Not sexually attracted to fat men..?

hhsq

mmmmmi dont like fat ppl

We were just making a point here that it is natural for people to have their preferences but that they should express these preferences in a positive way for you to say something like that….... $:-\$

smbsmbsmb123

@hhsq:

@samiderwish:

mmmmmi dont like fat ppl

We were just making a point here that it is natural for people to have their preferences but that they should express these preferences in a positive way for you to say something like that….... $:-\$

well, not quite. the others were also saying that people should not tie themselves into knots because of the fucking pc bullshit. that was a perfectly valid stating of a fact. at least in a normal world it would be.

gsmc

No one is "better" than anyone but that doesn't mean you should feel guilty for recognizing what you prefer. Fat people = people. Skinny people = people. Assholes = assholes.

Also the "don't be rude" bit is basic. Just try to be a compassionate human. Think about straight people saying something like "it's okay to think gays are revolting but don't be rude about it." I hope you can understand why that's absolutely not acceptable regardless of what one believes.

Would you be friends with a fat guy? No? You should feel guilty. Depends on the human? That's nice.

kaeyresky

you like what you like. i'm not fat but i've personally never been attracted to twinks by any means, at all, ever. i'd much prefer a chubby guy over a twink (any day). it's all preference. it becomes a problem when your preferences lead to you putting people down for who they are instead of simple "no thankyous".

brianboru72

I think that being aware enough and questioning your preferences is a good thing. Knowing why you like what you like is a part of self-awareness and makes you a better person.
I struggled with some guilt over my own preferences and I appreciate this discussion. I agree that in the end, we all have our specific quirks- the things that turn us on and we should not feel guilty or ashamed by that. What matters is that we treat other people with respect- and if we aren't interested then we let them know with the same amount of sensitivity and consideration we would want when we are the ones who are on the receiving end of rejection.

kalayaan

@lostalone:

Sexual preference exist. That is one. And it's okay. It's ironic that I'm fat myself and fat guys….mostly just didn't do with me.

but:

There's a line when expressing your preference becomes discrimination.

There's also a line when you consider personal preference as an universal preference and/or law.

Try to avoid these, both mentally....and in your actions and words and thoughts.

Without knowing anything about your life and your actions (thus, mostly working from a blank slate)

Remember that your sexual preference is not extended to your platonic reference. Try to make friends with ANYBODY regardless of their physical appearances.
Remember that we are all people-- no one wants to be hurt. Regardless of how attractive / unattractive they are.
Remember that people have different circumstances. Someone might be fat due to poverty; others their biological makeup.

Of course it's not going to be POSSIBLE all the time-- some people will get hurt no matter how gentle / diplomatic / polite our rejection is. That's the nature of life, that's the nature of human relationships.

But do try.

And then what I personally found out is that, attraction changes as we grow up and met someone new.

So at least do keep your heart open, and your penis aware. Who knows-- your attraction might have some outliers here and there

lostalone sums it up well

syuvan12

@gsmc:

No one is "better" than anyone but that doesn't mean you should feel guilty for recognizing what you prefer. Fat people = people. Skinny people = people. Assholes = assholes.

Also the "don't be rude" bit is basic. Just try to be a compassionate human. Think about straight people saying something like "it's okay to think gays are revolting but don't be rude about it." I hope you can understand why that's absolutely not acceptable regardless of what one believes.

Would you be friends with a fat guy? No? You should feel guilty. Depends on the human? That's nice.

Completely agree with you there. And two of my best friends are big guys. It's just the fact that I don't want to have sex with them. And thankfully, because of all the replies I've gotten in this topic, I feel like that's okay.

jeverfhirlwi

Im the exact opposite of you. I only attracted to fat man. I guess preference cant be forced, so its ok to be not attracted to fat man.

wolfyboy00

Everyone has their own taste.

beau

I love fat men, I am the opposite. I feel atracted by hairy, fat and bald men. It is my dream being fucked by one.

pastol

@beau:

I love fat men, I am the opposite. I feel atracted by hairy, fat and bald men. It is my dream being fucked by one.

:cheesy2: What are you doing Friday night? >:D

Honestly, when anyone says skinny, I say, WTF? He's HOT! I donno why thin guys turn me on so much. I just go with it. We should all do that more often. And if a guy takes offense because you don't want to date him, forget him. Trust me, you didn't want to date that guy no matter WHAT he looks like. He's the type that will put your bunny in a pot of water on the stove.

beercan

what others call fat i define as "well cushioned".
it's probably my depression talking "I'm pretty skinny myself" but i find them pretty attractive.
Add on some fur and/or beard and they become almost irresistable.
Top it off with a smile and i'm almost on a platter ready to be served.
I'm pretty much finished if i hear a deep booming voice coming from that throat.

horyna

No, I'm not into fat men.

I might accept it if I fell in love with one but as for finding them attractive - no.

maraqua63630

I think it's just a matter of preferences, I personally dont get turned on by fat men too

beau

I like all sort of guys, I find fat men atractive.

deflorare

Sometimes I'm really attracted to guys who have a little "bit extra".

I'm rarely if ever attracted to guys who are super skinny or super fat, though.

bostonpolar

I am a bear who finds other bears (and cubs) completely unattractive.

I prefer non-hairy or somewhat hairy men and thin to average to athletic builds.

One result of this, I realized, is that I do not have a good body image of myself – because since I am a bear and I don't find bears attractive, I do not find myself attractive.

I have longed realized that while my bear body is not one I find sexy, my body is attractive to some gay men who are NOT bears. Fortunately, it does not seem to be very many guys who feel this way.

