (the true test of a man is how he acts when he thinks no one is watching -- and most of our Society fails this test!!)

Until we can find ways to ensure people's privacy, and at the same time hold people accountable for their actions (even verbal/texted ones) -- seemingly opposite issues -- we're going to struggle...

@djsoapbubble said in hey what up:

@bi4smooth I understand all that. BUT, there was a situation sometime last year where the search engine was acting wonky. Hence the reason why my uploads were reported as duplicates were because the search engine was wonky. So no, I don't trust technology that much. It's good to have it and all as we have the world right at our fingertips. However, expecting technology to be dependable 100% of the time is a far stretch as it all comes within the territory. You know, kind of like artificial intelligence when you ask Alexa or Google to play sexual music and all they do is put out Lynyrd Skynyrd instead.

No system where you allow thousands of users to input data is going to be perfect. And I may be wrong, but other than notifications that your uploads were duplicates, I don't suspect there was any PENALTY for uploading something found elsewhere.

I do know for a fact that Staff don't go looking for duplicates... they depend on the users to report them. I know this because I was told as much by a staffer some years ago when one of my torrents was marked as a duplicate, even though I thought it was "different enough" (an argument I lost LOL)

Finally - Why can't you make love to Free Bird? or What's Your Name?

I'm not sure who's right - you or Alexa on that one! ROFL!

@flozen said in Sex-Ed for 18-24 Group:

@bi4smooth A very impressive dissection of roles and responsibilities!

I would be fine if the meatier (sorry, not sorry) topics such as reproductive physiology, masturbation, consent, harassment, contraception, STDs, rape and incest were perceived as first-line parental jobs.

They should be, but many of us (parental types) didn't get the talk from our parents, and so don't know how to go about doing it! (For the record, my parents gave me a 4-volume book set on human reproduction!)

But knowing how many parents fail, I feel these topics should also be reinforced by the middle-school system through early high school -- especially for students transferring to upper classes from deficient middle school programs.

I agree completely. Human reproduction - including topics like STDs - should be taught in schools! But not the morality part of the equation. Topics like masturbation, abortion, birth control, homosexuality, etc. should be shown as "part of the Human experience" without the GOOD vs BAD part. (e.g.: People masturbate. If you want to know about your religion's feelings and teachings about it, ask your parents. I would say or ask your religious leaders, but too many of them are pedophiles, so better to stick with your parents.)

And with my secular (non)beliefs, I would rather keep God in the parental explanation of why we're incented to pursue sex as a feel-good biological imperative, and let the schools offer the alternative of a purely evolutionary approach.

As noted above: morals do not need to be taught in school. That is an area of instruction that should be left to parents (and, ahem, religious leaders)...

If you're a vibrant lover of life, sex education and exploration should have no expiration date, so bi4smooth, please provide links to your 1980s porn appearances, so that we may grow in knowledge, length and girth.

I wish I could. My ex-wife destroyed my VHS porn collection, and that included my only copies of the 2 movies I did (1 gay, 1 bi)...
I've looked for them online, but have never found either... there was a magazine shoot too, but alas, that also appears to have been left in the pre-Internet dustbin of history.

@naughtyboy said in Test:

this is a test

But is it ONLY a test?

@lololulu19 said in Condom or Bareback?:

No offense, but as a gay man, you should know more about your sexual environment and health. To wit:

Certainly bareback looks much better in porn. But in practice, guys should wear condoms when having "random" sex. There is no way that I could ever achieve orgasm with a condom on.

The human orgasm is a mostly-mental thing. If you can't cum in a condom, it's because you've convinced yourself that it isn't sexy (or that you can't - a self-fulfilling prophecy!)

That doesn't make your preference wrong - it's just important that you understand that, conscious or not, not being able to cum in a condom is a mental choice you've made, not a physical barrier.

I know of a very prolific escort.. VERY prolific.. who sucks more cock and gets fucked by more cock than you would believe.. from totally random guys. All bareback. He is HIV+, and technically what he is doing is illegal.

That really depends on where you live... in many parts of NV, prostitution (regulated, licensed prostitution) is legal.

My understanding is that one is only contagious if they have full blown AIDS and not just HIV+. But still, I would consider him to be high risk. I would never have sex with someone that I knew was HIV+.

Lots to unpack in those few words.

