Who is the best person to come out to ?
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I haven't done it so I can't exactly say who's best…
But from what several people have told me, coming out to females is usually much easier than straight males. The latter might lose respect to you far more easier.
Of course, in the end it all depends on the personalities of people. If you know she (or he, if you choose male) is NOT anti-LGBT or does not exhibit homophobic traits, then that might be the best person to do it first. Even better if she/he is an outspoken LGBT supporter. -
it should be someone who you trust very much, do it only if you are sure to tell
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.. came out to my best friend and he understood and accepted me .. Only the ones closes to me knows who I am. :cool2:
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While of course nobody can answer this for you, I can tell you about my situation.
I first came out to a friend who was bi that had moved away when we were talking on the phone. He said something about knowing he makes me uncomfortable and I told him that I myself had played with other guys.Then in college I was taking adderall with a friend, and after being up all night talking, I came out to him. He was pretty cool about it, though we lost touch when I left that school.
When some guy was threatening me, I told my best friend. He was only upset that I didn't tell him earlier. (Difficult to do if somebody uses the term faggot a lot. Still my best friend to this day, years later).
When I was depressed after some relationship issues, I came out to my dad. I told him I would rather kill myself than be gay, but that I thought I was bi. He told me he loves me no matter what. I'm prettttyy damn gay ha.
Then I came out to my oldest brother, then my sisters, then finally my mom. I had a hard time trusting my mom with the "secret" because she is an alcoholic with the tendency to gossip or throw things in your face.
In the end, with my best friends and family are on my side, I felt comfortable admitting I'm gay.
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Your parents.
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A close friend
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Great question.
I only came out as bi to my therapist. If you are currently visiting one, that'd be the best option.
Telling someone who's very close could be good as well, as long as you know they wouldn't mind (or at least it wouldn't affect your relationship in a negative way).
I'd put family in a 3rd degree, not for bad reasons, but, even though they are tolerant and stuff, after you tell them, things may change, so I guess you gotta be really cool with yourself to do this. -
This is a complex question, and the answer I'm afraid I can't give you as it's something you yourself have to do.
Yeah reading other people's coming out stories is nice and wanting tips and such is also good, but at the end of the day, this is your life and your body.
Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
Just find a good support system and friends.
If you are scared of how family might think, I also am in the firm belief that if you are a grown adult, you don't have to justify that stuff to your parents/family anyways.
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For me, it was easiest to come out to my closest friend because one of them was a Lesbian and she more than understood me.
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thanks guys for all your stories, and suggestions,
I came out to my best friend, he felt weird at first, but things are better now
next step, my parents, wish me luck
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