Can you be straight and still like gay porn?
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Please believe what I am about to tell you. The answer is an unequivocal and absolute YES. Despite our needs to put everything into neat categories and dichotomies in society to make it easier for us to judge others and make ourselves feel superior- sexuality defies this kind of classification. I do not believe anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay- sexuality is better looked at as falling along a spectrum, just like any other attribute/defining characteristic that can't be genetically/biologically traced, identified, or tested for. I myself am a 30 year old male who came out as gay six years ago. I've been on this site far longer than that, of course. I tried for so long to be straight, or "bi-sexual"- I both dated (and slept with) girls in high school AND in college. My rationalization for not coming out prior to when I did was that since I was physically able to get it up for girls (most of the time) and I enjoyed sex with girls (or at least seemed by all accounts to be good at it), then why should I have to acknowledge the fact that I only watch gay porn and that the thought of hooking up with another guy is my true fantasy? The reason is that I was lying to myself and my attraction to girls/women was completely programmed by societal norms and expectations. Coming out as gay or even bisexual terrified me because it seemed like I would be actively (and perhaps needlessly) making my life SO much more difficult- risk my family no longer loving and supporting me the way they always had, risk my friends abandoning me because I had essentially been lying to them (and myself) for so long and so not only was I going to have to admit I licked dick but also that I had been hiding it from them and "pretending" to like pussy for so long- so I was not only a closeted fag, but a disingenuous one- who wants to be that? To anyone else in this situation, JUST COME OUT. Unless it risks physical harm to you (you have an abusive parent or partner or something who would threaten your life/well-being) than the SOONER you accept it and do it the HAPPIER you will be! TRUST ME. If I could go back in time I would come out in elementary school if I could have- but definitely middle or high school- certainly college. Now I look back and think about how things might have gone if I hadn't chose to wear this mask for so long and just accepted who I was and what my true sexual orientation (not PREFERENCE, ORIENTATION) was. You want to know how to know whether you're mostly gay or straight? I can tell you how. And it has very little to do with what kind of porn you watch (although it is true that most gay men get off to watching two men have sex and most straight men enjoy watching a man and a woman or two women- here's a question I've always wondered- shouldn't straight women also be huge fans of gay man on man porn? You always hear about girls who say they think it's hot, but why isn't it as much of a common factoid as straight men who enjoy watching two women? The same logic should apply to straight women (women who are mostly into dick/men) enjoying watching two men- should it not? Something to think about). Anyways here's how you can tell whether you fall closer to gay or straight on the spectrum. Ready? Lie down on your bed or couch or somewhere comfortable where you are by yourself and are not in a stressful state of mind. Close your eyes and try to relax. Take a few deep breaths until you feel perfectly comfortable, calm, and at ease- like you could probably fall asleep if you wanted to. Then ask yourself this question: "What is your true ultimate fantasy when it comes to sex?" That is, if you were Neo in the Matrix or woke up in a dream in which you could control anything and everything- and thus had the ability to make any scenario a reality- what would you do to get yourself off? If you're a guy, what thought makes your dick so hard you feel like it's going to break off? If you're a girl, what makes you wetter than you've ever been in your life and feel like you're going to go nuts if you don't have something inside you? I'm assuming you're a guy given that you're posting on here and are anxious about what liking or being able to get off to gay porn might mean about your sexual orientation. Like I said, it means very little. The more important question is the one I just suggested you posed to yourself in a state of relaxation (because this will make it more likely that you will be able to be HONEST with yourself, let go of any negative implications and just think about and honestly allow yourself to explore the question of "WHAT WOULD TURN ME ON THE MOST IN THE WORLD/UNIVERSE?)". Ultimately the answer to that question- the real answer- that if you're gay and in the closet you have probably always felt on some level may be true but been too terrified to entertain, especially given that all the men (and women) around you are presumably straight and you don't act or sound gay or speak or move your hands in any flamboyant or manneristic way that is so commonly portrayed in the media as how ALL GAY MEN ACT (we DON'T- if anything we tend to be more masculine than straight men, believe it or not)- will reveal this to you. What it boils down to more than what porn you like most is what is your ultimate fantasy? Does it involve you putting your dick into a woman or a man? Or having a man put his dick inside you? Does the thought of sucking a nice big dick sound hot or disgusting to you? Chances are, if the sight of two men blowing each other, rimming each other, and then fucking each other is what makes it easiest and quickest for you to get hard, jerk yourself off, and climax (aka