My boyfriend cheated on me. What should I do?
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take his tooth brush and wipe your butthole with it.
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Yeah mine cheated and once a cheater always a cheater. Period. Maybe there is a 1% that learn but I went back to my boyfriend and he promised not to do it, only to cheat 2 weeks later.
I ended up being in an open relationship and it was probably one of the hardest things to accept in my life.
It's not worth it. If you want monogamy then go look for it.
Cheating is not just cheating, it's lying and it's disrespectful. It's like spitting on your relationship. Not worth it. Leave him no matter how hard it is.
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I am 40. It may be a difference. I discover my sexuality in 80s, in the deep countryside of France. It may be a difference.
I live with my husband since 14 years.For my generation, there is no cheating in relationship between 2 men. It's our history, all these years passed in the shadow : we have a different vision of sex. Sex and love are 2 things totally differents. You can have sex with a man you can't love, and you can love a man you don't have sex with him !
If my husband have sex with an other man and take pleasure, I am happy for him ! The Jealousy is SOOO heterosexual !!!
But, maybe you are young. Maybe you never know the time when just being gay is a fellony. Maybe for your generation, cheating is a fellony.
All I can say is that your answer is in your heart and your mind. My answer is : "there is no cheating" !
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^ love this post.
but still, it's all about the agreement. polygamy is ok, if it's agreed by both (or more :P) parties.
if they both agreed to be in a committed relationship, than there is a matter of betrayed trust.
for the people seeking exclusive relationships, that can be harsh.
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^ love this post.
but still, it's all about the agreement. polygamy is ok, if it's agreed by both (or more :P) parties.
if they both agreed to be in a committed relationship, than there is a matter of betrayed trust.
for the people seeking exclusive relationships, that can be harsh.
Such things.. should always be clarified from the beginning..
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Same happened to me…
It's a long story but, to summarize it: I catched him talking to his ex-fuck buddy saying stuff like let's meet, I was thinking about you kind of things then I talked to him about it. He denied, he sugar-coated it somehow but I was stuck in the idea and couldn't let go.So I dug deeper and realized there were lots of lies he told me before, he was just not a trustworthy person. But I was still loving him so I just didn't break up and I tried to forgive, really, but once you are betrayed it never just goes away. At least for me, it didn't.
I have been in your shoes and all I can say is,
Continue if you can forgive what he did and only if you are sure it won't happen again.
My advice is, people just dont change.This is what you have, someone who will go behind you and sleep with other men, if this is what you want yeah go with it.But first, be sure about what happened. Dont give your relationship a death sentence without knowing everything, so basically just talk it out and be totally honest and upfront.
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Kill him girl( not really)Â :cool2:
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There are all kinds of relationships.
They are all voluntary.If you don't want to be involved with someone that is not monogamous, then it looks like you found the wrong guy.
If you can live with him being polyamorous, then keep going.
Don't let others tell you what to do. It's your relationship, and your choice.
Only you can make it, and only you have to live with that decision.Oh and yeah, get tested.
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leave him.
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Well, I dunno..but you can do these:
If you really love him, don't bring out that you went through his phone, but rather say that he seems kinda distant to you and you are not sure what is going on. Maybe he just wants to fire something up by just messaging someone, so at the end of the day he needs something else. So you can talk to him and maybe suggest doing something and take the relationship to another level. And from his answers you may even find out what he wants.
You could closely watch him and if you wanna "catch him" in the act (if he is really cheating on you).
Or, you can distance yourself and make him question your relationship, which may not be such a bad idea, coz either he will run after you to keep you or he'll just continue what he does, but then again you'll have your answers and whether or not was worth it. -
Don't let others tell you what to do. It's your relationship, and your choice.
Only you can make it, and only you have to live with that decision.Great point!
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dump him
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Install a keylogger on the pc without him knowing and see what comes up.
If you don't share anything like that,try to follow him and check on what he says.
If he says he's gonna be working until late,go check on him and bring him something like a soda or a sandwich,you need a valid excuse or he'll instantly realize you know.
Before confronting him,be very sure that he's cheating,otherwise he'll either start being very careful and you'll never know,or he'll be offended by baseless accusations. -
Cheating is doing anything behind your partners back. If you feel uncomfortable about it now then you need to make a choice now. You cannot change people - accept him for who he is and if you can live with that then go.
I made the mistake of making my ex promise me but at the end of the day, noone really changes. You have to accept it or leave it.
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What do the texts say?
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dump him. or talk and say that you will allow him to have sex with other people with your permission. if you know that your partner is having sex with other people and they have gotten your consent that it is fine.
it is not ok when they have sex with other people with telling you. if they were in love with you that would bring up the conversation to get your consent and your opinion.
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Do you honestly feel if you approached him / confronted him about cheating that he would tell you the truth? Get real.
ONCE A CHEATER ALWAYS A CHEATER…ONCE A LIAR ALWAYS A LIAR! and do you think that if he says "yes, I cheated on you but will never do it again honey" that you could honestly trust him. Once the trust is broken it is almost impossible to get that trust back. Think about it,
if he called you and said, "babe I am running about an hour late coming home from work today" what would be running through your mind, if he said I need to run an errand and it took forever...what would you be thinking? You are the only one hurting yourself and causing yourself grief by staying in the relationship. RUN RUN RUN or KICK HIS ASS TO THE CURB! It's not worth it! -
Cheating is doing anything behind your partners back. If you feel uncomfortable about it now then you need to make a choice now. You cannot change people - accept him for who he is and if you can live with that then go.
I made the mistake of making my ex promise me but at the end of the day, noone really changes. You have to accept it or leave it.
Promises are quite often just promises..
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Install a keylogger on the pc without him knowing and see what comes up.
that is a criminal offense in most of the civilized world.
the lengths people go to avoid talking to each other, geez. -
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