Does Bi really exist?
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Since I started embracing my gay life, I also evolved my concept of gay/bisex status.
I knew I was attracted to boys since I was a little kid, although my very first memory of a crush was with a little girl named Erika when I was 4 years old. And it's an experience that right to this day I clearly remember.
But I also remembered having little crushes for some other boy not much later.But while being conflicted, I only had GFs till I meet my fist BF, when I was 25 yo. It was a process leaving my GF and getting with my BF, but I never looked back. So, well, for a while I used to say I was bi, but then I realized I didnt care for girls at all. Now I just consider myself as gay.
Throughout my life, I've had hetero, bi, and finally gay phases. So I used to think the "bi" moment was just a transitional phase toward accepting who I am now. And I applied it to others: bi people just cant cope with being gay, and dwell in the concept of "not being REALLY gay".
And while I belive it's true for many, it doesnt suit everybody. Some guys really are bi and like both genders. Many times they prefer one over the other, or prefer to pick one because it's a simpler way of life, while still having some D on the side. But the point is that yes, bisexuality does exist.Do I believe that all those who advertise themselves as bi are REALLY bi? No, I dont. But I do believe that many are genuinely bi.
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Bisexuality is real.
Thing is, there are people to refuse to see the world in shades, only black and white. For them, people are either 100% gay or 100% straight. (Kinsey should come back to the grave to kick their asses, and turn them impotent and frigid)
There's also the thing that sometimes, gay people say they're bi when they first come out (think Elton John), maybe to avoid bluntness, maybe to not be seen as too extreme, maybe just out of fear of utter rejection (since 'bi' is still manageable in the minds of others).
But liking both men and women in different gradations is valid, it is what fills the space between 'Exclusively Homosexual' and 'Exclusively Heterosexual' in the Kinsey Scale.
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of course they do! We do! :crazy2:
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They really exist: I'm really bisexual. I love women, but sometime I have sex also with men.
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As others have stated, we definitely exist. I'm married and love my wife sexually. However, I've always had a thing for men as well and am very much attracted to them sexually as well.
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Back when I was in High School I used to use it as an excuse to sort of ease the transition. Though looking back, it does give legitimate bi people a bad rap.
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As someone who identifies as Bi I think it does. I notice my physical interest in people is about 65/45 between men and women. I also have seen how my interest puts me in an isolated position from both straight and gay communities. Both see it as me not able to decide and flip flopping between being in and out of the closest. To say that you are either straight or gay is a lie. Sexual orientation is a sliding scale.
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They really exist: I'm really bisexual. I love women, but sometime I have sex also with men.
As others have stated, we definitely exist. I'm married and love my wife sexually. However, I've always had a thing for men as well and am very much attracted to them sexually as well.
I've had a lot of friends and a lot of fuck buddies over the years and I have never once met a true "50/50" bisexual guy. I've met gay guys who sometimes have sex with girls. I've met straight guys who sometimes have sex with guys. But in my experience it's always more of a horny/sexual thing than it is a "true love" thing. I also knew a number of guys who identified bisexual in their teens but by the time were in college were exclusively gay
With billions of people in the world I'm sure there are some that are true 50/50 bisexual but I think it's very rare. In my opinion 99% of people are oriented straight or gay. Sure, maybe they sometimes enjoy sex with the other gender on occasion but they have a clear orientation/preference for guys or girls.
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Bisexuality is a real thing. Some people like both genders. Irronically, the LGBT community is close-minded towards bisexuals. You'd think gay people of all people would understand the most, but nope. Bisexuals are often rejected by LGBT communities and told that they are selfish and just "can't decide" or are either "gay or straight".
Bisexual's have it hard because both the straight and LGBT community reject them and think they are simply being indecisive. It's ridiculous. Also, don't ever try to change a bisexual's orientation by trying to make them go completely gay. It won't work. Trying to do that is no different from a straight folk trying to make a gay man straight. Impossible. Sexuality isn't a choice. Bisexuality included. Some people like the opposite sex, some like the same sex, and some like both the opposite sex and the same sex. Nothing is wrong about that, and none of it a choice the person makes. They are born that way.
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From my experience, bisexuals do exist, but they are not the majority, like some people would want us to believe. Most people are either gay or straight, and some are bi.
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I've had a lot of friends and a lot of fuck buddies over the years and I have never once met a true "50/50" bisexual guy.In my opinion 99% of people are oriented straight or gay.
your tiny existence, your tiny little experience is the one and only truth of the world…
Sexual orientation is a sliding scale.
Exactly ! And because of this, when you are bi at 50/50 or close to that, you'r ideal partner as many straight or gay people think, is not "any girl or any guy" and is not twice the size of a straight or gay guy. Not at all it means it's way more difficult to pick a girl, and to pick a guy that might be a suitable sex partner for you. As such your range of possible partner is as large as for the straights and the gays, it's just half in the girl zone ( hence making you not finding "any" girl a sexual partner like for most straights) and half in the men range (hence half the range of a real gay men).All in all it's as difficult for a bi to find a suitable partner than for straights or gays.
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