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    Dealing with homophobic friends

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    • J Offline
      JACK777
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      I had some homophobic friends until I realised they were not actually my friends.

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        hean
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        if he is ur best friend, he will understand
        if he doesnt understand ur situation, well, time to dump him… lol

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          wesleyrayne
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          :cry2:

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            JupiterJazz
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            This is a no brainer.

            He is not your friend. Stay the hell away.
            Have some self respect.

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              obras62
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              Growing up I had a homophobic best friend and yet when he found out about me he was okay with it.

              Tell him, if he doesn't accept you, then fine you have one less hater in your life.

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                aadam101
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                He isn't your friend. There are plenty of people who will accept you.  Go be friends with them instead.

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                  wesleyrayne
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                  @tommyboy717:

                  @Sekator:

                  Friend in need is a friend in deed, if he is a real friend hi will support you.

                  yeah, that discribes the shortest way 😄 absolutely on point

                  i agree also, the best way forward is to tell him discretely. and if he values your friendship he'll stick around, trust me bro

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                    camilamianda
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                    It happened to me. I was really sad first, but after a lot of talk and not so easy days, we get close and today he is no longer homophobian

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                      Mcjl
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                      They aren't your friends.  Or. Are gay themselves

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                        Rubber0
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                        Just to share… Almost all of my friends are homophobic. But I was really surprised that they didn't stop communicating with me even after my coming out. They told that this fact doesn't change what kind of person you are.

                        gzlong, За дурной галавой нагам неспакой

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                          jkronfuss
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                          I'd join the rest here, stay away. Also, just one small hint for you, the only acquaintance that had an issue with my coming out turned out to be also gay much later so there you have it….

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                            Grotomode
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                            Personally yeah I would keep a distance. If he/she is a straight up homophobe and there's no talking sense to them then why be friends with them?

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                              flozen
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                              We live in a world where your home (and I mean region, city, even neighborhood) makes a difference.  If you live in a relatively safe environment, tell him directly.  If you live in a "problem" area, tell him indirectly and get a feel for his overall sense of "alternative lifestyles."

                              If you live in a challenging area, use the Internet to find the nearest LGBT support group, even if it's a two-hour drive, and make new and freethinking friends.   :ghug:

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                                Zeitgeist
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                                We deserve better than surround ourselves with people who don't make us feel good. Befriend people who bring out the best in yourself, because we deserve to be happy.

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