• a person with HIV (called an HIV+ person) can transmit the virus unless they are on medication that suppresses the virus.
• There are a number of these medications - you've likely seen them on TV: Dovato, Genvoya, Biktarvy, & Descovy to name a few...
• People who take one of these HIV medications - and currently they are all DAILY pills - can (over time) achieve a status called "undetectable" (that is, the amount of virus in their blood is so small as to be undetectable)... but it takes TIME to reach this level of "suppression" of the virus, and you must remember to take the medication every day! Failure to do so can potentially allow the virus to adapt & mutate to become unfazed to the medication - which could lead to your HIV becoming untreatable (aka: deadly AIDS).
• Those who DO achieve "undetectable" are also non-transmissible... that is, they cannot give the virus to others through sex.

There are people who are HIV+ who only have sex with other guys who are HIV+.. but even that is a bad idea, because there are many different strains of HIV, and you can have more than one strain.

While that was once true for a significant population in gay culture, with the success of the drugs above, that is seldom the case any longer - except for the "bug" community: a group of men who intentionally transmit the virus (giver or receiver)... I don't understand this group, but I don't have to... it's their body!

Your comment about different strains is absolutely true, as well... if you're not "Poz Undetectable" you should be playing safe in some other way...

For straight people, I don't understand how a guy can stick his cock into a female without a condom.. because at some point, regardless of whether the bitch says she is on the pill, she WILL get pregnant and you will either be forced to marry the bitch, abandon the bitch... or she will have an abortion. I've never had sex with a female, so I've never had to deal with that.

I'm guessing that you're referencing the fact that condoms are not 100% effective at avoiding pregnancy (or HIV transmission, for that matter!).

There is another "group" that should be mentioned here: people who are HIV- (that is, have never had the virus), and who take a daily HIV medication (in this use-case, it's called PrEP - short for Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis).

PrEP as a drug essentially helps your body fight the initial infection from exposure to HIV. The "efficacy" of PrEP (that is: how well it protects against HIV infection when you're having sex with an HIV+ (infected, un-treated) partner is even higher than using condoms!

Finally, it should be pointed out:

• These HIV meds - whether to treat HIV, or as PrEP, are strong drugs - and they are processed by your liver (which is why you have to take them daily)... which can put a strain on your liver AND kidneys.
• People who take these medications typically have to maintain a regular visitation with a supervising physician - in the US, you have to see you physician every 3-6 months. Part of the protocol for both drugs is to screen you for most STDs, including HIV.
• If you're on PrEP and do become HIV+ (likely due to multiple missed doses combined with risky behavior), your drug treatments have to change.

While what I've written here is factual (according to CDC and NIH data), that doesn't mean that you should judge your sexual behaviors solely on this information. I know a small handful of people who use both PrEP and condoms - it makes them more comfortable to know that there are 2-layers of HIV protection, plus condoms ALSO protect against most of the other STD's in addition to HIV. I also know some guys who are Poz Undetectable who still refuse to have condomless sex with HIV- men (out of fear that they may yet transmit the virus).

My point is, this is just data - how you interpret it for your own life and lifestyle is up to you!

@raphjd said in Twitter, itself, spreads lies:

@bi4smooth

Ah, so in your mind, real "conservatives" are swampies, RINOs, and Democrats.

I'm glad we came to an understanding.

No, I'm saying Donald Trump is not a real conservative!

@padmasana
Welcome to gaytor.rent (formerly - and with the forum still at - gaytor.rent)...

While the forums can be entertaining, I think we can all agree - the entire domain/site is really about sharing porn!

So, with that in mind, break out some lube, download a promising video, and slide into some good times! Happy "Happy Ending"s!

@eobox91103 said in Straight porn vs gay porn, your thoughts:

I agree. Porn is a business, after all, and the customer base for male-female porn is overwhelmingly male...males who don't want to be threatened by guys with better bodies, bigger cocks, etc.

Better looking (particularly, in better shape) I can agree to... but bigger cocks? Having 7+ is a de-facto requirement for Str8 porn, and a huge plus in gay porn! Personally, as a guy who isn't hung "in the top 10% of all males" I enjoy seeing "smaller" guys - tho it is annoying when they are ONLY cast as bottoms!

