Looking for friends

[raphjd]

If you could describe the problems you are having, you would probably get more and better advice.

[juancho]

@Mattb7540:

Ok so I have been looking for friends around the world for some time and I am having a few problems.

Tried Gay.Com and gaydar and yeilded very few results.

I wonder if anyone has some advice?

describe what you want in details, that way, people can give their ideas/advice well.

what kind of friend are you looking for? general? only gays?

what is your purpose?

what have you done, so far? what happened?

what were you expecting to happen? what do you want to happen?

any particular requirement/s for this friend or friends?

just some questions to help you organize your thoughts.

[Hobbestails]

Just meet them at the normal places you meet people. Doesn't matter if they're gay or not. They're still friends. Go to church, parks, parties, etc.

[trentreviso]

I think it's difficult to meet people, on-line or otherwise.

Gay.com is pretty aggressive. I got the impression that only guys wanting to have sex are on there.

You might try the personals on Craigslist. There are sections for romantic relationships, or just "platonic" friendship. Also, you can focus on people in your own city.

[nagysanci]

I have rather interesting experiences about friendship. Friends, or rather, making firiends is much more limited for gay people thatn for heterosexuals. Believe it or not, most of my fiends are straight women. My bf and I tried making friends with gays, but the problem was that the mere possibility of sex was always there in the air. We agreed that sexual relationship kills friendship - unless your sex partner is your beloved one. If there is no sex among gay "friends" then you always fantasize about his size, how he would kiss, etc.

With straight guys the problem was always that they either did not want to hear about gay issues which come up every day or most of them was scared that we had a sexual desire for them and we had to expain all the time.

Women are OK. I, for example, have a female colleague, and she says she likes being together with me because she "does not have to play the role of the woman." Many times she talks to me about things which she would not dare to discuss with her female friends (e.g. her sexual fantasies), or we just walk in the park during lunch break and watch men together and talk about them, discuss whether we wouldlike to have sex with him, etc.

[garjr71]

i don't think sexuality should come in between friendship
i.e. if i want to befriend someone i won't ask about his sexuality
its always better to keep sex and friendship on different sides

talking about sex with your friends is differnt though

maybe things change after coming out, dunno

~rR

[baduy]

me, sex and love are needed most. Quite frankly, if only love without sex, boring death. Contrast only sex without love is very sad … by the time I will be tired by the game stuffs (sex) so. Should both the song is the best ::)

[juancho]

@nagysanci:

My bf and I tried making friends with gays, but the problem was that the mere possibility of sex was always there in the air.

while it is true that there is always a possibility for sex among friends (even in hetero friends), friends can always work to keep the tension this situation brings from hurting the friendship. that's one of the challenges friends must work hard together to overcome. then and only then can you become more comfortable with each other and the friendship that you share.

@nagysanci:

We agreed that sexual relationship kills friendship - unless your sex partner is your beloved one.

this is not entirely true. of course, i'm only basing my opinion on this issue using my experiences and that of my friends but this issue would depend entirely on you and your friends. this would depend on how you view sex and sex with your friends.

once you get over that initial awkwardness after that first sexual encounter, you'll realize that there's no sense throwing away a good friendship just because you helped each other get off. isn't that what friends are for? help each other?  >:D after a good conversation with my friends, we realized that we have bonded even more. we have grown even closer and we would like to help each other more (in more ways than one).  >:D

the problem, i think, lies on the fact that religion demonized sex and attached a great sense of guilt with it. this has been used over the centuries to control people and this has been inculcated in us. just like any obstacles in life, we can overcome this and who better to help you on your journey to freedom than the friends who love you?

BUT, if this isn't your idea of friends and friendship, then don't force it. this WILL destroy your friendship.

@nagysanci:

If there is no sex among gay "friends" then you always fantasize about his size, how he would kiss, etc.

true but you're a rational being. there's a healthy dose of fantasizing and then there's you being controlled by your urges (instead of the other way around). it's just basically you, really.

@nagysanci:

Women are OK. I, for example, have a female colleague, and she says she likes being together with me because she "does not have to play the role of the woman." Many times she talks to me about things which she would not dare to discuss with her female friends (e.g. her sexual fantasies), or we just walk in the park during lunch break and watch men together and talk about them, discuss whether we wouldlike to have sex with him, etc.

it's because you have (more or less) similar taste in gender. who the better to understand your need to hang a half-naked poster of channing tatum on your bedroom wall and apply foundation? hehehe…

i'm only half-joking with these last statements.  :cheesy2:

[mcmxc1983]

come to gayromeo

[stranger2you]

I recommend you Okcupid.com (found my partner on that site two years ago) and Scruff app (met my best friend there 3 years ago).

[addic2porn]

Try planetromeo.com

[alveer]

yes

[wesleyrayne]

any issues please feel free to pm me? have a great day bro

[wesleyrayne]

@trentreviso:

I think it's difficult to meet people, on-line or otherwise.

Gay.com is pretty aggressive. I got the impression that only guys wanting to have sex are on there.

You might try the personals on Craigslist. There are sections for romantic relationships, or just "platonic" friendship. Also, you can focus on people in your own city.

i agree sex is always in the air, and making platonic friends is quite difficult. i agree with the Craigslist idea that would be the way to go

[lf4317]

Finding friends is tough!

[vaylon 0]

Why all over the world?

[77Tubigan]

looking for friends around the world

[Attivan]

I would try posting on boards about any hobbies you have. Would be a lot easier finding a friend with similar interests rather than just looking for "a gay friend"