Not sexually attracted to fat men..?

nescho

Different people like different things, and I don't get why it's such a big deal.

There were people who turned me down because I'm bald, or hairy, some guys find that extremely hot.
Big deal, I also turned down guys who didn't attract me.

I don't get guys who are offended when you turn them down; what's up with that attitude "everybody is supposed to find me attractive"? Sorry, but there is no person on this planet who EVERYONE will find attractive, so get off your high horse and keep it real. There are situations when you are really attracted to somebody and he's not into you at all - but that's how it works so just deal with it.

And I actually find big guys really hot, even though I'm not a big guy myself, neither skinny or too muscular. Just an average well built guy who is not a gym rat but loves to exercise and keep relatively fit. And guess what, there were still big guys who turned me down!
It's almost like we should feel guilty if we turn down somebody who is fat, effeminate, etc, that is considered discrimination, but at the same time nobody cares when those "minorities" turn down us "average" guys.

Conclusion is - there is no person who hasn't been turned down or who didn't turn down somebody, because we all look/act different and have different preferences, so let's not make fuss about it.

fistsafe

i prefere muscled

jkronfuss

Are we talking of obese people or just a small belly? I don't like obesse but I can't stand smokers, I'd not know. Haven't date anyone so far, my boyfriend keeps complaining he is fat when he is not. $:-\$

thutigger

All I can say it, Up until I turned 40 I was very thin myself. I wasnt attracted to heavy guys either. Its just prefference - you cannot force yourself to be attracted to someone - and that doesnt make you racist, or agist or sizeist either.

samiderwish

mmmmmi dont like fat ppl

hhsq

@samiderwish:

mmmmmi dont like fat ppl

We were just making a point here that it is natural for people to have their preferences but that they should express these preferences in a positive way for you to say something like that….... $:-\$

smbsmbsmb123

@hhsq:

@samiderwish:

mmmmmi dont like fat ppl

We were just making a point here that it is natural for people to have their preferences but that they should express these preferences in a positive way for you to say something like that….... $:-\$

well, not quite. the others were also saying that people should not tie themselves into knots because of the fucking pc bullshit. that was a perfectly valid stating of a fact. at least in a normal world it would be.

gsmc

No one is "better" than anyone but that doesn't mean you should feel guilty for recognizing what you prefer. Fat people = people. Skinny people = people. Assholes = assholes.

Also the "don't be rude" bit is basic. Just try to be a compassionate human. Think about straight people saying something like "it's okay to think gays are revolting but don't be rude about it." I hope you can understand why that's absolutely not acceptable regardless of what one believes.

Would you be friends with a fat guy? No? You should feel guilty. Depends on the human? That's nice.

kaeyresky

you like what you like. i'm not fat but i've personally never been attracted to twinks by any means, at all, ever. i'd much prefer a chubby guy over a twink (any day). it's all preference. it becomes a problem when your preferences lead to you putting people down for who they are instead of simple "no thankyous".

brianboru72

I think that being aware enough and questioning your preferences is a good thing. Knowing why you like what you like is a part of self-awareness and makes you a better person.
I struggled with some guilt over my own preferences and I appreciate this discussion. I agree that in the end, we all have our specific quirks- the things that turn us on and we should not feel guilty or ashamed by that. What matters is that we treat other people with respect- and if we aren't interested then we let them know with the same amount of sensitivity and consideration we would want when we are the ones who are on the receiving end of rejection.

kalayaan

@lostalone:

Sexual preference exist. That is one. And it's okay. It's ironic that I'm fat myself and fat guys….mostly just didn't do with me.

but:

There's a line when expressing your preference becomes discrimination.

There's also a line when you consider personal preference as an universal preference and/or law.

Try to avoid these, both mentally....and in your actions and words and thoughts.

Without knowing anything about your life and your actions (thus, mostly working from a blank slate)

Remember that your sexual preference is not extended to your platonic reference. Try to make friends with ANYBODY regardless of their physical appearances.
Remember that we are all people-- no one wants to be hurt. Regardless of how attractive / unattractive they are.
Remember that people have different circumstances. Someone might be fat due to poverty; others their biological makeup.

Of course it's not going to be POSSIBLE all the time-- some people will get hurt no matter how gentle / diplomatic / polite our rejection is. That's the nature of life, that's the nature of human relationships.

But do try.

And then what I personally found out is that, attraction changes as we grow up and met someone new.

So at least do keep your heart open, and your penis aware. Who knows-- your attraction might have some outliers here and there

lostalone sums it up well

syuvan12

@gsmc:

No one is "better" than anyone but that doesn't mean you should feel guilty for recognizing what you prefer. Fat people = people. Skinny people = people. Assholes = assholes.

Also the "don't be rude" bit is basic. Just try to be a compassionate human. Think about straight people saying something like "it's okay to think gays are revolting but don't be rude about it." I hope you can understand why that's absolutely not acceptable regardless of what one believes.

Would you be friends with a fat guy? No? You should feel guilty. Depends on the human? That's nice.

Completely agree with you there. And two of my best friends are big guys. It's just the fact that I don't want to have sex with them. And thankfully, because of all the replies I've gotten in this topic, I feel like that's okay.

jeverfhirlwi

Im the exact opposite of you. I only attracted to fat man. I guess preference cant be forced, so its ok to be not attracted to fat man.

wolfyboy00

Everyone has their own taste.

beau

I love fat men, I am the opposite. I feel atracted by hairy, fat and bald men. It is my dream being fucked by one.

pastol

@beau:

I love fat men, I am the opposite. I feel atracted by hairy, fat and bald men. It is my dream being fucked by one.

:cheesy2: What are you doing Friday night? >:D

Honestly, when anyone says skinny, I say, WTF? He's HOT! I donno why thin guys turn me on so much. I just go with it. We should all do that more often. And if a guy takes offense because you don't want to date him, forget him. Trust me, you didn't want to date that guy no matter WHAT he looks like. He's the type that will put your bunny in a pot of water on the stove.

beercan

what others call fat i define as "well cushioned".
it's probably my depression talking "I'm pretty skinny myself" but i find them pretty attractive.
Add on some fur and/or beard and they become almost irresistable.
Top it off with a smile and i'm almost on a platter ready to be served.
I'm pretty much finished if i hear a deep booming voice coming from that throat.

horyna

No, I'm not into fat men.

I might accept it if I fell in love with one but as for finding them attractive - no.

maraqua63630

I think it's just a matter of preferences, I personally dont get turned on by fat men too

beau

I like all sort of guys, I find fat men atractive.