<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea?]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">I'm thinking ability has to be considered before deciding to have a child</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/16073/is-having-kids-just-to-feel-fulfilled-a-bad-idea</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Wed, 08 Apr 2026 06:43:59 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://community.gaytor.rent/topic/16073.rss" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><pubDate>Sat, 21 Mar 2015 15:57:01 GMT</pubDate><ttl>60</ttl><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Fri, 01 Sep 2023 20:21:34 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">I have a neighbor who I found out has always been gay, but got married at 42, had 2 kids who are now 6 and 2. I found out he is fucking a 32 year old man who lives down the block. He tried to force me to sell him my house for 20% of its value so he could move his boyfriend into my house which is across the street from him.  I told him to get lost, and somehow his wife found out that he's been fucking the guy down the block.  They are now heading for a divorce.  He never dares even talk to the guy down the block anymore, but the damage has been done.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/312969</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/312969</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[lololulu19]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 01 Sep 2023 20:21:34 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Fri, 01 Sep 2023 09:12:47 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">the good thing about being gay and having kids, you can wait until you're truly ready. <img src="https://community.gaytor.rent/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/apple/1f642.png?v=57695cee877" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-apple emoji--slightly_smiling_face" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":)" alt="🙂" /></p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/312962</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/312962</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Lodi]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 01 Sep 2023 09:12:47 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Sun, 25 Dec 2022 01:46:43 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Personally I think we should leave child rearing to straight people.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/303369</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/303369</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[semurg30]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 25 Dec 2022 01:46:43 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Sat, 12 Sep 2020 13:09:05 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Having children just to feel fulfilled is like having a trophy wife, well it's a trophy family to be exact. It's not good, because having a child for that purpose is useless, and could be extremely harmful. My advice: adopt/raise kids if you really do want kids to raise, but if you don't then just don't adopt any at all.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/263731</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/263731</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[scratcher71]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 12 Sep 2020 13:09:05 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Fri, 28 Aug 2020 11:37:40 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Having children for the sake of feeling fulfilled is a bad idea.  Let's say you have a child and the only feeling you have is fulfilled?  What happens when that fulfillment disappears?  Is the love for both your partner and child still there?  It most likely isn't, and it opens the door of wandering to other sexual partners or even being an absentee parent.  It happens a lot in this world unfortunately; having kids because of love and caring is the way to go.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/263060</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/263060</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[gayaznboi22]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 28 Aug 2020 11:37:40 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Fri, 07 Aug 2020 06:35:50 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Bad idea</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/262294</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/262294</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[hawaiifive74]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 07 Aug 2020 06:35:50 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Sun, 28 Jun 2020 02:46:14 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Now that the spammer above has been quieted, I'll offer my answer to the question at hand.</p>
<p dir="auto">I'm a bit stymied by the question itself.  Don't most people have children, in large part, to feel fulfilled?  And if "feeling fulfilled" includes doing their best job at child rearing and development, why are we posing the question as if that, in itself, is a bad idea?</p>
<p dir="auto">At least it was interesting to hear opposing views from a few GTRU members in countries/societies where having children was still intertwined with ancient traditions about family lineage, building up bigger tribes, and various patriarchal imperatives.</p>
<p dir="auto">It made my glad that I live in a progressive and less-rigid social environment, especially as many of these more static cultures are not accepting of living one's gay truth.  Imho, of course.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260623</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260623</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[flozen]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 28 Jun 2020 02:46:14 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Thu, 25 Jun 2020 11:05:44 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/josha" aria-label="Profile: josha">@<bdi>josha</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race.<br />
<a href="https://s3.amazonaws.com/subwaysurfers/index.html" rel="nofollow ugc">https://s3.amazonaws.com/subwaysurfers/index.html</a> <a href="https://s3.amazonaws.com/homescapes-pc/index.html" rel="nofollow ugc">https://s3.amazonaws.com/homescapes-pc/index.html</a></p>
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<p dir="auto">Thanks for the <s>Bible lesson</s> unwanted preaching. Your real purpose is to post the two links to unrelated computer games.  <strong>Rules violation.</strong></p>
<p dir="auto">I encourage others to report the post, to be sure his time with us is short, just like his junk.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260498</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260498</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[flozen]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2020 11:05:44 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Thu, 25 Jun 2020 09:09:06 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race.<br />
