Honestly can people stop nitpicking. The "98% comment" is obvious hyperbole. the fact remains that (speaking for London) drugs are used a lot in gay culture. Hell just log into grindr and that lets you know how comfortable people have become with it. "PnP BB?" "420?" the strangely measured - "What are you into?" And by drugs I obviously mean the mind altering type. alcohol, weed, LSD, Meth etc.

Tell him ''i love you'' and mean it!

I lost my vergin when I was 16.  My neighbour  top me.

it's common  .  But for a long time  you'll used to it.

Hi Trust me it hard finding young, Top, men who want husky or chubby daddies too!

Sex is sex. Loyalty is not exclusive to a relationship. Monogamy is not loyalty nor sex. First as a culture or society we need to redefine these words and stop using them incorrectly. Monogamy is not a realistic idea; we are animals and as such have different things that drive us. Loyalty is a relationship can happen even if one or both are having sex outside of the relationship. Honesty and commitment are more important. Your heart (Love) can belong to one yet you can have sex and other feelings (Lust) for another. With all the other problems in the world why focus on this? The idea is to find someone that has your set of ideas (not necessarily the word Morals as that is something different). Find a relationship that workds, stay honest and life live with less stress, if not then why bother?

One thing I've learned with living life…If you don't ask for it you won't get it. What do you have to lose. Tell the guy to spank you and get on with it... Enjoy

Some Italian researchers did a study and they seems to agree that vacuum pump doesn't make permanent result in 6month, instead penis extenders made some results but using them several hours per day for several month with much discomfort for the men. Vacuum pump users say that probably these men weren't consistent in the use of the pump that requires less time per day (15min is the suggestion), but you must use it every day and 6 month is the minimum to have some result but we are speaking of 1/4-1/2 inch gain… Some "experienced" pumpers say they are using pumps from 2-3 years and they gained a permanent 1-1.5", but obviously they don't usually have "before" photos or they have not interrupted the routine to see if these gains are really permanent.

@darksocks: Anyone did it for money? how was it? I wonder how this works.

I think it's important to encourage and communicate during sex. Even if you're letting someone how much you love what they are doing, or giving them a guide to what you would like. Sometimes "oh god that feels so good when…" can do wonders for your partner, and if you are skilled in dirty talk and your partner gets off on that it really -really- can spice things up.  Moaning, grunting, sometimes just responding to stimuli is quite the aphrodisiac for him.  Also, if you get so good at it, you can probably get yourself off too XD

"Find your own style that works for you". Hmmmm.. that is exactly how I am now.  With the exception of losing 20 pounds, I think I am the best that I need to be.  I am not fantastic looking, but I am the best of what I have.  You personally might think differently, yet does that automatically mean everyone is going to think the same way?  I would rather highly impress one person than 50 people.  As far as I'm concerned, those 49 other people are not investing in my future.  That one person is. Advice is like opinions, everyone has them, just like assholes.  I was never asking anyone for advice, I am simply just looking for people to talk to about the matter.  Unless you have a guy my type to set me up with in my area, there is no advice that is going to help me.  I am consistently working on myself in some form, and if it isn't good enough for people to recognize me as me, rather than what they want me to be, These people are nothing more than haters. Want to know reality..?  Some of us do not have the money to throw out everything we have and start new.  Either way…. some H&M clothes are not going to make me a hot stud, when realistically, the clothes come off and I am exposed.  All the money in the world for hairstyles, clothes, attitude, etc, cannot make up for who someone actually is. PS to EVERYONE!  An attractive person is not made based on if they go to the gym or not.  If that was the case, everyone that was not ripped or over a size 2 would be single.

Could you suck me?  ;D It's been about 10 yrs. since I started seeing or playing with guys, and I count 135 lol… I like collecting pictures of guys I've been with in any way, so I can get a good idea of the number (and quality) of guys I've been with.  It's not a race for me, but I just like to remember.

I've been around the block a few times, so have no illusions. Most people on the Gaydars Squirts, and Scruffs of this world are there for a quick shag at best, or a sneering browse at worst. So I have come to a few, perhaps jaded, conclusions. If you are more than 40, beware; there's no fool like an old fool. Those winking twinks, gagging for your favours, are seldom what they seem. If you are looking for a long term relationship, skip the sites. Chat to people at the bus stop, corner shop, or join a club. If you share an activity (stamp collecting, motorbike racing, scuba diving etc.) you are more likely to click. 95% of datesite users cannot accommodate. Why? Partners? Wives? Lodgers? Stranger Danger? So, if you are one of those who can you will become instantly attractive to others. Beware; inviting others (unknown others) into your house is a risk. Do some research before inviting. Perhaps meet them in a public place first. Take a photo of them, their car and anything else that could identify them later if things turn nasty. If you do let them into your place, make it tidy. Hide all the expensive stuff away. Remove temptation of that sort. Be realistic. There will be some people who mess around. They may agree to meet, but make an excuse just before the time. Work, the wife, family crisis, sick dog. The list is endless. So you reschedule only to discover that the day before they caught the cold from hell. So it goes. Be kind, some of it may be true, but only allow three no shows before you quit that avenue. If they just don't turn up, leaving you high and dry, then call it a day just then. There is no excuse for such bad manners. So, in conclusion, the answer to the question, Dating websites? Yay or nay? I have to say yay, but don't expect much more than an occasional no strings shag and be prepared for some odd timewasting folk.

try to find some fun for yourself… talks cannot last for a long time... :cheesy2: only you can cheer you up.. :cheers:

@johnmotors13: Is it fine to have fetish for hairy body I love a hairy body on others. My husband is very hairy, but im cleanshaved. He like and i love to be cleanshaved

The truth is that people do not want a relationship because a relationship needs a lot of work as well, and that is really tiring in our time. Of course when people reach a certain age they consider a relationship a lot more than they did.

i quite like thin dicks too, one guy i slept with had one and it made sex really easy

i would with m y last boyfriends brother he was a cutie, albeit underage lol

for me no, i still love twinks and probably always will haha