Is having kids just to feel fulfilled a bad idea?

[justwith]

If you are not filling fullfilled is up to you. The kid wont make it happen… not a good mindset to do it and worse; you will put a expectation to the kid`s life.

[josha]

In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race.
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[flozen]

@josha:

In Christian faiths, Adam and Eve were put on earth to reproduce and start the human race.
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[flozen]

Now that the spammer above has been quieted, I'll offer my answer to the question at hand.

I'm a bit stymied by the question itself.  Don't most people have children, in large part, to feel fulfilled?  And if "feeling fulfilled" includes doing their best job at child rearing and development, why are we posing the question as if that, in itself, is a bad idea?

At least it was interesting to hear opposing views from a few GTRU members in countries/societies where having children was still intertwined with ancient traditions about family lineage, building up bigger tribes, and various patriarchal imperatives.

It made my glad that I live in a progressive and less-rigid social environment, especially as many of these more static cultures are not accepting of living one's gay truth.  Imho, of course.

[hawaiifive74]

Bad idea

[gayaznboi22]

Having children for the sake of feeling fulfilled is a bad idea.  Let's say you have a child and the only feeling you have is fulfilled?  What happens when that fulfillment disappears?  Is the love for both your partner and child still there?  It most likely isn't, and it opens the door of wandering to other sexual partners or even being an absentee parent.  It happens a lot in this world unfortunately; having kids because of love and caring is the way to go.

[scratcher71]

Having children just to feel fulfilled is like having a trophy wife, well it's a trophy family to be exact. It's not good, because having a child for that purpose is useless, and could be extremely harmful. My advice: adopt/raise kids if you really do want kids to raise, but if you don't then just don't adopt any at all.

[semurg30]

Personally I think we should leave child rearing to straight people.

[Lodi]

the good thing about being gay and having kids, you can wait until you're truly ready.

[lololulu19]

I have a neighbor who I found out has always been gay, but got married at 42, had 2 kids who are now 6 and 2. I found out he is fucking a 32 year old man who lives down the block. He tried to force me to sell him my house for 20% of its value so he could move his boyfriend into my house which is across the street from him. I told him to get lost, and somehow his wife found out that he's been fucking the guy down the block. They are now heading for a divorce. He never dares even talk to the guy down the block anymore, but the damage has been done.