cum)- then you are probably more gay than straight. What happens when you watch two women going down on eachother? Do you get hard at all? How about a man and a woman fucking? Anything happen down there when you watch that? I know plenty of straight guys who will admit to me that watching two women does absolutely NOTHING for them- even they will admit to me that they just need to see a dick going into a hole- whether it's an ass or a vagina. Some straight guys have even admitted to me that they've fantasized about jerking off with another guy, or letting a guy give them head, or even fucking a guy (most don't fantasize about being fucked, or at least none of the guys I've met who have shared stuff with me have confessed to that). It's even considered normal in developmental psychology for straight boys (boys who will grow up to be primarily heterosexual men- more attracted to women than men) to have at least one isolated homosexual experience in their early teen/adolescent/young adult years. I remember being mad when I read this because this never happened to me- as much as I would have loved if it had- because ALL of the guys I had crushes on throughout my entire childhood and adolescence/young adult life were quintessentially straight-acting and seemingly completely heterosexual boys who had no interest in doing anything sexual with me- and instead were the type who got with a lot of girls and enjoyed bragging about it. I don't know how many times I would get hard hearing these guys telling me about a girl sucking their hard dick until they busted in her face or down her throat or how they fucked a girl so hard they had to put a sock over their mouth to stop them from screaming so loud they woke up their parents. That shit was hot even though they were describing heterosexual sex because just the thought of them having sex was enough to turn me on. So don't get bogged down with worrying about what the porn you watch says about you and try to focus more on deciphering what your ultimate fantasy is- because that's the question that will ultimately help you figure out whether you're more into dick or vagina. If it's the former, it's OK- and you will be OK. If anything, you'll be much happier coming to terms with it- and the sooner you do that the easier it will be on you. Your parents and family members will still love you (if not, they don't truly love you now), your friends will not abandon you (if they do, they were never true friends), and you will be able to stop feeling ashamed of what kind of porn you watch and recognize that it just means something about two guys fucking is hot to you (guess what, it IS hot and you are far from alone in thinking so). So my advice is this: give yourself a break, watch whatever kind of porn you want, andthat don't worry about it's implications for your sexuality. Instead, use the other question to figure that out and once you do, put down the burden of lying to yourself about what DOESN'T turn you on (even if that is women/vagina). Best of luck to you my friend.
I did not know that this was a 1000 word essay test but i do believe you can still be straight even if you watch gay porn. Gay porn isnt just about sex there are other aspects of it that could be appealing to hetero men or women.
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When I've checked out Straight porn it hasn't been the plumbing that turned me off.
The women look artificial. The men might as well be dildos. The two don't seem to be into one another on any level other than the most literal. They just don't look like they're having any fun.
I knew a straight guy who liked gay porn since he could connect to the guys having fun. -
I totally believe there can be a split between who you love and what REALLY turns you on. But my question if I were you is this, if gay porn turns you on so much can you really live your entire life without ever actually experiencing it? Next, if you were to actually experience it and LIKED it, then what? I think the only person who really needs that question answered is you (For the purpose of your original post) If there is some part of you that yearns to feel what they are feeling in the videos you owe it to yourself and any future mates to discover the answer.
I have had flings with DL married men (not intentionally) who went the denial route, got married only to find their curiosity never went away, and once they experienced it they found they would have chosen otherwise. THAT is grossly unfair to the women they married, in many cases kids are now involved - they deprived the woman the chance to make her best decision, and now if they leave she is left to try and find a new mate with 2 or 3 kids jamming up her pimp hand. Bad idea. They also encounter some hostility in the men they encounter, certainly had I known in advance they were married I personally would never have considered them, for all of the reasons already outlined.
The fact you are here asking tells me you likely know what you need to do. Always follow your gut.
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if you are straight male and you jack off to corbin fisher videos then you are not really straight at all.
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by definition, no
sexual attraction to someone of the same gender is being gay
Or in the case of being attracted to both women and men - bisexualSocial stigma is probably the reason for people going: "I am straight, but I like having sex with men"
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All of the mental gymnastics and excuses being given in this thread is hilarious because the answer is flat out NO.
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yes. i only dated girls, but i like bear porn.
