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    Is it possible to have an open relationship that's absolutely honest?

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    • ColinTNMC Offline
      ColinTNM
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      you both have to be 100% on the same page for this to happen otherwise I think it's just allowed cheating (and feelings are still getting hurt they're just hidden).

      In my experience more often than not when you scratch the surface of an "open relationship" it's usually one partner wanting it more than the other, or doing it more than the other and the other one more going along with it.

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        MrFabulous
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        My boyfriend and I are in one right now. We were monogamous for about 2 years when we decided to try an open relationship. We've been in an open relationship since around february.

        The only conditions we had was that we wanted to know where and when it was happening, if we met other people. Mostly for security reasons than anything. You can never be too safe you know?

        In all that time though, I have received 2 blowjobs and he went and sucked one dick. We discovered pretty fast that any sexual interactions with other people just weren't enjoyable. We're one of those couples that like to be alone together. You know? We're pretty introverted, our social groups are small, and sex just isnt our priority.

        We still consider ours an open relationship, but neither of us use it. We're still very open to threesomes though and are currently looking for a sexy (american) football player to have some fun with. I guess only time will tell though.

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          tempbo
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          It's possible if you're very honest and willing to be hurt a few times. It can be very rewarding too - but most people just can't manage it.

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            nembarie 0
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            @tempbo:

            It's possible if you're very honest and willing to be hurt a few times. It can be very rewarding too - but most people just can't manage it.

            Totally agree….

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            • obras62O Offline
              obras62
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              I think that not only the gay community but people in general need to stop thinking that sex is bad. In a relationship you can have sex with other people as long as you are open and honest and don't get "love" or "faithful" into it. Why are we hung up on that issue? We all would be happier if we understood that the partner we are with is ours in every way and yet both can go have sex with others. So much less heartache and problems

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              • johndoliveJ Offline
                johndolive
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                Yes, it's possible. Me and my bf are in an open RS, it took a while to adjust… At first, we kind of get crazy, having sex with lots of other guys, then we reduced it slowly to avoid hurting each other...

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                  revenger
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                  if there's no lies, it's honest!

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                  • eastonkellanE Offline
                    eastonkellan
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                    @raphjd:

                    I know people in open relationships and they never talk about their "outside" lives with each other.

                    :true: as they say "What you don't know, won't hurt you"

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                      alveer
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                      no

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                        rramirez64
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                        Its possible, but I've never seen it work long term. Sooner or later you will have problems. My husband and I, we had open relationships at the past, before we met us, so we decided to be monogamous after we married.

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