Sex on the first date??

LEVI

1. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about sex
2. This is my general rule: if the date went well and I want to see the guy again, I avoid sex on the first date. I guess it's just my way of seeing whether he's serious or just in it for the sex. If, on the other hand, the date was just meh and I don't see the relationship going anywhere, I might have sex on the first date. Because if I'm not going to see him again I might as well have some fun.

Oh the possibilities.

Isn't it usually if a date goes well you are rewarded not if it goes bad.

LEVI

I have a friend who is just starting to explore his interest in men. He told be the difference between women and men are.

Women want to date first, then have sex.
Men want to have sex first, then date.

Minerboh80

@LEVI:

I have a friend who is just starting to explore his interest in men. He told be the difference between women and men are.

Women want to date first, then have sex.
Men want to have sex first, then date.

:true:

bonerrs

I tend to wait until after the 2nd date, at least. Mostly, it's a feeling of how we are clicking. I've been successfully woo'ed :cheers: but I also enjoy a modestly paced dating game. I like the chase for a time. I think everybody does. Not game playing, but just the excitement of meeting someone new and all that that entails.

mcmxc1983

Yes, I always start with sex, if it works then next date

Minerboh80

@mcmxc1983:

Yes, I always start with sex, if it works then next date

Interesting turn of events there. :cheesy2:

drawls2010

I guess sex on the first date is fine, but I wouldn't use it as a barometer to pursue a relationship other than a sex-based one. From my experience, sex on the first date has led to either: 1. unsuccessful attempts at a relationship (having realized over time that the two of you are not compatible outside of sex) or 2. awful sexual encounters (which primarily occurs through meeting someone from the internet for the first time– mystery grab bag sex, lol).

Minerboh80

:true:

YORCH32

sex before the first date is better

MrMazda

I guess for me it's not exactly a cut and dry thing. The biggest factor involved would definitely be the chemistry between me and the other person. There are some people that at first sight, the primal animal instinct kicks in and the sexual juices start flowing. For other people on the other hand, I find it better to go a little slower and take my time before just rushing into bed. It's really hard to say actually…

juankaaa

Sure!!

eurostud29

@rickydrexel:

I've been going on a lot of dates lately, trying to find Mr. Right, and a lot of the guys have been seriously fucking HOT!!! To me, first impressions are everything, and although I love sex, and am a huge freak, I don't want to come off as a total whore. So I pose 2 questions today.

1. Is talking about sex on the first date inappropriate
2. How long do you wait before having sex when you're looking for a steady mate/ dating? $:-\$

Thanks in advance for your input.

1. For finding Mr. Right, probably sex is not the first topic that comes to ming
2. Physical attraction and sex is important, so I would say things should lead to it around date three or so.

jammyau

Yes sex on first saves a lot of time. I happen to be lucky to have sex on very first date with man twice of age and we've been living together for the past 6 years now and apart from smaller bumps life is just great. I hope and pray for everyone else to find their perfect life partners. Having sex with a person you love is just amazing or at least what I think

portokall

If I ready I can do sex in first time

jrsite55

I don't see any problem about sex in the first date….

Minerboh80

:angel2:

musclejizz 0

@thekingdom:

1. I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about sex
2. This is my general rule: if the date went well and I want to see the guy again, I avoid sex on the first date. I guess it's just my way of seeing whether he's serious or just in it for the sex. If, on the other hand, the date was just meh and I don't see the relationship going anywhere, I might have sex on the first date. Because if I'm not going to see him again I might as well have some fun.

Ditto.
1. It's important to talk about sex. Discuss number of partners, how recently they were tested, results of the testing, favorite positions, turn ons, ect ect….If talking about it gets you both "hot", wonderful. If talking about it can help give you both an idea to make sure you're both being safe, great!
2. I also avoid sex on the first date and this may be my personal opinion....but a lot of gay guys are really sexually charged. Many of them just want to be with me because they think "OH! you're gay. I'm gay....we both like dicks, haven't had any action in a while...let's FUCK!" I've been in relationships where the guy just wanted me for sex and the second I realized this, I ended it. I'm looking for a long term relationship with someone to love and someone I can count on, not some fling. Plus I'm paranoid about catching an STI and having mushrooms grow all over my dick......once that happens...GAME OVER. :afr:

pizcatote

@jrsite55:

I don't see any problem about sex in the first date….

Neither do I.

lockedbashed

need a date first :-X

whoreduck

Why not, I have a friends for nice and long talks,and if I want a bf beside the psychic understanding we need to be compatible in bed. So, he must be good enough to go to date with him and if he pass that I need to check him in bed ;D everything after comes itself ;D Maybe it looks cruel but it's seems to be good for me. Last guy I check like that is still with me, 9yrs :hug2: