We get a third guy in our bedroom all the time. Never paid for one. We've always picked up guys at the local gay bar. Ewww….paying would be odd for me.

Any sexual act performed while thinking about a person of masculine gender or with a person of masculine gender is gay sex. Act could be something simple like pinching your nipples, rubbing your crotch…or something intense like being fucked, getting a handjob, being kissed, being muscle worshipped etc etc.

It's one of those things that, in our culture, can earn you social rejection and stigma (at best), or a stint in a prison cell (at the absolute worst). And yet, it really is VERY common. Here is why I think that is: a lot about human sexuality is demonized. The worst kinds of crimes that it is possible to commit (at least as they are perceived by our culture) are all related to sex … you would literally face a smaller criminal punishment for getting drunk and hacking someone's arm off with a sword than you would for having sex with that person while they're drunk, and them later deciding that their drunkenness meant that their consent was not "real" and deciding to make a fuss over it -- I'm not being pro-rape or anything with that statement, but ... I do make the comparison to demonstrate how we elevate the status of any sex-related violation to "ULTIMATE EVIL" territory; we really have no greater sin in our worldview than a sex-related violation of another person. It's our culture, the culture of taboos. It doesn't necessarily turn OFF these little fantasies or life experiences of ours, because we're driven by our lust and shit still goes down ... it just means we all walk around feeling guilty over those fantasies, and often feeling like you're the "only one with them." It's kind of sad what we do to each other, really ... it's like we never grew out of that phase when we were all 12-15 years old, on the school playground, each of us accusing each other of jerking off like it was an insult, but all of us adamantly denying that WE did, too. We have evil-ized sex itself. What's considered "acceptable sex" in our culture is all bound into narrow little categories, and anything that strays outside of it becomes weird and perverted. All things considered, I wish we'd take some of the magic power out of sex and approached it again (like our ancestors did) with a more level, less hysterical point of view. The sooner we make the bonobo chimpanzees (google their sexual habits) our role models, the sooner we end all wars for our species!  ;D

The dark back room of a bar is not necessarily a precursor to LTR, and at least at online hookup sites, those who claim to be interested in conversation seem to be lying and really mean "conversation with someone who would be totally hot and sexually desirable even if they had the discussion skills and insights of a Kardassian." When I was discovering sex in the pre-plague years, one of the first things I learned from a gay contemporary was that the tubs are better than gay bars "because you meet a better class of people." He also told me reassuringly that no, not everyone could tell my secret shame" Straights are so naive." Obviously that info as as dated as segregated lunch counters (anyone else old enough to remember lunch counters? Every "five and dime" store used to have one. (Five and…? Oh, never mind.) Whether those views were ever correct, they certainly helped me survive the most confused period of my life.

It all come to cerebral attraction.

I prefer the ease of Growlr because you get to inspect the goods beforehand, but any time I've met a guy in a bar the sec has always been more passionate or electric because there's been a bit of a "get to know you" period where we can tease each other with random winks or touches etc. :cheers:

I don't care about it either.  I never had sex with a black or Asian guy tough, but I really want it. I just fear I am hypersexualizing them.

I'm fine with it as long as you don't do it while I'm eating out your ass..

Long hair doesn't work for me. I prefer bald men.

ok, now i have both my vibrator has a stronger vibration which is nice, but the massager is a bit easier to insert as for the shape and size… i don't think i'm that much turned on by anal stimulation... it's nice having something in and the vibration is good, but i don't get that great feeling bottoms seem to get

@indybr05: i dig when guys talk, but hate it when they start to narrate whats going on like, dude i know i'm fucking you, you don;t have to repat that 500 times per minute This. This exactly. +1

I think it's fine as long as some respect is shown for others who might not want to see that

@indybr05: my ex used to like getting fucked while he cooked Was he a good cook?  ;D

If everyone already knows you have a crush on him, can't you ask one of them to ask?  ;D

just masturbation on a couch. I remember the spray that went everywhere  ;D

Doesn't everybody?  :cheesy2:

It can be hot on the right guy, but smooth can be nice too  ;D

Aren't you scared of being caught? That would be a boner killer for me. Maybe in an isolated area it could be hot though  ;D

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I think it is possible, but its a little bit inhuman in a harsh way. I mean, people made not only from flesh and bone, but a heart also.