Didn't realize that I was actually gay when I was in High School. Played the straight route but, it did not feel right. I'm still in the closet (by choice) but, open to only a couple of friends and just a couple of relatives.

I'm 100% gay and I love it, girls! :hug:

You lucky !
Also my ex-girlfriend knew that I would have loved a man at the end.
But that was funny, I still preserve our soppy mails down there in the box.

I'm 100% gay and I love it, girls! :hug:

I can tell you what my own experience is, I don't know if it is the same for everybody. Although I had sex with a man for the first time when I was in my late 20's it was clear to me that I was gay since I was 12 or 13. It seems very simple to me and I don't understand how people cannot be sure about their sexual orientation. If guys attract you and girls don't attract you, you're gay. Easy.

You got it xD

I can be turned on watching straight porn, and sometimes even lesbian porn, but inside I know that I don't want to be with a woman either sexually or as a life-partner. I want a boyfriend to love and love me back.

That's how I know I'm gay.

Go with what you feel is right and as long as it doesn't hurt anyone then it's okay.

Does it matter?

If you want to have sex with a man, have sex with a man.  If you then want to have sex with a woman, have sex with a woman.  Pursue the relationships you want to pursue.  Is it really so important to tick a box on a form.  I mean, you don't need a gay license to have sex with men.  Or to have permission to pursue a romantic relationship.  If that was the case, mine would have been revoked a long time ago.  And I'd still be having sex with men.  "Fuck the system!"

I second what spam17 said. "Ultimately, it's best to not worry about it. If you like someone, like em. If you don't, don't."

And I mean if you want to be pedantic, can anyone be certain of their sexuality even have they've had sex?

You might have had 80 girlfriends in your life and been happily married to a woman for the last 30 years, never had the slightest reaction to a male in all that time, and then you see Brad Pitt for the first time and get an erection. It's entirely possible that sexual preference is wholly fluid for the majority of us (at the moment of birth), but that there's a lot of pressure and practical benefit to dating the opposite sex so we might never even develop our ability to have interest in our own sex.

Ultimately, it's best to not worry about it. If you like someone, like em. If you don't, don't.

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It is possible to know you're gay even if you're a virgin or haven't had a same-sex physical relationship. Being gay isn't just about sex; it is about emotion. Just like straight people, gay people fall in love and have long-lasting, meaningful relationships. Physical attraction is just one indicator of sexual orientation.

This was the only decent answer.  All the others just had to do with sex. And just because a guy gets hard watching gay porn or with a guy means nothing. Look at all the closeted gay men that have sex with women constantly. Doesn't mean they are str8 or bi.  Its way  more then a physical.  Its an emotional and physical combination

If you have doubts you have them for a reason.

You just know it at some point.

I had had sex with women and men but knew that I wanted, no needed , to have a relationship with a guy. My relationships with women were good but I felt right when I was in a relationship with a guy.

I hope that helps.

If you jerk off to gay porn; no doubt you are gay.

Too easy..you can jerk off to straight porn and you can be gay, or bi. It's not easy to determine, or examining himself about these feelings.

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I can tell you what my own experience is, I don't know if it is the same for everybody. Although I had sex with a man for the first time when I was in my late 20's it was clear to me that I was gay since I was 12 or 13. It seems very simple to me and I don't understand how people cannot be sure about their sexual orientation. If guys attract you and girls don't attract you, you're gay. Easy.

Although you're right, there are familiar and social factors that can "deform" the vision of anyone self-identity