<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Coming Out]]></title><description><![CDATA[Everything dealing with Coming Out]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/category/42</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 08 Apr 2026 04:54:12 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://community.gaytor.rent/category/42.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><pubDate>Tue, 08 Aug 2023 14:08:17 GMT</pubDate><ttl>60</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[an EXCUSE to fuck a guy]]></title><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/62928/an-excuse-to-fuck-a-guy</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/62928/an-excuse-to-fuck-a-guy</guid><pubDate>Tue, 08 Aug 2023 14:08:17 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[fucking guys...  why?]]></title><description><![CDATA[@raphjd The late, great, Presidential Medal of Freedom recipient Rush "El Rushbo" Limbaugh called them "femiNazis" - which is quite accurate.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A7-pp5LbRZo
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/62927/fucking-guys-why</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/62927/fucking-guys-why</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[lololulu19]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 08 Aug 2023 14:05:50 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Exhibitionists?]]></title><description><![CDATA[@orhaqi123 I think you nailed it.  I know a guy who was quite insecure about his looks.  He started working out, and the results were amazing.  He was not sure if he really looked good, but was admiring himself.  I reinforced his ego with detailed comments about how great he looked - not just bullshit.  He greatly appreciated that, and has told me so a few times.
Many guys who are into fitness and looking good tend to be gay or bi.. probably because females are not as stimulated visually as men are.  When something looks good, men notice much more than women do.  That is probably why the overwhelming majority of painters are male.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/60817/exhibitionists</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/60817/exhibitionists</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[lololulu19]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 25 Dec 2022 23:37:14 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[&quot;Straight&quot; men and anal sex]]></title><description><![CDATA[@semurg30 I think the problem here is that couple is in denial.  While its fine that the woman is using a dildo on her husband... they can't portray themselves as being "straight" when they are into an activity like that.  They need to get over themselves.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/60381/straight-men-and-anal-sex</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/60381/straight-men-and-anal-sex</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[lololulu19]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 13 Nov 2022 11:45:47 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[If you say you are in a country that is not very open, would you still come out?]]></title><description><![CDATA[@sfsfsfv
If i were in that situation, it would depend on how bad the situation is.
If it were places where you could die or be sent to prison, I would be extremely careful, generally.
If it's a place that is generally conservative, but unlikely that I would die or be sent to prison, I would be more likely to come out.
Either way, I would not be openly gay to the wider society.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/59188/if-you-say-you-are-in-a-country-that-is-not-very-open-would-you-still-come-out</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/59188/if-you-say-you-are-in-a-country-that-is-not-very-open-would-you-still-come-out</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[raphjd]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 10 Jul 2022 03:20:57 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[How important is coming out to you? and Why?]]></title><description><![CDATA[For me, I never gave a fuck about coming out of the closet. At that time, Madonna really helped me with how I perceived myself and how I stood up against the norms of heteronormativity. And to this day, I still don't give a fuck. Either you take me as I am, or you can go fuck yourself. Sexual orientation, gender, race, creed, and so on are very small parts of who you are as a human being, relating to human beings, or in the name of human beings because we're all made up of many collectively as we're all a part of the human race.
But, that's just my two cents. 
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/58631/how-important-is-coming-out-to-you-and-why</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/58631/how-important-is-coming-out-to-you-and-why</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[djsoapbubble]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 15 May 2022 20:46:21 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Removing the guilt of being gay]]></title><description><![CDATA[@flozen oh.. and I considered that he might be catfishing me.. but.. that is not the case.   I am 100% sure that it is him messaging me, and those are photos of himself.
