Finding new Friends
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Does anyone else struggle to make new friends? I've tried apps, going to community events etc but I try to make friends with other lgbt people and quite often because I am not their "type" friendship never happens. It is a little frustrating, I want to be your friend not fuck you.
Anyone got any tips?
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@Thebigmattb-0 I'd focus on interests over anything else. Unless you're interested in political activism, LGBTQ events are probably nott the best place to meet friends, but a good place to go with friends.
Focus on your interests, activities around your interests, and friends (queer or not) will follow.
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@Thebigmattb-0 you can't force people to be friends with you, if it's not working out the must have their reasons
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@Thebigmattb-0 I long ago stopped trying to make new friends because at least for me, it doesn't seem to matter where I go, people f*cking suck!
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@MrMazda Genuinely starting to wonder if we were separated at birth.... LOL
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@Thebigmattb there is a book that got good reviews that you might find interesting: How To Start A Conversation And Make Friends: Revised And Updated by Don Gabor
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J justatest90 referenced this topic
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@Thebigmattb
Making friends is essentially a process of mutual attraction and gradual connection, so don't put too much pressure on yourself.
First, just keep a positive and upright set of values. This is the foundation of getting along with others, and most people actually have this covered, so you don't have to worry about it.
Second, enrich your knowledge and broaden your horizons. The more you experience, the easier it will be for you to find common topics with different people.
Third, learn to listen carefully to others and guide conversations gently. Responding well is far more pleasant than talking nonstop.
At the same time, always respect others' personal boundaries—don't pry into their privacy or force them to cater to you. This is a crucial rule in getting along.
Most importantly, be sincere. There's no need to pretend or force yourself to please others. Get along slowly if you click, and let it go if you don't.
Of course, you should also stay properly vigilant. There's an old Chinese saying: Never intend to harm others, but never let your guard down against them.
Finally, just relax. Making friends is never a task; you'll slowly meet like-minded people in time.
P.S. English isn’t my native language, so please forgive me if my wording sounds a bit odd. My English isn’t very good after all.
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