Coming out
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When it comes to religion and coming out, I'm sure there are places far worse than mine for coming out… A Roman Catholic highschool ( hxxp://resurrection.wcdsb.ca/ in particular) isn't exactly the best place for coming out. All things considered, they finally saw things my way when I had my way with them with the courts. The short version is after coming out, I was continually getting jumped at my locker and on school property. After a few times of this happening, I finally stopped holding back and did some serious damage.
I sent one kid to the hospital with a concussion because he tried to jump me from behind at my locker, which resulted in him getting a face full of locker. The second kid that day didn't fare too well either. I managed to break one of their fingers, while at the same time fracturing a bone in the wrist. In my defense, I did not attack the gay bashers... When they attacked me, I merely just re-directed their swings towards the largest, most solid object I could find at the time.
The short version of how that ended was I had enough and got suspended three times for acts of violence in the school, while the bullies that were attacking me got off scott free. I had enough of this so I was daring enough to walk into the principle's office with a cell phone and tell her straight up how things were going to go down and that if she didn't like the way my rules work, she can answer to the police... The result: The Vice Principal that suspended me was hauled out of the office in cuffs, and the principal of that school magically never went back after the police investigation was complete.
The only one good thing about my coming out was that it resulted in the Safe & Secure Schools act, which on the most part (aside from a couple flat out stupid things) actually protects the students, leaving the administration accountable for the well being of all students. The difference is that now a school administration team can be held criminally responsible in the event that something happens to a student, regardless of whether or not the administration team had any knowledge of the subject. That was because in my case, one administrator claimed to have no knowledge, and the other failed to do anything about the situation before it resulted in a hospital trip.
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It's sad how sometimes someone has to get hurt first (other times several someones) before people get off their asses. I think officials/administrators have to take responsibility for the entire campus.
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The sad truth is that a lot of people can't really be bothered with such things because they have a "more important" schedule to keep, or otherwise want things their way. In these cases, it's unfortunate that something has to happen before anyone will do anything about it.
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From the story of MrMazda I'm gathering that the schools do not view 1 sided assault as a crime but when the victim decide to defend himself it becomes 1 ?
what kind of logic is that?But look on the bright side. You used the most eye popping way to force the school to change it's attitude.
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Simple. Two thoughts:
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he fought them off, so he must have started it.
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he fought better, so he must be violent. so let's suspend the violent guy.
I love school administrators' blinding logic and intellect.
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That's pretty much it in a nutshell… The kids that pick on other kids, especially bullying and trying to beat them up, can do so all they want, that's no problem according to the way the schools used to work until me... On the other hand, if the kid that they're trying to beat up fights back to defend themselves, they get suspended or otherwise penalized for acts of violence, when the ones who have been doing it for a loooooong time (who have been complained about multiple times) just get brushed off the administrator's shoulders like nothing is wrong.
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someone should bend them over and… spank them! hehehe
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Funny how I have started this topic hoping one day I would be able to come out to everyone and up to this point, I have only come out to a very secluded group of people which includes some gay people like me. One of them told me I was "one of the straightest gay" she has ever seen, i.e. I have done exceptionally well to cover my sexuality. Even though I have never gone out with a girl, no one has a slightest suspicion that I'm gay and question it. It has been like my second nature where I can sway any question on my sexuality to another topic smoothly and instantly. In exchange, I keep my secret safe and do not break any foolish girls' hearts. However, thanks to that, I have also excluded myself from also anything relating to the gay community where I live. That group of friends I mentioned is not even very close to me so I don't usually go out with them either.
How could I ever meet a gay guy and go out with him if I never visit a gay club? Or even talking about how handsome someone is to anybody else? Thanks to my cover, no one would ever think to introduce to any gay friend of theirs. At the moment, I'm excluded from the gay community and live in lies in the straight community. I'm stuck and very upset sometimes. I determine not to go out to any girls to pretend I'm straight since it's just too cruel for her, but it's very, very lonely at times. Sghhh…. -
you're here in GayTorrents, so I assume you have a profile on some other gay networking sites? If so, you can easily find a group of like-minded gays to hang out with from time to time.
You'd be surprised how welcoming a lot of us are. -
… I had my first feeling towards guys when I was 13 or 14 but didn't find it that disturbing at that time.
Thought it might be a phase I'm going through but wasn't to worried if it wouldn't.With 15 I left home and spent most of the time at the boarding school. At 16 I had my first gay sex expierience.
At 17 I joined a local gay rights group. The same year I planned to come out to my parents, but then my brother died
in an accident and I postponed it.Finally at 18 i came out to my parents. First to my mom who was actually relieved when I told her.
She thought I was in trouble cause I looked so stern. She told me she's not really happy because every parent wishes it's child the easieest an happiest life possible, to look after myself and have a happy life.
It took her another two years to be totally relaxed about my homosexuality.My father was next and this was far more easier then I expected.
He was absolutley relaxed about me being gay. He cherrished the new openness between us.
We sat down at the kitchen table and talked and drank all night.
One of the best nights of my life.I reallly love my parents for their education and their openness that made it so easy for me to find out who I am.
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sounds like a good story. now if only our culture (philippines) didn't have so many stories about beating the gay out of someone (literally) i wouldn't be so paranoid about it.
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hi guys!!!
i'm a new member of this community and i like it very much!!
i realized of being gay a little later than you, i was about 21 when i first noticed i was interested in boys. I had just ended a relationship with a girl that had lasted for three years, and when I started again to look around I realized that the boys made me a certain effect. i started dating with some guys, nut it was just sex, and I had not talked to any of my sexual tastes, until about a year ago, when I started an affair with one stuard (uniforms fascinate me a lot!) and I decided to talk about that with my best friends. for me it was hard to talk about but they reacted very well! in the months after I came out of the closet with other friends and now almost all of my friends know. all of them reacted very well and I am very happy to be able to talk to them openly without having to pretend.
the problem for me is to talk to my parents and my family. Now I'm 26 and I'm proud of who I am, I'm tired of having to lie and pretend and I am more and more determined to talk with them. the only thing that keeps me from doing it is the doubt of their reaction. they never made homophobic speeches or anything, in fact they have always shown respect towards homosexuals, but I fear that this behavior can be just a facade. probably I think these things just because I'm afraid of their reaction and in reality, things will be much easier than i think!
can you give me some advice on how to approach the subject with them? -
I think the hardest thing any Gay Man has to do is Come Out to his parents. Hard to imagine the results and judge reactions and none of us want to disappoint our parents.
I came out in 1973 in an age where no one would think of doing such a thing as openly admit to being Gay. My Mother really struggled with this fact of my life. There was trouble early on but within the year she and I were back to our selves and in fact better than before I came out. I was finally able to be the real Michael.
Have courage and faith that all will be well even if it takes some time. However, be prepared for other possibilities. :hug:
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I spent until I was 18 afraid to come out, when I told my parent in tears. they laughed and told me it was about time I came out to them.. whew
wish others had it easy. ??? :cry2: :love: :blink: :cheers:
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I realised that i am gay when i was fullfilling my military service and met him!
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I realised that i am gay when i was fullfilling my military service and met him!
Did the feelings last?
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