How can I be sure I'm gay if I haven't had sex?

[frostycab]

I've had this conversation with people before, and I generally tell them that sex doesn't make you gay. Kissing doesn't make you gay. Nor do your clothes, voice, mannerisms, hair or anything else. How you FEEL makes you gay. Its a mindset, a set of emotions and attractions, a desire to be close to someone of the same sex in a way that goes beyond conventions.

I can be turned on watching straight porn, and sometimes even lesbian porn, but inside I know that I don't want to be with a woman either sexually or as a life-partner. I want a boyfriend to love and love me back.

That's how I know I'm gay.

[unpleased]

@after:

I can tell you what my own experience is, I don't know if it is the same for everybody. Although I had sex with a man for the first time when I was in my late 20's it was clear to me that I was gay since I was 12 or 13. It seems very simple to me and I don't understand how people cannot be sure about their sexual orientation. If guys attract you and girls don't attract you, you're gay. Easy.

You got it xD

[geox]

Didn't realize that I was actually gay when I was in High School. Played the straight route but, it did not feel right. I'm still in the closet (by choice) but, open to only a couple of friends and just a couple of relatives.

I'm 100% gay and I love it, girls! :hug:

[unpleased]

@geox:

Didn't realize that I was actually gay when I was in High School. Played the straight route but, it did not feel right. I'm still in the closet (by choice) but, open to only a couple of friends and just a couple of relatives.

I'm 100% gay and I love it, girls! :hug:

You lucky !
Also my ex-girlfriend knew that I would have loved a man at the end.
But that was funny, I still preserve our soppy mails down there in the box.