<![CDATA[Who is the best person to come out to ?]]>I was thinking about this a lot, and I though I should ask someone else

do you think its best to come out to your mom, dad or brothers
or start with straight friends ? they may understand you more

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/29254/who-is-the-best-person-to-come-out-toRSS for NodeWed, 08 Apr 2026 09:07:58 GMTSat, 24 Dec 2016 20:24:02 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Fri, 17 Mar 2017 18:26:58 GMT]]>thanks guys for all your stories, and suggestions,
I came out to my best friend, he felt weird at first, but things are better now
next step, my parents, wish me luck

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/207048https://community.gaytor.rent/post/207048Fri, 17 Mar 2017 18:26:58 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sat, 04 Feb 2017 15:26:52 GMT]]>For me, it was easiest to come out to my closest friend because one of them was a Lesbian and she more than understood me.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/201306https://community.gaytor.rent/post/201306Sat, 04 Feb 2017 15:26:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Wed, 01 Feb 2017 00:34:07 GMT]]>This is a complex question, and the answer I'm afraid I can't give you as it's something you yourself have to do.

Yeah reading other people's coming out stories is nice and wanting tips and such is also good, but at the end of the day, this is your life and your body.

Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable.

Just find a good support system and friends.

If you are scared of how family might think, I also am in the firm belief that if you are a grown adult, you don't have to justify that stuff to your parents/family anyways.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200848https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200848Wed, 01 Feb 2017 00:34:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Tue, 31 Jan 2017 19:12:42 GMT]]>Great question.
I only came out as bi to my therapist. If you are currently visiting one, that'd be the best option.
Telling someone who's very close could be good as well, as long as you know they wouldn't mind (or at least it wouldn't affect your relationship in a negative way).
I'd put family in a 3rd degree, not for bad reasons, but, even though they are tolerant and stuff, after you tell them, things may change, so I guess you gotta be really cool with yourself to do this.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200831https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200831Tue, 31 Jan 2017 19:12:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Thu, 26 Jan 2017 18:01:56 GMT]]>A close friend

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200272https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200272Thu, 26 Jan 2017 18:01:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Wed, 25 Jan 2017 06:28:48 GMT]]>Your parents.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200108https://community.gaytor.rent/post/200108Wed, 25 Jan 2017 06:28:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 23 Jan 2017 17:41:43 GMT]]>While of course nobody can answer this for you, I can tell you about my situation.
I first came out to a friend who was bi that had moved away when we were talking on the phone. He said something about knowing he makes me uncomfortable and I told him that I myself had played with other guys.

Then in college I was taking adderall with a friend, and after being up all night talking, I came out to him. He was pretty cool about it, though we lost touch when I left that school.

When some guy was threatening me, I told my best friend. He was only upset that I didn't tell him earlier. (Difficult to do if somebody uses the term faggot a lot. Still my best friend to this day, years later).

When I was depressed after some relationship issues, I came out to my dad. I told him I would rather kill myself than be gay, but that I thought I was bi. He told me he loves me no matter what. I'm prettttyy damn gay ha.

Then I came out to my oldest brother, then my sisters, then finally my mom. I had a hard time trusting my mom with the "secret" because she is an alcoholic with the tendency to gossip or throw things in your face.

In the end, with my best friends and family are on my side, I felt comfortable admitting I'm gay.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199933https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199933Mon, 23 Jan 2017 17:41:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 22 Jan 2017 23:05:51 GMT]]>.. came out to my best friend and he understood and accepted me .. Only the ones closes to me knows who I am.  :cool2:

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199864https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199864Sun, 22 Jan 2017 23:05:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 22 Jan 2017 21:57:36 GMT]]>it should be someone who you trust very much, do it only if you are sure to tell

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199854https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199854Sun, 22 Jan 2017 21:57:36 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 22 Jan 2017 20:29:31 GMT]]>I haven't done it so I can't exactly say who's best…
But from what several people have told me, coming out to females is usually much easier than straight males. The latter might lose respect to you far more easier.
Of course, in the end it all depends on the personalities of people. If you know she (or he, if you choose male) is NOT anti-LGBT or does not exhibit homophobic traits, then that might be the best person to do it first. Even better if she/he is an outspoken LGBT supporter.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199836https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199836Sun, 22 Jan 2017 20:29:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 22 Jan 2017 16:24:13 GMT]]>Does anyone know you are gay?  I actually think it's better to come out to someone you don't know very well at first.  It helps to get you used to that feeling.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199828https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199828Sun, 22 Jan 2017 16:24:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 22 Jan 2017 13:09:27 GMT]]>Best friend