Seth Peterson (Helix) is an example... not a small cock, by any imagination, but not nearly as big as the typical "porn cock" - and in the early days of his Helix run, he was ALWAYS the bottom! Someone there finally woke up, or something, because lately he's been very vers in his scenes with them, and he's CERTAINLY vers in his OF content (with bf Aiden Garcia)

I DO believe that men who watch porn like to think of THEMSELVES as one or the other of the actors, and quite honestly, until you put a ruler up to it, most of us think of ourselves as far more "hung" than the ruler shows.. so those bigger dicks aren't so much a THREAT as a vindication that "my dick is that big too"

Conversely, many straight women like male-male porn: They're not as much interested in watching women, but they like watching guys...either solo or paired up.

I have known MANY straight women who LOVE gay porn - because the guys are hotter, and less violent...

Most women are more into romance vs hard, violent sex...

@vortensen

Within "mainstream porn", revernge-fucks are just attempts to give porn videos a "plot" (and usually fail miserably - if porn stars have any actual ACTING ability, it's purely coincidental/accidental - it is NOT why they're hired or cast usually!

But in real life, a "revenge fuck" is different from what is commonly referred to as "revenge porn"

A "revenge fuck" is, by way of an example, sleeping with your ex's brother (or father or son) and "letting it slip" to him... or seducing your ex's NEW b/f on Grindr...

"Revenge porn" on the other hand is usually some form of publicizing what once were "private" pics or videos of your ex - often to places like here, or twitter, or facebook ... but somewhere for the "public" (although, more specifically acquaintances of the "victim") to see.

To be clear, it is my understanding that THIS SITE's rules prohibit the publication of people's actual names, locations (addresses), and non-sexual social media information (including your own!)

So: want to upload that homemade video you and your ex made 2-years ago? No problem - so long as you don't identify him (with a real name) or contact information.

If either of you have an OF account, you can post that... Got a XXX Twitter handle? Fair game! Got a GayTube channel for your amateur content? Cool!

But pics of his Drivers's licene, or home address, or "real" twitter handle... not so much...

We're all about PORN here - and porn is fantasy! There is little room (or tolerance) of "reality" here! ROFL

@raphjd

As has been pointed out, "Cancel Culture" is a societal problem, not a liberal or conservative one...

Liberals have "deployed" cancel culture on certain conservative extremists, and conservatives have done the same to liberals.

Hell, conservatives are "doing it to their own" - right now, with the attempts to oust the Republicans (in some cases [e.g.: Liz Cheney] LEADERS of the party!)... solely because they won't fall in line behind "The Orange Don-ald"!

Part of the problem is that the Internet has given us nearly unlimited capacity to store data - so, for example, there was a CFO who lost his CAREER because he was incensed about hearing that Chick-Fil-A (a chicken fast-food joint in the US) was making corporate statements that were anti-LGBTQ. His (the CFO's) offense? He video'd himself lambasting a Chick-Fil-A drive-thru clerk for working for a hate-filed company. (Damn, the poor girl just wanted a JOB! I'm pretty sure she didn't check the political leanings of the company when she applied for that low-as-shit-wage job!)

So he got some hate mail (ok, deserved)... his COMPANY (employer - he was the CFO of the company) was attacked in the social media: threatened with bomb threats, boycotts, etc, so they fired him. (MAYBE deserved, but only because he was a C**-level employee, and he "represented the company" poorly)... But shit didn't stop there... he got a new job (NOT a C**-level job), but "activists" found out, notified that company, and he was fired again! (NOT cool!) And this repeated for over 5-years! These people would not let the man get and keep a job to support his family?

EDIT: OOPS! To be clear: maybe he should have lost his job for posting the video and identifying himself as the CFO of his employer. NO! His employer should NOT have received bomb threats, etc from social media activists!)

When is enough, enough? In the Internet Age, you cannot outlive your past sins! It's there FOREVER!

Should that nutball lady in Central Park be FOREVER ostracized because she called the cops on the birder in the park - because he was black, and she was scared? (Totally a racist thing - but not unforgivable, and should not be a life-ruining thing!) Even the victim told activists: enough! Leave the poor lady alone!

Should Kevin Hart never work in hollywood again because he made some anti-LGBTQ jokes 10-years ago??? Fuck no! He apologized for it - noting that they were different times - but "cancel culture" wouldn't hear of it! There can be no atonement! He cannot host the Emmy Awards if he - even 10 years ago - made fun of queer people!

BULLSHIT

BUT some of the arguments in this thread are off-base too:

There is no such thing as Speech that is FREE OF CONSEQUENCES!

