Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea?
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Yes, it's bad.
On one hand one can probably NEVER be prepared with raising a kid completely,
and at the same time there are stories of people who have unwanted child(ren) (which implies a certain lack of readiness before having a child) and still manage to be a good parent.
but there's bound to be a certain…ugh, awareness, or competence, or AT LEAST responsibility before having kids. -
Unless you actually WANT kids for other reasons then yeah because they most likely won't fill the void anyhow.
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Being 'fulfilled' seems subjective. If someone means having a kid to give their life a purpose because didn't know what they were doing with it before, then yeah that's bad.
But having a kid because you feel it's just a natural part of life to have a kid to raise, then I wouldn't say that's bad. I mean having a kid seems like a part in everyone's life that they have as an eventual goal as having some part of you carried on to the next generation is a natural urge.
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If you're considering not having a child, check out the /r/antinatalism subreddit for some good relevant reading material
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Is there any other reason?
I think that is what it all boils down to in the end.
Wrong or not you will be in good company . I am pretty certain that is reasoning behind most births (most likely your own)
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Yeah it is, I love kids but I'm more of a great uncle to my nieces and nephews, I don't want a kid of my own just for the sake of "just to feel fulfilled"
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Yeah, it is pretty bad idea
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You should "want" to have a kid first! No parent is ever ready for children but they should truly desire to have one before making or adopting.
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It's bad if one is interested in making a political statement. Kids are a huge responsibility.
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Seriously? ???
What kind of void are you trying to fill?
Maybe you should start with a puppy; and in your case, definitely some type of "loaner." One you help raise for a little while, like some of the "service" dogs.
That way, the poor thing won't have to suffer, should you still find yourself "unfulfilled," and lose interest.
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Yes of course. It sounds pretty reckless & irresponsible for me as a reason.
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I will say having kids anyways when one partner doesn't want any is a bad idea.
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Depends on the true reason behind it, of course.
Many have been saying that it's wrong, a bad idea, and they have valid and logical arguments about it. Nothing wrong with that.
But in a way, if your intention is good and not negative, then I don't see why not. You just need to consider the responsibility and all the little things like money, expense, and stuffs that comes after having ones. If those doesn't trouble you or bother your morale conscious, then go ahead. Hey, it might just be the right answer to your life.
But perhaps… like Ellis said, try with a pet first? See if you can manage one. If you can't even deal with a non-demanding pet, then I doubt you'll be ready for human kids. It'll be more bad for them too.
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The idea of having kids has been ingrained in us since childhood, with our parents dropping not-so-subtle comments like, “You'll know how it feels when you have kids of your own” or “I'll spoil my grandchildren.”
The importance of reproduction also has roots in religion. In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race. Big families, which are sometimes the result of refusing contraception, are especially common in Christian households.
Then, of course, there is the influence of pop culture on reproducing. Movies like “Baby Mama” and “What to Expect When You're Expecting” perpetuate the idea that having kids of your own will somehow fulfill your entire life.
Maybe having your own children will make your life worthwhile. It could also make your life much more stressful for social or financial reasons!
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Yes, that is a very bad idea.
Many more reasons to have kids besides that.
like love. Real love. -
To be candid.
The difficult part isn't deciding to have a kid or not. There are worse reasons to want to have a kid and better reasons none of which would honestly last until you get the kid weaned. The only thing that matters is your reponsibility when you have a kid. -
Worth to have a try. having children is not just your own matter, it’s about your blood lineage. You have responsibility to bring up your children even abnegate some personal things such as your sexuality…, you should earn more money to feed the family and give them a better living environment. Finally you will gain the benefits. When you get older you won’t die in solitude. And one day you will proud of your
behavior.Most of us to be a gay caused by a irresponsible father, so learn how to be a competent father is very important. I don’t want to make a judgment of most of us. But I must say some people only love themselves, in this case the intention of setting up a family is not reliable, they don’t know what’s the responsibility of relationship or family, the only thing they want is they need. They treat their family or partner as a trophy.
To be a homosexual person will lead a hard life, but the life there isn’t different from the heterosexual person.
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No, I guess there are possible reasons to become a parents that this. Having children is always a bit selfish, especially in our case when there is no way for us to conceive them the normal way.
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No, I guess there are possible reasons to become a parents that this. Having children is always a bit selfish, especially in our case when there is no way for us to conceive them the normal way.
sorry i don’t agree with you about the selfish part of to be a father.
people are different, why you separate gay to be a freak? -
Worth to have a try. having children is not just your own matter, it’s about your blood lineage. You have responsibility to bring up your children even abnegate some personal things such as your sexuality…, you should earn more money to feed the family and give them a better living environment. Finally you will gain the benefits. When you get older you won’t die in solitude. And one day you will proud of your
behavior.Most of us to be a gay caused by a irresponsible father, so learn how to be a competent father is very important. I don’t want to make a judgment of most of us. But I must say some people only love themselves, in this case the intention of setting up a family is not reliable, they don’t know what’s the responsibility of relationship or family, the only thing they want is they need. They treat their family or partner as a trophy.
To be a homosexual person will lead a hard life, but the life there isn’t different from the heterosexual person.
True..
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