the one with the bigger D  ;D

not much to be honest  ;D

I would have to say, "Apparently, yes." As a University of Florida junior I had a very lovely, sweet girl for a roommate, but she struggled in school and went home to Jacksonville, where she had a whirlwind courtship with an older, divorced man who was possessive.  We began to fall out of touch because of our living 90 miles apart, and the odd dynamics and demands of her marriage. A few months later I was called by her younger sister, to say my friend had shot herself to death.  As a group of her college friends, we attended the services in Jacksonville, where the younger sister pulled me aside and told me she wasn't certain it was a suicide, but there was no solid proof otherwise. Disturbs me on many levels to this day.

You can make on gay apps too, just know how to chat.

@hottie23: Would you prefer having sex with a friend who is: Drunk and not in his senses at all OR Not drunk and totally knows exactly what is going on Having sex with anyone – friend, acquaintance or trick is immaterial -- who is so drunk as to be no longer in control of his or her senses, is sex without consent, which makes the other involved party a douche.

@Bengalis: :blink: Yes.  In order to hate someone, you have to know them well enough that they are capable of hurting you and betraying you.

To add to that… "Gay" is not a scientific term.  You can distinguish between ABO bloodtypes with a test.  You can consistently measure Ph with a test.  But sexual orientation? One guy might describe himself as 'Gay' without ever having had sex with a man.  Another guy could have frequent sex with men and say he's Straight.  A third guy could say his culture doesn't use that word.  Another guy could say he's a pre-op Transwoman.  A woman could say she's a pre-op Gay Man. Even if you clear gender out of the way; Gay men aren't all equally attracted to the same type of men.  Someone could be attracted only to Muscle Bears and have zero attraction to Twinks.  Is he the same 'sexual orientation' as someone who is only attracted to Twinks?  I've had friends where we were NEVER attracted to the same guy. A piece of litmus paper doesn't react to certain types of acid but not others on a near random basis.

i thinkits almost always like that in the beginning. it might change after a bit time has passed.

The most happy and successful of gay men are just living their best lives, at the risk of sounding all "Oprah". Being an "out" gay man does not mean you have to broadcast it to the world wherever you go. No matter what you are always going to run into the dense, and less informed - making remarks and cracking bad jokes. Ask yourself, in the grand scheme of things does that person's poor judgement make them look stupid - or make you look stupid. Be yourself, understand that who you love or sleep with is not anyone's concern. Many of us work in predominantly hetero fields, I am no more compelled to share my personal life with most of them than I am to publish my financial statements. The straight people in your life who know you best and care about you most - like any other REAL human being will only ever want to see you happy. If they don't, then you need to put some distance between you and just respect that they have the right to remain ignorant and alone. In short, life has too many challenges to move through it constantly worried about the approval of others. They are just as likely to hate on you because you are happy as they are to hate on you because you are gay. A very wise friend of my Mother's once told me, "If it does not bring you joy, move away from it." SO simple.

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To those that have lost their loved one, you have my deepest sympathies. For those that lost them recently….. My partner of 24 years died suddenly in 2004. We were on vacation in Key West, and it ended with me performing CPR while trying to resuscitate him. It was traumatic and horrible and I had flashbacks for quite a while. The man was my soulmate. You know those couples who have been together so long that they finish each other's sentences? Well, we used to start each other's sentences. We were devoted to each other, and for each of us, there was nobody else we'd rather be with at any given time. It's been 14 years now (I can't believe I'm saying it), and I still miss him terribly. I find I don't think of him too much because it's too painful to dwell long. I mean, literally painful. But for those who lost their loved one recently, it does get better. It may get worse before it gets better, but it does get better. You learn how to become an individual again and how to laugh and smile and have a good time. And you can learn to love again. Until then, be good to yourself. Your partner isn't there to be good to you, so take care of yourself for him. If there's something you want to do, do it. If there's something you think would make you smile or happy, do it. Baby yourself, give yourself time, and have faith that you'll come through it in more or less one piece. You'll be different, for sure. I miss the old me. But I like some things about the new me too. So have faith and hope and know that you'll one day find yourself happy again.

All my close friends are straight guys.

I would try posting on boards about any hobbies you have. Would be a lot easier finding a friend with similar interests rather than just looking for "a gay friend"

Since we were 12 so about 17 years now. He's the funniest person I know, I couldn't imagine not being friends with him. I practically lived at his house while we were at school together. I miss him now he's moved away so I don't see him as often, but he's settled down with a guy now so I'm glad he's happy.

If someone makes you feel disgust and hatred about yourself that person is definitely not your friend. I would cut them out of your life, you don't need that kind of negativity.

My mom's favorite sister is a lesbian.