I just suddenly realized I can log in to the forum? I’m so excited that I’m posting a photo of myself to show how thrilled I am.
P.S. English isn’t my native language, so please forgive me if my wording sounds a bit odd. My English isn’t very good after all.

@charlesperr
My friend, I totally understand how you feel, and I can sense how sincere and kind you are. You really don’t have to fall into anxiety and low spirits because of this. I’ve read everything you shared carefully, and my heart goes out to you. I want to tell you seriously: there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, not at all.
You are healthy, in great shape, have a stable career and long-lasting friendships, and everyone around you thinks you’re excellent. This is more than enough to prove that being single is in no way your fault. Over the past ten years, you’ve lived in two cities, tried all dating apps, matchmaking, sports clubs, parties, and even therapy, yet you’ve only had short-term casual encounters. You’ve never been on a real date, and rarely even met the same person twice. This is definitely not because you’re not good enough.
What you’re going through is actually quite common. The gay dating scene in London and New York is extremely fast-paced and casual. Platforms like Grindr, circuit parties, and gay gyms are designed for short-term connections from the start, making it hard for serious relationships to grow. Getting plenty of matches but being flaked on every time is just the superficial vibe of the community, not something directed at you. As for being a POC, there may be implicit bias from a small number of people, but there’s no way that’s the reason no one has wanted anything serious with you across a decade and two cities. You shouldn’t doubt yourself for that at all. Many people only seek short-term company and have no intention of pursuing a serious, committed relationship. Everyone has their own choices and concerns, and this is never your fault.
What hurts you the most is that you’ve never had the chance to build a stable, intimate relationship. Without repeated interactions, you can’t gradually get to know each other and nurture a bond. This isn’t a flaw in your ability to connect — you’ve just been stuck in a cycle of hookups with no real conversation.
You can try adjusting your approach: first, step away from apps and places that only lead to one-night stands, and stop wasting your emotions there. Instead, join gay communities focused on long-term connections, such as volunteer groups, book clubs, hobby communities, or LGBTQ+ charity events, rather than just gyms and parties. Be straightforward from the beginning and tell people you’re looking for proper dates and a serious relationship, not casual flings, so you can filter out those who only want short-term fun. Only someone who’s willing to have deep talks with you, exchange thoughts, share lives and hobbies, and invest time in genuine communication is worth asking for a relationship. If someone only wants a physical connection and refuses to communicate emotionally, you’ll know their true intention and shouldn’t waste your feelings on them.
Fate is a wonderful thing. The right person for you just hasn’t come into your life yet. Don’t rush or doubt yourself. You deserve to be treated seriously, and the person who’s willing to take things slow and build a long-term relationship with you will meet you when you least expect it. You’ve held on for so long and done nothing wrong. Please don’t think there’s something wrong with you, and try to relax a little.
PS：Wow! My English isn’t very good, so I’m actually surprised that I managed to write so much. I looked up a lot of words in dictionaries to put this together.
Please forgive me if my expressions sound strange or unnatural. I’m Chinese and have never met any foreigners in my life. Even when I ran a bar and worked as a bartender, I never had any foreign customers. That’s why I’ve been worried that my poor choice of words or grammar mistakes might accidentally offend you.

Asian men generally have less body hair mainly because of genes.
We have a common genetic trait passed down from our ancestors that makes body hair sparser.
It’s not that we have less male hormones—our hair follicles just don’t respond as strongly to them.
Also, East Asia has a warm and humid climate, so less body hair helps with cooling down and staying clean.
Plus, our body hair is usually finer and lighter in color, so it looks even less noticeable.

@Thebigmattb
Making friends is essentially a process of mutual attraction and gradual connection, so don't put too much pressure on yourself.
First, just keep a positive and upright set of values. This is the foundation of getting along with others, and most people actually have this covered, so you don't have to worry about it.
Second, enrich your knowledge and broaden your horizons. The more you experience, the easier it will be for you to find common topics with different people.
Third, learn to listen carefully to others and guide conversations gently. Responding well is far more pleasant than talking nonstop.
At the same time, always respect others' personal boundaries—don't pry into their privacy or force them to cater to you. This is a crucial rule in getting along.
Most importantly, be sincere. There's no need to pretend or force yourself to please others. Get along slowly if you click, and let it go if you don't.
Of course, you should also stay properly vigilant. There's an old Chinese saying: Never intend to harm others, but never let your guard down against them.
Finally, just relax. Making friends is never a task; you'll slowly meet like-minded people in time.
P.S. English isn’t my native language, so please forgive me if my wording sounds a bit odd. My English isn’t very good after all.

I have about 2TB of files that are extremely messy and uncategorized, so I’m looking for ways to organize them. It feels like a huge project. Are there any good methods, software, or information about relevant studios/companies that can help with manual sorting and categorization?

I just suddenly realized I can log in to the forum? I’m so excited that I’m posting a photo of myself to show how thrilled I am.
P.S. English isn’t my native language, so please forgive me if my wording sounds a bit odd. My English isn’t very good after all.