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Yeah just because a straight guy watches gay porn and likes it doesn't make him gay. It's more of if he had that personal connection of emotion tied to him when going to about it. Then he would be for sure gay. Like a guy can suck a dick and still be straight. If he he has the feelings and repercussions or so while going about it then yeah he is gay.
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Yeah just because a straight guy watches gay porn and likes it doesn't make him gay. It's more of if he had that personal connection of emotion tied to him when going to about it. Then he would be for sure gay.
I disagree with that part. in my book, if you like gay porn, you are gay. there is no need for "personal connection of emotion"
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I guess it is alright. Sexuality can be confusing sometimes and porn doesnt define your sexuality. I know some straight friends who enjoy to watch it with their girlfriends
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you are bi
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It'll be a nice day when everyone has consensual fun, and the labels don't matter.
It used to be one or the other, with no exceptions. As time and acceptance evolves, we learn more about ourselves. There's heteroromantic, homoromantic and (other)romantic and none has to strictly adhere to what ends up happening between the sheets.
If one is true to oneself, or even at minimum only count one's own opinion of themselves, yes perhaps someone can be (whichlabeltheywant) while looking or participating in (whichconsensualactivity). If nothing else, count it as roleplaying.
Every experience brings a different glitter to the gem we can be.
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I don't really know what to answer… I guess you can't because for a straght guy two guys making love (or just fucking) would not turn them on... just thinking of myself that seeing a woman being fucked doesn't turn me on...
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True, If a man is straight, I don't think they will be turn on, but it's different for a straight woman. My female co-workers doesn't flinch when i let them watch a few minutes of gay men porn and stay away if it is w2w or straight porn.
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It's certainly possible, but less common. I'm gay but I enjoy straight and trans porn here and there.
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That's an interesting question. Growing up, I heard this question posed a number of times. And from what I've heard over the years is that straight women (believe it or not) tend to enjoy watching gay male porn. I never heard any "truly straight man," wanting anything to do with gay porn (at least in my generation). Today, you have all this "gay for pay" bullshit goin' on. I have a hard time believing in that. I think these are men who can't come to terms that they're bi-sexual. No truly heterosexual male will get on camera and do gay shit for pay. Maybe if they're a pot head, they may suck a little dick in private just to get coins to satisfy their habit. That's a bout it.
A straight guy may be curious, bu after seeing it once, they usually don't go back for seconds.
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I need to answer first am I straight? I only really enjoy gay porn, I truly love looking at well proportioned penis's and truly love certain types of cum shots. I have had a beautiful black cock fully inserted in my ass and it was wondrous and I have had several loads delivered to my throat, that too was wondrous. NOW, all that said, I love looking at and enjoy feeling a woman's body. But when I turn on my puter, the first place I g is a gay porn web site to see if there is anything new....
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Human sexuality is such a fluid thing...
Assuming you are a man:- you can look at one man and be incredibly turned on, and find virtually no other man sexually attractive in the least... that doesn't make you gay!
- you can look at one woman and be incredibly turned on, and find virtually no other woman sexually attractive in the least... that doesn't make you straight!
As humans, we strive (both constantly, and futilely) to bring order to our own existence.
But the Universe isn't about order, it's about chaos!
The Kinseys found that there were VERY few men who never EVER found another man sexually attractive; and equally so, they found VERY few men who never EVER found a woman sexually attractive. And the same was found for women.
Interestingly, they found that women were culturally - in the 1950's and 1960's - far more open/receptive to accepting/admitting that they were attracted to something "not standard" for them.
The idea that "to be gay" you have to not (ever) find a woman sexually alluring, and "to be straight" you cannot (ever) find another man to be sexually attractive is purely a social construct.
There ARE rare exceptions (and you may indeed be one of them) - but if you're someone who claims "it's all of one, and none of the other", then you are probably (not definitely, just probably) deceiving yourself!
Statistically speaking, most of us are "fluid" - we have a preference, but we will find exceptions our own "rules"!
As the father of 5 boys, I'll tell you what I've told my children as they have grown:
- If your dick gets hard, you're attracted to it!
That doesn't give you license to ACT on that attraction, but it is what it is and you can't change it! The goal in life is to find someone who makes your dick hard, and for whom you cause the same reaction (clearly, not "their dick being hard" for a woman, but you get the point)....
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