<a href="https://s3.amazonaws.com/subwaysurfers/index.html" rel="nofollow ugc">https://s3.amazonaws.com/subwaysurfers/index.html</a> <a href="https://s3.amazonaws.com/homescapes-pc/index.html" rel="nofollow ugc">https://s3.amazonaws.com/homescapes-pc/index.html</a><br />
<img src="https://community.gaytor.rent/Themes/GTru/images/warnwarn.gif" alt="" class=" img-fluid img-markdown" /> rules violation</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260494</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/260494</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[josha]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 25 Jun 2020 09:09:06 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Fri, 11 Jan 2019 13:15:09 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">If you are not filling fullfilled is up to you. The kid wont make it happen… not a good mindset to do it and worse; you will put a expectation to the kid`s life.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/248480</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/248480</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[justwith]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 11 Jan 2019 13:15:09 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Wed, 27 Dec 2017 01:55:18 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/arquimostra" aria-label="Profile: arquimostra">@<bdi>arquimostra</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">Well… children won't be children forever and some day they'll get independent, bringing back the void you're describing.</p>
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<p dir="auto">you love your children not only love they are kids. no matter how old are they, they are still your son and daughter, the firstborn son have special responsibility here, as I did for my father, he will do the same things, make your family name continue, and take care parents if them needs when they are old. he will get all of my heritage (alto I only get several furry clothes from my father) but My son will get a lot of wealth from me. The motivation of earn more money after a marriage is all about them. that’s the reason of why I can’t living with my brother, we have those responsibility, he can’t have child for me and me too. finally responsibility beats the sexual orientation.</p>
<p dir="auto">plz don’t treat your children like some kinds of pets. treat them like yourself.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/235033</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/235033</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[kenjysn1]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 27 Dec 2017 01:55:18 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Tue, 26 Dec 2017 15:45:10 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">I dont think its possible to decide to have kids without  being driven by the need to fulfill ones dreams and plans in life.<br />
Another thing we get wrong in such theoretic discussions I think is the fact that there doesnt have to be one and only drive behind something like this. Different motives and reasons can coexist. The need for self fulfillment doesnt cancel ones ability to do it justice.</p>
<p dir="auto">As far as raising kids goes, all you need imo is the kind of character that can give love to the people around them. If you can love someone and care for them, what does it matter if deep down you see having kids as the next stage in your life that will help you grow as a person?</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/235014</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/235014</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Grotomode]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 26 Dec 2017 15:45:10 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Tue, 26 Dec 2017 14:28:14 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Well… children won't be children forever and some day they'll get independent, bringing back the void you're describing.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/235012</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/235012</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[arquimostra]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 26 Dec 2017 14:28:14 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Mon, 18 Dec 2017 14:29:36 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/kenjysn1" aria-label="Profile: kenjysn1">@<bdi>kenjysn1</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">Worth to have a try. having children is not just your own matter, it’s about your blood lineage. You have responsibility to bring up your children even abnegate some personal things such as your sexuality…, you should earn more money to feed the family and give them a better living environment. Finally you will gain the benefits. When you get older you won’t  die in solitude. And one day you will proud of your<br />
behavior.</p>
<p dir="auto">Most of us to be a gay caused by a irresponsible father, so learn how to be a competent father is very important. I don’t want to make a judgment of most of us. But I must say some people only love themselves, in this case the intention of setting up a family is not reliable, they don’t know what’s the responsibility of relationship or family, the only thing they want is they need.  They treat their family or partner as a trophy.</p>
<p dir="auto">To be a  homosexual person will lead a hard life, but the life there isn’t different from the heterosexual person.</p>
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<p dir="auto">True..  <img src="https://community.gaytor.rent/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/apple/1f47c.png?v=57695cee877" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-apple emoji--angel" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":angel:" alt="👼" /></p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/234605</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/234605</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[spam17]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 18 Dec 2017 14:29:36 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Mon, 20 Nov 2017 05:10:31 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto"><a class="plugin-mentions-user plugin-mentions-a" href="/user/jkronfuss" aria-label="Profile: jkronfuss">@<bdi>jkronfuss</bdi></a>:</p>
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<p dir="auto">No, I guess there are possible reasons to become a parents that this. Having children is always a bit selfish, especially in our case when there is no way for us to conceive them the normal way.</p>
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<p dir="auto">sorry i don’t agree with you about the selfish part of to be a father.<br />
