"Find your own style that works for you".
Hmmmm.. that is exactly how I am now. With the exception of losing 20 pounds, I think I am the best that I need to be. I am not fantastic looking, but I am the best of what I have. You personally might think differently, yet does that automatically mean everyone is going to think the same way? I would rather highly impress one person than 50 people. As far as I'm concerned, those 49 other people are not investing in my future. That one person is.
Advice is like opinions, everyone has them, just like assholes. I was never asking anyone for advice, I am simply just looking for people to talk to about the matter. Unless you have a guy my type to set me up with in my area, there is no advice that is going to help me. I am consistently working on myself in some form, and if it isn't good enough for people to recognize me as me, rather than what they want me to be, These people are nothing more than haters.
Want to know reality..? Some of us do not have the money to throw out everything we have and start new. Either way…. some H&M clothes are not going to make me a hot stud, when realistically, the clothes come off and I am exposed. All the money in the world for hairstyles, clothes, attitude, etc, cannot make up for who someone actually is.
PS to EVERYONE! An attractive person is not made based on if they go to the gym or not. If that was the case, everyone that was not ripped or over a size 2 would be single.