I am just so damn different from gay guys in general (for example, I have little interest in hookups), I have been looking for a possible partner for decades now with just no luck at all.

It is extremely depressing for me.
. . .

kukashiffr

@bostonpolar:

I am a bear who finds other bears (and cubs) completely unattractive.

I prefer non-hairy or somewhat hairy men and thin to average to athletic builds.

One result of this, I realized, is that I do not have a good body image of myself – because since I am a bear and I don't find bears attractive, I do not find myself attractive.

I have longed realized that while my bear body is not one I find sexy, my body is attractive to some gay men who are NOT bears. Fortunately, it does not seem to be very many guys who feel this way.

I am just so damn different from gay guys in general (for example, I have little interest in hookups), I have been looking for a possible partner for decades now with just no luck at all.

It is extremely depressing for me.
. . .

I really do feel for you that you are looking for a partner for decades but do not lose hope u dont know what is around the corner keep your hopes high and u will definitely find that special someone I was in your shoes but now I am happy with the love of my life … PLUS U SIR ARE SEXY THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE LIKE ME OUT THERE WHO LOVE BEARS so don't even say that you feel not attractive have a great day

bostonpolar

Thank you for your message, buy I really do not have much hope anymore. I'm 63 years old now.

I just spend about 10 days of a gay dating site sending messages to about 400 different guys and got back about 6 answers of those interested. I spend a LOT of time writing messages to each and more.

I talked and chat with them each a fair amount and they were interesting in meeting so we sent up days and times to meet. One guy even texted me that he would come down and meet in in about 2 hours.

Not one of them showed up. Not only that but they have all ghosted me; they never called to tell me they were not coming. None of them have answered my replied about why they did not come and about possibility meeting again.

One of these was with a "guy" who I had exchanged emails and had Skyped a good dead with – until I realized 1/2 through it was all a hoax. A friend told me this was called "catfishing".

This is how my attempts to meet and date a guy constantly goes. This has happened over and over again for DECADES now. I cannot tell you the lengths I have gone to meet a guy to date. And it is almost always the same. They say they are interesting, we plan to meet, they never show up.

A few times I have meet a guy, well, some of them end it even before we have much of a chance to talk.

In some ways I think the worse one for me was about 10 years ago. I was suppose to meet a guy for coffee. I waited over an hour after he was suppose to show before I left. I had called him several times to see if he was coming or not, but he never answered. He never called me to tell me why he did come.

I tired to call a few times in the following days to see what happened but only ever got voice mail. Finally, I asked a friend if I could use his phone to call and he said okay. So I called this guy (from a different number) and he picked up at once. I asked he why he never showed up and he said "I felt like doing something else." Then he hung up.

Nowadays, if a guy doesn't show up -- which as I said is always -- I make one or two efforts to find out why and if they still might want to meet, but that is all. Even as I send those messages, I know no one is going to reply.

I go through this like every 6-8 months. I just completely burn out on trying to meet anyone and then months and months later I try again -- and they same shit happens. No one shows up then I am ghosted.

I do understand you are trying to help me feel positive that I will meet someone. But I stopped lying to myself about that long ago.

I make the effort because I REALLY want to find a partner. But I do not fool myself to think that I will.

. . .

syuvan12

@bostonpolar:

Thank you for your message, buy I really do not have much hope anymore. I'm 63 years old now.

I just spend about 10 days of a gay dating site sending messages to about 400 different guys and got back about 6 answers of those interested. I spend a LOT of time writing messages to each and more.

I talked and chat with them each a fair amount and they were interesting in meeting so we sent up days and times to meet. One guy even texted me that he would come down and meet in in about 2 hours.

Not one of them showed up. Not only that but they have all ghosted me; they never called to tell me they were not coming. None of them have answered my replied about why they did not come and about possibility meeting again.

One of these was with a "guy" who I had exchanged emails and had Skyped a good dead with – until I realized 1/2 through it was all a hoax. A friend told me this was called "catfishing".

This is how my attempts to meet and date a guy constantly goes. This has happened over and over again for DECADES now. I cannot tell you the lengths I have gone to meet a guy to date. And it is almost always the same. They say they are interesting, we plan to meet, they never show up.

A few times I have meet a guy, well, some of them end it even before we have much of a chance to talk.

In some ways I think the worse one for me was about 10 years ago. I was suppose to meet a guy for coffee. I waited over an hour after he was suppose to show before I left. I had called him several times to see if he was coming or not, but he never answered. He never called me to tell me why he did come.

I tired to call a few times in the following days to see what happened but only ever got voice mail. Finally, I asked a friend if I could use his phone to call and he said okay. So I called this guy (from a different number) and he picked up at once. I asked he why he never showed up and he said "I felt like doing something else." Then he hung up.

Nowadays, if a guy doesn't show up -- which as I said is always -- I make one or two efforts to find out why and if they still might want to meet, but that is all. Even as I send those messages, I know no one is going to reply.

I go through this like every 6-8 months. I just completely burn out on trying to meet anyone and then months and months later I try again -- and they same shit happens. No one shows up then I am ghosted.

I do understand you are trying to help me feel positive that I will meet someone. But I stopped lying to myself about that long ago.

I make the effort because I REALLY want to find a partner. But I do not fool myself to think that I will.

. . .

Hey…I don't really have much dating experience in general, so I definitely don't expect to give you any groundbreaking advice, but if there's one thing I've learnt that is so important, at least in my opinion, it's to NEVER LOSE HOPE!!
I don't think there's much else I can say atm