people are different, why you separate gay to be a freak?</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232858</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232858</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[kenjysn1]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 20 Nov 2017 05:10:31 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Mon, 20 Nov 2017 03:49:58 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">No, I guess there are possible reasons to become a parents that this. Having children is always a bit selfish, especially in our case when there is no way for us to conceive them the normal way.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232843</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232843</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[jkronfuss]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 20 Nov 2017 03:49:58 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Thu, 16 Nov 2017 16:27:37 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Worth to have a try. having children is not just your own matter, it’s about your blood lineage. You have responsibility to bring up your children even abnegate some personal things such as your sexuality…, you should earn more money to feed the family and give them a better living environment. Finally you will gain the benefits. When you get older you won’t  die in solitude. And one day you will proud of your<br />
behavior.</p>
<p dir="auto">Most of us to be a gay caused by a irresponsible father, so learn how to be a competent father is very important. I don’t want to make a judgment of most of us. But I must say some people only love themselves, in this case the intention of setting up a family is not reliable, they don’t know what’s the responsibility of relationship or family, the only thing they want is they need.  They treat their family or partner as a trophy.</p>
<p dir="auto">To be a  homosexual person will lead a hard life, but the life there isn’t different from the heterosexual person.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232618</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232618</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[kenjysn1]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 16 Nov 2017 16:27:37 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Thu, 16 Nov 2017 05:16:54 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">To be candid.<br />
The difficult part isn't deciding to have a kid or not.  There are worse reasons to want to have a kid and better reasons none of which would honestly last until you get the kid weaned.  The only thing that matters is your reponsibility when you have a kid.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232591</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232591</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[JohnAllenson]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 16 Nov 2017 05:16:54 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Thu, 16 Nov 2017 03:54:25 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Yes, that is a very bad idea.<br />
Many more reasons to have kids besides that.<br />
like love. Real love.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232589</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/232589</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[vaylon 0]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 16 Nov 2017 03:54:25 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Fri, 15 Sep 2017 22:28:12 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">The idea of having kids has been ingrained in us since childhood, with our parents dropping not-so-subtle comments like, “You'll know how it feels when you have kids of your own” or “I'll spoil my grandchildren.”</p>
<p dir="auto">The importance of reproduction also has roots in religion. In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race. Big families, which are sometimes the result of refusing contraception, are especially common in Christian households.</p>
<p dir="auto">Then, of course, there is the influence of pop culture on reproducing. Movies like “Baby Mama” and “What to Expect When You're Expecting” perpetuate the idea that having kids of your own will somehow fulfill your entire life.</p>
<p dir="auto">Maybe having your own children will make your life worthwhile. It could also make your life much more stressful for social or financial reasons!</p>
<p dir="auto"><img src="https://community.gaytor.rent/assets/plugins/nodebb-plugin-emoji/emoji/apple/1f61b.png?v=57695cee877" class="not-responsive emoji emoji-apple emoji--stuck_out_tongue" style="height:23px;width:auto;vertical-align:middle" title=":P" alt="😛" /></p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/227257</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/227257</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[spam17]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Fri, 15 Sep 2017 22:28:12 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Sat, 04 Mar 2017 23:19:45 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Depends on the true reason behind it, of course.</p>
<p dir="auto">Many have been saying that it's wrong, a bad idea, and they have valid and logical arguments about it. Nothing wrong with that.</p>
<p dir="auto">But in a way, if your intention is good and not negative, then I don't see why not. You just need to consider the responsibility and all the little things like money, expense, and stuffs that comes after having ones. If those doesn't trouble you or bother your morale conscious, then go ahead. Hey, it might just be the right answer to your life.</p>
<p dir="auto">But perhaps… like Ellis said, try with a pet first? See if you can manage one. If you can't even deal with a non-demanding pet, then I doubt you'll be ready for human kids. It'll be more bad for them too.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/205464</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/205464</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Ononoke]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 04 Mar 2017 23:19:45 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Sat, 04 Mar 2017 21:49:05 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">I will say having kids anyways when one partner doesn't want any is a bad idea.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/205450</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/205450</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Domosuke]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 04 Mar 2017 21:49:05 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Sat, 04 Mar 2017 13:30:27 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Yes of course. It sounds pretty reckless &amp; irresponsible for me as a reason.</p>
]]></description><link>https://community.gaytor.rent/post/205427</link><guid isPermaLink="true">https://community.gaytor.rent/post/205427</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[OklaBalmore]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 04 Mar 2017 13:30:27 GMT</pubDate></item><item><title><![CDATA[Reply to Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea? on Mon, 18 Jul 2016 16:07:02 GMT]]></title><description><![CDATA[<p dir="auto">Seriously? ???</p>
<p dir="auto">What kind of <em>void</em> are you trying to fill?</p>
<p dir="auto">Maybe <em>you</em> should start with a puppy; and in your case, definitely some type of "loaner." One you help raise for a little while, like some of the "service" dogs.</p>
<p dir="auto">That way, the poor thing won't have to suffer, should you still find yourself "unfulfilled," and lose interest.</p>
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