He seems to send me stuff everytime he shaves his pubes and balls.. which is when he is extremely horny.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/58316/removing-the-guilt-of-being-gay</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/58316/removing-the-guilt-of-being-gay</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[lololulu19]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 08 Apr 2022 09:49:54 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Footballers. Gay.]]></title><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/58236/footballers-gay</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/58236/footballers-gay</guid><pubDate>Thu, 31 Mar 2022 17:34:55 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[How...]]></title><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/57520/how</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/57520/how</guid><pubDate>Sat, 05 Feb 2022 10:14:58 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Scared to come out to my conservative family]]></title><description><![CDATA[I've been having the same problems in my family. I never have a gut to say that I am gay. My whole family is  conservative. But When I get a new well-paid job I am planning to move to a diffrent country.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/55659/scared-to-come-out-to-my-conservative-family</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/55659/scared-to-come-out-to-my-conservative-family</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[bigdicked093]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 20 Oct 2021 20:06:50 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Coming out late in life.  Post marriage, kids, etc...Stories to share?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Caspita.. coraggioso!
Io il mio primo rapporto sessuale gay l'ho avuto a 33 anni ed ero fidanzato con donna da 7 anni circa. Gli ultimi 3 erano anche di convivenza.
Riconosco che quando ero lanciato nelle chat gay, la presenza della mia compagna mi innervosiva. Avrei voluto essere solo e gestire questa cosa senza dover nascondere nulla.
Però mi rendevo anche conto che spesso queste voglie omosessuali mi passavano e non ne sentivo più l'esigenza. Quindi ci ho messo un pò a capire che caspita dovevo fare.
Per un paio d'anni sono rimasto con un piede in due scarpe. Incontravo uomini e la sera tornavo a casa da lei.
Per quanto il sesso tra due uomini è decisamente più lussurioso e godereccio alla fine non lo trovavo più così appagante.
Di fatto rimasi con la mia donna senza sentire più la necessità di incontrare ragazzi. Non fu necessario fare coming out.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/52937/coming-out-late-in-life-post-marriage-kids-etc-stories-to-share</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/52937/coming-out-late-in-life-post-marriage-kids-etc-stories-to-share</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[unoqualsiasi]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 21 Apr 2021 02:21:55 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Anybody from India?]]></title><description><![CDATA[@Virtuorgasm6 My understanding of Indian culture is that before coming out to your parents as being gay, make sure you have already made out your will.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/52561/anybody-from-india</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/52561/anybody-from-india</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[lololulu19]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 02 Apr 2021 17:19:35 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Coming out for incels?]]></title><description><![CDATA[@anythingold Thank you, that actually cleared something for me.
@dadesnine Currently - always none. Everything seems pointless.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/51950/coming-out-for-incels</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/51950/coming-out-for-incels</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[fezobe]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 24 Feb 2021 03:11:53 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Muslim Family]]></title><description><![CDATA[Maybe you shouldn't come out in that situation. Your safety is more important than being accepted IMO.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/50199/muslim-family</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/50199/muslim-family</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[semurg30]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 01 Dec 2020 06:05:43 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Being a closeted only child in asian family]]></title><description><![CDATA[The only advice I can give you, guys, from my personal experience is to always be yourself and to always trust that the people who love you right now will love you when you come out. If someone changes his/her mind, it is just because he or she didn't really love you.
And also do not feel pressed to come out. Each of us has found the appropriate moment to come out. You will know when it is the best time to do it.
Be yourself and be as happy as you can!
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/49287/being-a-closeted-only-child-in-asian-family</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/49287/being-a-closeted-only-child-in-asian-family</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[andergarcia]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 07 Oct 2020 15:01:36 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[I am still in the closet.]]></title><description><![CDATA[@kako75015:

I am stuill in the closet and it is very hard fior me.

