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    Sex on the first date??

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    • Q Offline
      QCDelights
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      Sadly there is no definite answer to your questions. Some people will meet up and immediatly have sex before they even say two words to each other and will be together for decades. The truth of the matter with regard to sex is that it largely will depend on the societal background that you are in as sexual hangups are usually a personal reaction to societal influences. Really it's whatever feels right for you. So if you are comfortable having sex on a first date that's fine or if you would like to wait a year that's fine as well. Remember that sexual compatibility is a major factor in the subconscious cues that will attract you to a potential partner so if you start feeling too rushed or that you're waiting too long that is most likely what your partner is thinking as well. I guess to summarize this little report society's role in the sexual scripting process (yes I went to school for this stuff) "just go with the flow" and use plenty of lube and protection.

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        after
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        In my experience, so far, it was always sex before anything else. All of my relationships were with guys I just met and had sex with, then it turned out we really liked each other and it became something more serious and permanent.

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          serbiasmiley
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          true πŸ™‚ nice
          but lately all my sex encounters actually happened on a first date, like "nice shoes. wanna fuck?" πŸ™‚

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            Boomacha
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            I think if you wait you get to know the person more. Once you have sex you lose some interest usually.

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              dannywong123
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              Once, and have some fun from someone you don't know clearly

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                LEVI
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                @thekingdom:

                1. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about sex
                2. This is my general rule: if the date went well and I want to see the guy again, I avoid sex on the first date. I guess it's just my way of seeing whether he's serious or just in it for the sex. If, on the other hand, the date was just meh and I don't see the relationship going anywhere, I might have sex on the first date. Because if I'm not going to see him again I might as well have some fun.

                Oh the possibilities.

                Isn't it usually if a date goes well you are rewarded not if it goes bad.

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                  LEVI
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                  I have a friend who is just starting to explore his interest in men. He told be the difference between women and men are.

                  Women want to date first, then have sex.
                  Men want to have sex first, then date.

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                    Minerboh80
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                    @LEVI:

                    I have a friend who is just starting to explore his interest in men. He told be the difference between women and men are.

                    Women want to date first, then have sex.
                    Men want to have sex first, then date.

                    :true:

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                      bonerrs
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                      I tend to wait until after the 2nd date, at least. Mostly, it's a feeling of how we are clicking. I've been successfully woo'edΒ  :cheers: but I also enjoy a modestly paced dating game. I like the chase for a time. I think everybody does. Not game playing, but just the excitement of meeting someone new and all that that entails.

                      "An investment in knowledge pays the best interest."
                      -Benjamin Franklin

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                        mcmxc1983
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                        Yes, I always start with sex, if it works then next date πŸ™‚

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                          Minerboh80
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                          @mcmxc1983:

                          Yes, I always start with sex, if it works then next date πŸ™‚

                          Interesting turn of events there. :cheesy2:

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                            drawls2010
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                            I guess sex on the first date is fine, but I wouldn't use it as a barometer to pursue a relationship other than a sex-based one. From my experience, sex on the first date has led to either: 1. unsuccessful attempts at a relationship (having realized over time that the two of you are not compatible outside of sex) or 2. awful sexual encounters (which primarily occurs through meeting someone from the internet for the first time– mystery grab bag sex, lol).

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                              Minerboh80
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                              :true:

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                                YORCH32
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                                sex before the first date is better πŸ˜›

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                                  MrMazda Global Moderator
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                                  I guess for me it's not exactly a cut and dry thing. The biggest factor involved would definitely be the chemistry between me and the other person. There are some people that at first sight, the primal animal instinct kicks in and the sexual juices start flowing. For other people on the other hand, I find it better to go a little slower and take my time before just rushing into bed. It's really hard to say actually…

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                                    juankaaa
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                                    Sure!!

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                                      eurostud29
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                                      @rickydrexel:

                                      I've been going on a lot of dates lately, trying to find Mr. Right, and a lot of the guys have been seriously fucking HOT!!! To me, first impressions are everything, and although I love sex, and am a huge freak, I don't want to come off as a total whore. So I pose 2 questions today.

                                      1. Is talking about sex on the first date inappropriate
                                      2. How long do you wait before having sex when you're looking for a steady mate/ dating? πŸ˜•

                                      Thanks in advance for your input.

                                      1. For finding Mr. Right, probably sex is not the first topic that comes to ming
                                      2. Physical attraction and sex is important, so I would say things should lead to it around date three or so.

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                                        jammyau
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                                        Yes sex on first saves a lot of time. I happen to be lucky to have sex on very first date with man twice of age and we've been living together for the past 6 years now and apart from smaller bumps life is just great. I hope and pray for everyone else to find their perfect life partners. Having sex with a person you love is just amazing or at least what I think πŸ™‚

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                                          portokall
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                                          If I ready I can do sex in first time πŸ™‚

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                                            jrsite55
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                                            I don't see any problem about sex in the first date….

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