Do gay people dislike bisexual people?
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i am not really sure i hate them or not
i think love is more important i guess :angel2:
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Why do you think a group of people would hate another? You are lumping a group of people together and that is not right. It's like the assholes around the world hating all Muslim because of a few Muslims that are hateful. Hate is a very strong world, there are a few people I dislike because of what they have done to me (their actions), but I do not hate them or the person. Stop lumping a group of people as having one opinion or mind. I have friends that are gay, bi, straight, white, black, brown, Asian, etc. No two people are alike. Some people are uneducated and refuse to learn and respect others are losing out on so much.
First of all, nobody said that they hate each other, read the title. Second of all, read the comments and you will see why I asked the question.
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OOH!! Such lively discussion. Now that homophobia seems to have breached the "social visibility" line, I kinda feel like this will be the next frontier…biphobia. It really is a nuanced and sensitive topic in the LGBTQ community. I too, used to be mystified and intimidated by the idea of a bisexual man that expressed interest in me because as was mentioned before, there is a level of jealousy and insecurity involved. It's tough to put in words because it's so.... abstract but I'll try.
I think it stems from growing up learning what it was to be gay. I'm referring to the process of realizing you have interest in men but that the majority of them have no interest in you because they were straight. Fundamentally, its a battle you can not win because you are not female–its over before it starts. Once you're past that and get into the community of gay men, its liberating and relieving.
But then when I found out there are men who are into both men and women it was a little disconcerting because it felt like a competition. I never assumed bis were in denial or anything like that--I did the opposite. I lumped them in with straights--I assumed they were just "experimenting" and didn't really romantically like men. I felt like I wouldn't really have a chance with a bi guy because I assumed he'd always like women more than me, and that, somehow, was worse than being cheated on by a gay guy with another man.
It's very binary reasoning, and it doesn't really make sense logically, but in an emotional, subjective way it does. If your gay boyfriend cheats on you with another man, it doesn't feel quite as bad because that other guy has a penis too. Your man's brain is still functioning the same, whether its with you or another man. But women are fundamentally, physically different and if it's possible for him to like "that", it's painful because I, as a man, am literally "not that". The collective "she" will always have a physical, social (and probably psychological) experience with him that I can never have. "She" can give and receive from him what I can never give or receive because I am not female. That thought is a fear of the alien and the unknown because he becomes a part of a different dynamic when he is with a woman, and that thought feels like a betrayal.
That's going preeeeeeetty deep and makes me sound completely insane XD but it's the best way I can describe my own "fear of bi". I can't speak for anyone else but I don't think I'm reaching to say others may have felt this way as well in an abstract, subconscious way.
Let me stress that this was how I thought, say 10 years ago. My thinking has changed a lot since then. Although I might still be a little intimidated by the thought of dating a bi guy, I'd never turn him down if I liked him. I do not judge bi guys and I believe each man should be judged on his own merits, and not his sexuality. We should have enough security in ourselves as people and as sexual beings to allow bi guys to be who they are, and trust that if they like you, they like you
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i dont hate bisexuals but i could never have another relationship with 1 im not into sharing
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i dont hate bisexuals but i could never have another relationship with 1 im not into sharing
This is what confuses me … why does everyone believe that a bisexual guy is going to INSIST on sharing? I want monogamy ... I'm not into sharing either! I have no idea why this is such a common misconception; I have a good gay friend who recently got into a threeway relationship which boggles my mind, but hey ... they all have a penis, so they get a lot less guff from the rest of our friends than if I were to admit that I had gone on a date with a woman two weeks ago.
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Why would they?
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Some people just can't accept difference. I mean this in regards with thinking that being in a relationship with a "bisexual" would instantly mean sharing. It also speaks to the perception that bisexuals are just horny sex beasts who are so insatiable they would have to have sex with both sexes constantly. I'd make a sneaky side bet that most of the guys not interested in bisexuals would fall over backwards if he was identifying as straight which is the absolute height of something something…
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Only very, very stupid and shitty gay people
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Only very, very stupid and shitty gay people
I dated a few of those, they exist. The last one actually did me a favour in that I resolved never to date again. Gots me a 5 year chip now.
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