Is it possible to have an open relationship that's absolutely honest?
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It's….possible.
I am going to assume here that 'honest' here is in regards to the relationship and the 'big issues' and not necessarily..uh, everything. Because even monogamous partnerships have small things they don't talk to their partners about. (although yes, some small things can pile up into huge unstoppable things)
From outside looking in, I can see that the chance are probably smaller just because of maths (it's harder to communicate effectively and intimately between 3 or more people as opposed to 2; not to mention the dynamics of each participants).
You also need not just you and your partner but the rest of the participants to be open and honest not just with you but with each other.
And when there is a need or desire that is addressed, the entire party also needs to be open, honest, but also good at communication, compromises, and conflict resolution.
And again, given that it's 3 or more participants, it's probably going to be harder than the typical monogamous relationship (though even this has its liars and cheaters, yes?)
But it's possible.
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Totally, better than cheating
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I think it really depends on a persons mindset, views on sex and desire for monogamy.
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Honestly, I've never seen it work long term. I've known MANY couples in an "open relationship" where one of them find someone else from their "NSA trysts".
One thing for sure, if you want any relationship to work, you both must be on the same page when it comes to monogamy. If either is making a "compromise" here, the relationship is doomed.
If one really wants an open relationship, but compromises because of their desire to be with the other, he will eventually become resentful and unhappy and this festering will cause the relationship blows up.
If one wants to be with someone so badly that they swallow hard and accept an open relation, it is only a matter of time before what I think is a "natural" jealousy kicks in and things blow up. This person is the one more likely to find someone new, someone who shares his values.
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In my opinion, an "open relationship" where you do not talk about each other's adventures is simply a closed relationship where the cheating is assumed and ignored. A long-term relationship is based on communication - if you are not communicating about something this significant, I cannot see the relationship being deep, committed and long lasting. Just my perspective.
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you both have to be 100% on the same page for this to happen otherwise I think it's just allowed cheating (and feelings are still getting hurt they're just hidden).
In my experience more often than not when you scratch the surface of an "open relationship" it's usually one partner wanting it more than the other, or doing it more than the other and the other one more going along with it.
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My boyfriend and I are in one right now. We were monogamous for about 2 years when we decided to try an open relationship. We've been in an open relationship since around february.
The only conditions we had was that we wanted to know where and when it was happening, if we met other people. Mostly for security reasons than anything. You can never be too safe you know?
In all that time though, I have received 2 blowjobs and he went and sucked one dick. We discovered pretty fast that any sexual interactions with other people just weren't enjoyable. We're one of those couples that like to be alone together. You know? We're pretty introverted, our social groups are small, and sex just isnt our priority.
We still consider ours an open relationship, but neither of us use it. We're still very open to threesomes though and are currently looking for a sexy (american) football player to have some fun with. I guess only time will tell though.
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It's possible if you're very honest and willing to be hurt a few times. It can be very rewarding too - but most people just can't manage it.
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It's possible if you're very honest and willing to be hurt a few times. It can be very rewarding too - but most people just can't manage it.
Totally agree….
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I think that not only the gay community but people in general need to stop thinking that sex is bad. In a relationship you can have sex with other people as long as you are open and honest and don't get "love" or "faithful" into it. Why are we hung up on that issue? We all would be happier if we understood that the partner we are with is ours in every way and yet both can go have sex with others. So much less heartache and problems
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Yes, it's possible. Me and my bf are in an open RS, it took a while to adjust… At first, we kind of get crazy, having sex with lots of other guys, then we reduced it slowly to avoid hurting each other...
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if there's no lies, it's honest!
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I know people in open relationships and they never talk about their "outside" lives with each other.
:true: as they say "What you don't know, won't hurt you"
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no
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Its possible, but I've never seen it work long term. Sooner or later you will have problems. My husband and I, we had open relationships at the past, before we met us, so we decided to be monogamous after we married.
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