Looking for friends

juancho

My bf and I tried making friends with gays, but the problem was that the mere possibility of sex was always there in the air.

while it is true that there is always a possibility for sex among friends (even in hetero friends), friends can always work to keep the tension this situation brings from hurting the friendship. that's one of the challenges friends must work hard together to overcome. then and only then can you become more comfortable with each other and the friendship that you share.

@nagysanci:

We agreed that sexual relationship kills friendship - unless your sex partner is your beloved one.

this is not entirely true. of course, i'm only basing my opinion on this issue using my experiences and that of my friends but this issue would depend entirely on you and your friends. this would depend on how you view sex and sex with your friends.

once you get over that initial awkwardness after that first sexual encounter, you'll realize that there's no sense throwing away a good friendship just because you helped each other get off. isn't that what friends are for? help each other? >:D after a good conversation with my friends, we realized that we have bonded even more. we have grown even closer and we would like to help each other more (in more ways than one). >:D

the problem, i think, lies on the fact that religion demonized sex and attached a great sense of guilt with it. this has been used over the centuries to control people and this has been inculcated in us. just like any obstacles in life, we can overcome this and who better to help you on your journey to freedom than the friends who love you?

BUT, if this isn't your idea of friends and friendship, then don't force it. this WILL destroy your friendship.

@nagysanci:

If there is no sex among gay "friends" then you always fantasize about his size, how he would kiss, etc.

true but you're a rational being. there's a healthy dose of fantasizing and then there's you being controlled by your urges (instead of the other way around). it's just basically you, really.

@nagysanci:

Women are OK. I, for example, have a female colleague, and she says she likes being together with me because she "does not have to play the role of the woman." Many times she talks to me about things which she would not dare to discuss with her female friends (e.g. her sexual fantasies), or we just walk in the park during lunch break and watch men together and talk about them, discuss whether we wouldlike to have sex with him, etc.

it's because you have (more or less) similar taste in gender. who the better to understand your need to hang a half-naked poster of channing tatum on your bedroom wall and apply foundation? hehehe…

i'm only half-joking with these last statements. :cheesy2:

mcmxc1983

come to gayromeo

stranger2you

I recommend you Okcupid.com (found my partner on that site two years ago) and Scruff app (met my best friend there 3 years ago).

addic2porn

Try planetromeo.com

alveer

yes

wesleyrayne

any issues please feel free to pm me? have a great day bro

wesleyrayne

@trentreviso:

I think it's difficult to meet people, on-line or otherwise.

Gay.com is pretty aggressive. I got the impression that only guys wanting to have sex are on there.

You might try the personals on Craigslist. There are sections for romantic relationships, or just "platonic" friendship. Also, you can focus on people in your own city.

i agree sex is always in the air, and making platonic friends is quite difficult. i agree with the Craigslist idea that would be the way to go

lf4317

Finding friends is tough!

vaylon 0

Why all over the world?

77Tubigan

looking for friends around the world

Attivan

I would try posting on boards about any hobbies you have. Would be a lot easier finding a friend with similar interests rather than just looking for "a gay friend"