How old were you
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When I was 17, to my family, and they were fine with it
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17… keep in mind that was in Brazil at a time where it wasn't as accepting as today (10 years ago).
I'm sure mom knew it but didn't think much of it until I started sneaking out to meet with a "friend" and one night I came home beaten up with bruises. My first boyfriend was very insecure about his sexuality and was physically abusive. He already had me locked up in a room for a whole day before, but the beating was sort of the end. Mom saw through what was happening and confronted me about it.
I was honest and she didn't take it very well at first, tried to convince me to try to be "straight" and find a nice girl... when I said that was not a possibility, she tried bribing me with a new car that was supposed to help me with the girls.
A year later she ended up accepting me and apologized for her past behaviour, explaining that she didn't know any gay couples at the time and that my first same-sex relationship being so abusive was really scary for her.
She became a huge ally and I still got to keep the car after that... :laugh:
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17… keep in mind that was in Brazil at a time where it wasn't as accepting as today (10 years ago).
I'm sure mom knew it but didn't think much of it until I started sneaking out to meet with a "friend" and one night I came home beaten up with bruises. My first boyfriend was very insecure about his sexuality and was physically abusive. Mom saw through what was happening and confronted me about it.
I was honest and she didn't take it very well at first, tried to convince me to try to be "straight" and find a nice girl... when I said that was not a possibility, she tried bribing me with a new car that was supposed to help me with the girls.
A year later she ended up accepting me and apologized for her past behaviour, explaining that she didn't know any gay couples at the time and that my first same-sex relationship being so abusive was really scary for her.
She became a huge ally and I still got to keep the car after that... :laugh:
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34. Came out to my family two months ago. Came out to "myself" back in December.
Still not out to my friends yet. I'll probably come out to one of them pretty soon.
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I was 17, it was the first time I really fell in love with someone and I had to "cry it out". I told my brother first, then my mom and finally my dad and all of them took it pretty well… I guess they already knew it and they were just waiting for me to come out. My friends knew it too in that moment and they took it well, as well. I have never felt rejected by my friends or family. I was lucky, I know many people can't feel the same way.
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I came out at 23. i am 50 now.
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Went to my first gay bar a few blocks away at 15, and the bartender would only let me get one drink. Brought Mom the second time and whatever she said worked to get at least three drinks a night and he kept the worst cases away from me. Never had to hide from Mom, but never really felt it was something to tell anyone else anything about. At least half of my family were pretty much not supportive or simply did not know.
15, I guess.
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28
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24 to my parents.
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Never have yet to parents, but I think I came out online on Facebook during high school.. Sometime when I was 16. Then in college, I felt more comfortable with my sexuality and didn't need to "come out" anymore, was just myself.
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26
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I never know how to answer that question because I think it is more complicated than that.
For instance, I have already told some very close relatives, most people at work know, my social media postings are frequently on articles relating to LGBT topics so I am knowingly not hiding the fact, but I still do not consider myself out.
Maybe in my head coming out means no exceptions, no pretense etc
If you're asking when was the first time that I as an adult let someone who is not gay know that I am gay, I guess when I was about 27-28.
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The first time I told someone other than the men i had slept with was when I was 23. I'm 28 now and still only a small handful of people know
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I came out on my 26th B-day
lost my cherry on my 21st B-day -
20, but slept with some guys when I was 19
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I was 22, and I had just started my first gay relationship a month and half ago, talk me about burning bridges.
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I was 15. On a high school band outing, I had told someone (who I thought was a friend) in secret, and she proceeded to blab to other people in the band. So, I decided to be proactive and just tell the whole school myself, since it was gonna get out anyway. This way, I could control the narrative. 33 now.
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@gustin Please, let me know if you need any kind of support.
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28 still not out yet
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