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199814https://community.gaytor.rent/post/199814Sun, 22 Jan 2017 13:09:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 09 Jan 2017 21:16:01 GMT]]>I chose a cousin close enough to help boost my confidence if she accepted me, but not that close so it wouldn't break me if she didn't… then it was my best friend, then my sis (the person I'm closest to) and then my mom

maybe my "method" is not the best option there but it worked for me. I think a close friend might be the safest choice for you.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/198113https://community.gaytor.rent/post/198113Mon, 09 Jan 2017 21:16:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Fri, 06 Jan 2017 15:16:51 GMT]]>@slimsf888:

There is no one answer - it depends on the person.  One person's mom might be totally cool, another might throw you out of the house.  Same with siblings, friends, etc.

I agree..

::)

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/197682https://community.gaytor.rent/post/197682Fri, 06 Jan 2017 15:16:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 01 Jan 2017 06:34:43 GMT]]>There is no one answer - it depends on the person.  One person's mom might be totally cool, another might throw you out of the house.  Same with siblings, friends, etc.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/196900https://community.gaytor.rent/post/196900Sun, 01 Jan 2017 06:34:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 26 Dec 2016 15:57:13 GMT]]>Yourself.

Then your hag.  :cheesy2:

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195988https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195988Mon, 26 Dec 2016 15:57:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 26 Dec 2016 12:27:54 GMT]]>I think to your closest friend

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195971https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195971Mon, 26 Dec 2016 12:27:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 26 Dec 2016 09:37:25 GMT]]>I first came out to a female close friend…Not sure why, but I find coming out to females easier. I did come out to several straight guy friends eventually, but yeah I started with a female close friend first.

I don't know abt you but in my community, tolerance towards LGBT is still very low...So coming out to a family member is not an option to me since most of them won't accept it.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195958https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195958Mon, 26 Dec 2016 09:37:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 26 Dec 2016 04:26:31 GMT]]>A gay sibling is always a great option…if you have one, that is.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195947https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195947Mon, 26 Dec 2016 04:26:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Mon, 26 Dec 2016 03:59:22 GMT]]>Yourself  :bansex2: :hump: :cum:

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195945https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195945Mon, 26 Dec 2016 03:59:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 25 Dec 2016 22:32:18 GMT]]>I first came out to my female cousin, then to 2 of my closest female friends - all were supportive.

I don't know why, but I feel like opening up to females in general is easier. I can't really explain it, but I just don't feel awkward telling them that. I'd feel very uncomfortable talking 1-on-1 with some of my straight, male friends because I wouldn't really believe they'd understand me. That's why I have never told any of my guy friends that's I'm gay. I'd recommend telling a close female friend/cousin/aunt if you have any.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195913https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195913Sun, 25 Dec 2016 22:32:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 25 Dec 2016 06:20:00 GMT]]>My apologies for the annoying use of quotes - but I wanted to write my own answer but felt this one already captured and reflects the way I felt..

@DanH116:

I can only agree to that! Best advice ever:
@brianboru72:

When I came out it was to my closest friends first. They were the ones who gave me the support and built my confidence so I could come out to my parents- mom first, then dad. Then my brother.

It can be different depending on who you feel closest to. Go with someone who you feel accepts you for who you are. Once you've got someone on your side, it gets easier.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195864https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195864Sun, 25 Dec 2016 06:20:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 25 Dec 2016 01:02:46 GMT]]>I can only agree to that! Best advice ever:
@brianboru72:

When I came out it was to my closest friends first. They were the ones who gave me the support and built my confidence so I could come out to my parents- mom first, then dad. Then my brother.

It can be different depending on who you feel closest to. Go with someone who you feel accepts you for who you are. Once you've got someone on your side, it gets easier.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195849https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195849Sun, 25 Dec 2016 01:02:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Who is the best person to come out to ? on Sun, 25 Dec 2016 00:21:49 GMT]]>Friends you trust enough to tell them and know they'll accept you. If they don't then they're not worthy enough to be your friend.

]]>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195845https://community.gaytor.rent/post/195845Sun, 25 Dec 2016 00:21:49 GMT