Speech in America is free of persecution by the Government!
When you call your neighbor a FAG in a street-side argument, and the neighborhood queer kids TP your house that night, your rights weren't violated! You were sent a message - by the local queer kids - and now, you have a 6-month supply of TP! The only problem is: it's in trees!

In America it is legal to believe the Holocaust isn't real. (In Germany, making such a claim is a criminal offense.)
In America telling people your belief that the Holocaust was faked will get you thrown out of a lot of parties, but it won't (at least, not by itself) get you thrown in jail!

Thus, "cancel culture" isn't illegal - at least not in America...
But it IS (IMHO) completely amoral and wrong (I know, redundant much?). It's an ugly addition to our culture, and one that history will not remember with any fondness...

@thalion

If anyone is a SC collector, I have a near-complete set.

NOTE however, I download the higher-resolution versions, then recode them to 720p (even on my 4K monitors, that's PLENTY of resolution for my wanking pleasure!). The resulting files DO NOT match other files on sharing sites, AND they're somewhat smaller.

So let me know - Happy to fill requests!

PLEASE: Do not ask me to post the whole collection! Too much work! And GIANT torrents don't help anyone! I'm happy to post up to 10 at a time...

Have you also seen how ridiculous and degrading most trans movies are?

As-if gay men want to see trans "gyrls" treated like "rg" women in straight porn?

I think (personal opinion) that this is a HUGE part of why the "amateur" porn (OnlyFans, et. al.) is doing so well!

@trueform
I lost the love of my life - a true soulmate - almost 10 years ago (it'll be 10 years this August)... so I understand the loss.

And I, too, am hyper sexual. I can't sleep at night if I haven't gotten off at least once - albeit usually just before bed!

However, I stand by my suggestion to "get out there" - and by that, I don't mean go to singles bars (or gay bars) - unless that's what you like to do with a partner.

You probably have interests - DO THOSE THINGS - and look for others who are ALSO doing those things!

If you don't have any current interests that you could do, look around and FIND NEW INTERESTS!

I hadn't played bridge (the card game) since college... a friend of my mother's came over (I'm living with her for a while after the loss of my father) and started talking about her "bridge club" - well, I signed up and have been enjoying it GREATLY! Meeting lots of new people. No new lover, but several new friends!

That brings me to another key: focus on making friends, not finding a lover. The best relationships are when friends BECOME lovers.

44 is way too young to give up... I'm 62 and still hopeful I'll find another fire to warm my soul!

@raphjd said in This Is Such Bullsh*t:

@bi4smooth

There's a huge difference between wanting politicians out of office and getting random people fired from their jobs.

Um... no, there isn't! Their position is their job!

However, there IS a huge difference if you just want to elect someone different in the next election cycle! That's not cancel-culture - that's politics!!!

Agreed that "normal" people don't have to re-interview for their jobs every 2/4/6 years! But that should be enough! Barring serious misconduct, those people (politicians) should be allowed to keep their jobs until their term is completed. (And, if they're re-elected, until THAT term ends!)

Honestly, AOC has said some of the DUMBEST SHIT I've ever heard out of a politician's mouth -- but then, so has Rand Paul! Liz Cheney isn't my favorite Republican MoC, but she's a loyal, thoughtful, conservative LEADER in the House... she shouldn't be "cancelled" because she's realized the "Emperor has no clothes"... If the voters in her district disagree in 2022, she can be retired - just like every other member of the House!

Forcing her to resign because she voted against Trump is Cancel Culture.
Voting her out of office (which I hope they do not do) is politics!

@bi4smooth

I have posted 2001 as Shawn Kody

https://www.gaytor.rent/details.php?id=63a50696e156f564adcd15dca940e84d4d8a378694bcf747

My FIRST crush was on Tommy Wilde - that was in... 1981?

From there, I fell for Johan Paulik

Who, IMHO, is still HOT AS FUCK!

But my CURRENT porn-crush is Aiden Garcia - who has a BF/BFF (Seth Peterson) I'd equally love to play with! (HELLO, 3-WAY!!)

@ricky said in Arcade games @Gt.ru:

@freakmagnet You live up to your name! Now I'm a bit freaked that there were games here?!! We missed out?!

WOW! Someone's been digging DEEP into the Forum archives!

Change @FreakMagnet to @archivist! LOL