in what ways is it hard for you to come out–be more interesting as to know why its hard to do--i will say this never coming out of the closet  means you will never be able to be yourself--i dated a guy that been married for  15 years had 2 sons and decided to  no longer lie to himself about his sexuality-he lied to keep the piece in his family and didnt know how friends would react and all--same thing everyone else has to go through when coming out--
i know a guy same age as me--so scared people he works for and know other than people that arent around his circle of friends- and he never been with a guy--but yet he has a selection of toys locked in a safe in the wall like a person would do with thousands of dollars--and to this day he never been with a guy except for blowjob all because he is afraid to come out
so let know why its so hard for you to come out so we can talk more about it
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47470/i-am-still-in-the-closet</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47470/i-am-still-in-the-closet</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[wvgwm49]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 16 Jun 2020 11:42:32 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[For those still in closet]]></title><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47443/for-those-still-in-closet</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47443/for-those-still-in-closet</guid><pubDate>Mon, 15 Jun 2020 16:14:35 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Coming out or not]]></title><description><![CDATA[@1874:

sometime feeling quite nervous when think of this topic

i grew up i guess with a family/parents that didnt worry about their sons sexual preferences–my teen years i went to school went home then went to friends houses and then sometimes they would come to my place--i would be upstairs in my room with someone door shut and no one bothered us while we were doing whatever we were doing----middle school a friend of mine and i must been seen doing stuff so guys in class mostly during  gym class and between classes they would show me their asses and say wanna lick my ass or flash dicks and say they want to be next and i never understod that until my friend told me we  were caught doing it and now they are picking on us---
as got older  graduating from school and finding a job and i would go out to places ---i didnt drink but still went to bars to find someone--and we went to my place- which at this time i still lived with my folks--and my mom forgot to knock on the door and there i was getting pounded--she never said a word--
  so basically for me i am saying i never really was in the closet--i just was who i was and my family and few friends accepted me for it--
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47400/coming-out-or-not</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/47400/coming-out-or-not</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[wvgwm49]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 13 Jun 2020 15:48:18 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[How do you feel after coming out? Any experiences?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Obviously coming out is different to everyone, but I found that different situations meant that I was "coming out" multiple times. So what I mean by this is that whilst I told my close friend group and felt relieved because I was able to be more "myself" around them, I also came out to my parents, and work colleagues on separate occasions.
I'd say that in 99% of situations, it's better for your mental health, but it also isn't for everyone as well. My personal experience was that I didn't feel like I could come out to my parents until I was independently away from home with a solid car and a job for fear of being kicked out and disowned like all the horror stories you hear of. That's certainly far from what happened, but sometimes you just hype yourself up that way and it was a huge relief lifted off my shoulders after feeling like I had been hiding my true self.
I also adopted a strategy early on that I wouldn't hide and if anyone asked if I was gay, I'd tell them straight up and not dodge the question, but if they asked if I had a girlfriend, I wouldn't make excuses or anything, just say no, and if people pressed and asked why, tell them straight up I liked guys. It was much better than hiding and dodging and less tiring trying to fake a smile when someone would say "no worries, mate, you'll meet the right woman soon".
There was a running joke at work for a little while when I was in a relationship and my work colleagues noticed my mood lifted and they kept asking me, so who's the lucky girl, and I'd just joke and say "Me!". Because I was playing coy they termed me "under new management" and were very surprised when I introduced my then "boyfriend" as "new management"  We all had a good laugh and life rolled on because everyone through i was straight and it became an in-joke for others that didn't know in the building that didn't work in the team I was in.
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/45543/how-do-you-feel-after-coming-out-any-experiences</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/45543/how-do-you-feel-after-coming-out-any-experiences</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[tenty]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 15 Feb 2020 05:28:40 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Has anyone here come out on a TV talk show?]]></title><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/45341/has-anyone-here-come-out-on-a-tv-talk-show</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/45341/has-anyone-here-come-out-on-a-tv-talk-show</guid><pubDate>Sun, 26 Jan 2020 14:46:48 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Have you ever felt awkward at home after coming out?]]></title><description><![CDATA[It took years for things to "normalise" at home for me. My Mum would make these comments and have certain ideas. But my brothers and sisters would take her to task so I was very lucky and over time she came around 
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/44470/have-you-ever-felt-awkward-at-home-after-coming-out</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/44470/have-you-ever-felt-awkward-at-home-after-coming-out</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[theweebo2187]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 13 Nov 2019 16:50:10 GMT</pubDate></item></channel></rss>