Like what Disney has always said with their musical numbers…
"True to Your Heart"
"Can't You Feel the Love Tonight?"
"Listen to Your Heart"
"Let it Go"
"How Far Will I Go"
@chacha:
I said that he's "hot" because I don't want people to think that I don't want him because he's unattractive. He happens to be a good looking guy. But he's not my type. I don't wake up every morning feeling so horny when I'm with him. I won't take a picture of him and jerk off to it.
I really like guys who are not smooth on their body, and he is very smooth. All the porn I download here are basically hairy-type guys. So I'm just wondering from people here who've had this experience - am I going down a path that will lead to a breakup? Do couples really need to be totally attracted to one another?
He is literally everything I wanted in a guy…such a sweetheart.
I believe your last statement is the key!
Why? Because physical attraction will grow over time. And it WILL grow, once you've shared emotional attraction.
How can I say that? Personal experience. I had this good friend, and I used to think that this was a guy I could just be friends with. After all, he's simply just NOT my type. Similar to you, I have sexual preferences that easily aroused me (hairy, moderately muscular, physically active), and he's not at all like that (smooth as a bun, moderately chubby, and loved to laze around)!
As we got closer, I was starting to see him… 'differently'. As in, I began to slowly tolerate his looks, because his personality won me over. That sentiment actually caught me by surprise! That's when I began to... you know, just want to be with him. That longing feeling that only you alone could understand. Thanks to that, as time went by, I began feeling sexual attraction from him too! Highly likely because my trust for him grew stronger and stronger. Sure, it didn't end as a happy ending for us due to a very trivial issue, but that's my problem. Many other people have indeed found happiness through the same path!
You said "I don't wake up every morning feeling so horny when I'm with him". I'm completely sure that's just how you feel FOR NOW. Just go for it, wait and see, what develops, what's going to happen next once you take the first step. I can't guarantee a fairytale happy ending, but who knows, the result might just pleasantly surprise you ;).
