I personally don't care.

@musclefag: Why do I have the feeling that every straight guy start acting different and acting like I am tripping for them and as such start acting important. The fact that am gay doesn't mean I am attracted to just every guy. It just shows that we still have a loooong way to go, in regards to LGBT acceptance. This should not surprise you. You're not alone.

maybe to the one i had fun sex with other than that there is no need to tell anyone you really know

Besides going to somewhere non-Arabian?

Well, since there's lots of suitable porn, you can simply not bother - watch this, but fuck women.

Whatever helps you sleep at night. I doubt any religion that denounces homosexuality would be ok with you watching homosexual activity "as long as you don't partake." Sounds like you're kidding yourself mate.

I'm scared of losing friends, or alienating them. I've had three friends abandon me after I blurted it out that I was semi-maybe-bi back in senior year.

It does , i always say thats like a good start. I later on came out to all, because once your comfortable with yourself it dosent matter anymore what other people think.

As others have said, you don't want to risk being homeless or the victim of violence, but I always think as early as you can.  I'm 35 and I came out as a Freshman in college.  The one single regret I have in my life, is not coming out sooner, in high school.

I came out to my mom first. That was a few years ago. I am going to tell my dad in the coming months (hopefully)

Well the first person I came out to was my brother which was all because of some strange and vivid dream I had where I kept on waking up in my room and kept trying to jump out the window only to wake up again the room would keep changing each time though it would usually be stormy or snowy but after jumping out the window like 10 times i finally walked out the door and there were two hot guy waiting there the rest was…well it was fun. I took that as a sign that I need to at least tell one person so I told my brother then my family and friends a few months later

Chris:    My advice to you is to not work at making "gay friends"; just make friends.   I spent a long time thinking "If I only had a gay friend" and I made a few but their friendship was fleeting; my straight friendships (and they know I'm gay) have endured far longer.   Don't let "gay" define you; it's part of who you are but not the biggest part. If you're interested in meeting other gay people and want to avoid the bar scene, try Meetup (www.meetup.com).   You may find events in your area.  I don't know where you live but if there's a "gay mecca" nearby you could always travel there on a vacation trip.   I live not too far from Provincetown on Cape Cod (Massachusetts).   I've been a few times but I found that a little goes a long way unless you're really into that sort of thing.   But to each his own! As far a finding a boyfriend/partner goes, don't go looking for one.  Chances are one will find you.  It really does work that way. Rob

I think it means whatever it means for you to be comfortable being gay. I'd consider myself as "out", as in, whoever asks me I won't deny or lie about it. But I don't walk around wearing a sign and tattoo it on my forehead if you know what I mean.

Further options: Tired of having to always ask for accomodation. I have Lupus, which is rarely visible - so people ignore it. When it becomes visible -ie I have a seizure or blister from sunlight - people freak out rather than dealing with it.