Only very, very stupid and shitty gay people 

I dated a few of those, they exist.  The last one actually did me a favour in that I resolved never to date again.  Gots me a 5 year chip now.

i dont hate bisexuals but i could never have another relationship with 1 im not into sharing

This is what confuses me … why does everyone believe that a bisexual guy is going to INSIST on sharing? I want monogamy ... I'm not into sharing either! I have no idea why this is such a common misconception; I have a good gay friend who recently got into a threeway relationship which boggles my mind, but hey ... they all have a penis, so they get a lot less guff from the rest of our friends than if I were to admit that I had gone on a date with a woman two weeks ago.

I think it stems from growing up learning what it was to be gay. I'm referring to the process of realizing you have interest in men but that the majority of them have no interest in you because they were straight. Fundamentally, its a battle you can not win because you are not female–its over before it starts.  Once you're past that and get into the community of gay men, its liberating and relieving.

But then when I found out there are men who are into both men and women it was a little disconcerting because it felt like a competition. I never assumed bis were in denial or anything like that--I did the opposite. I lumped them in with straights--I assumed they were just "experimenting" and didn't really romantically like men. I felt like I wouldn't really have a chance with a bi guy because I assumed he'd always like women more than me, and that, somehow, was worse than being cheated on by a gay guy with another man.

It's very binary reasoning, and it doesn't really make sense logically, but in an emotional, subjective way it does. If your gay boyfriend cheats on you with another man, it doesn't feel quite as bad because that other guy has a penis too. Your man's brain is still functioning the same, whether its with you or another man. But women are fundamentally, physically different and if it's possible for him to like "that", it's painful because I, as a man, am literally "not that". The collective "she" will always have a physical, social (and probably psychological) experience with him that I can never have. "She" can give and receive from him what I can never give or receive because I am not female. That thought is a fear of the alien and the unknown because he becomes a part of a different dynamic when he is with a woman, and that thought feels like a betrayal.

That's going preeeeeeetty deep and makes me sound completely insane XD but it's the best way I can describe my own "fear of bi".  I can't speak for anyone else but I don't think I'm reaching to say others may have felt this way as well in an abstract, subconscious way.

Let me stress that this was how I thought, say 10 years ago. My thinking has changed a lot since then. Although I might still be a little intimidated by the thought of dating a bi guy, I'd never turn him down if I liked him. I do not judge bi guys and I believe each man should be judged on his own merits, and not his sexuality. We should have enough security in ourselves as people and as sexual beings to allow bi guys to be who they are, and trust that if they like you, they like you

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Do you?

I'm bi

J'accuse

Do you?

I'm bi

Why do you think a group of people would hate another?  You are lumping a group of people together and that is not right.  It's like the assholes around the world hating all Muslim because of a few Muslims that are hateful. Hate is a very strong world, there are a few people I dislike because of what they have done to me (their actions), but I do not hate them or the person. Stop lumping a group of people as having one opinion or mind.  I have friends that are gay, bi, straight, white, black, brown, Asian, etc.  No two people are alike.  Some people are uneducated and refuse to learn and respect others are losing out on so much.

First of all, nobody said that they hate each other, read the title. Second of all, read the comments and you will see why I asked the question.

i think love is more important i guess :angel2:

Nonsense. The whole concept of sexual orientation is a very new one; there was not really a concept of bisexuality, heterosexuality, bisexuality, or beyond, prior to a few decades ago. There were bisexual men in the Stonewall riots; we've been in it since day one.

Also ... bisexual women may face less discrimination, but bisexual men mostly definitely do not. To most of the straight world, you're simply perceived as "gay," and for much of the gay community, you're either told you're in denial and your true identity doesn't actually exist, or you're feared and discriminated against in terms of potential romantic connections. I've had a drunk guy who had been hitting on me for an hour at a bar once, suddenly unleash a screaming tirade against me (the boy was actually QUIVERING, he was so angry) once I'd told him I'd been bisexual as long as I'd had a sex drive that I could recognize.

Whether or not a person has life experiences to feel the way they do about another group of people ... it's still prejudice when you make blanket assumptions about that group based on your tiny, microscopic interactions with a meager few of the people that make up the entirety of that group. I've never understood a gay guy telling me that he wouldn't date a bisexual man. It all seems to be based in fear that there's something not completely 'honest' about us, and we're going to do something wild and unpredictable.

It's funny that the same guy that was quivering in rage at me that I'd dare identify myself with the word had just slurred through a sob story about how all his 100% homosexual partners of the past had cheated on him. Honestly, isn't the promise just humanity in general? Why the persistent need to attach a past experience of being burned onto some irrelevant detail about that person, and mentally assigning that as the cause?

I don't dislike bisexual people, but there are a few things that bother me, regardless of whether it's politically correct or not.

1. Lack of explanation. Why don't bisexual men tell me which gender they prefer over the other when I am interested in them? Like, do you prefer men sexually and women romantically? It's far more confusing than hetero- or homo- preferences.

What? Stereotype of bi. Bi can fuck with both and falling in love with love with both, not only fuck with men and fall in love with women or viceversa.

2. We aren't part of a community. This whole "LGBT" nonsense is just a way to group some people together under a label. I have nothing in common with a bisexual person just because we are both attracted to men.

I'm with you at this point. As a gay person, except for the sexual matter, I feel like a martian in other questions related to the gay "culture"

3. They don't face as much discrimination. A lot of the time, bisexual men act "straighter" and can assimilate in straight culture than gay men. I can't say how many times a straight guy has wanted me to be bi instead of gay so I could go to bars and clubs and help him pick up women. Bisexual men and women should stop saying they face the same kind of discrimination or more discrimination than I do. They don't.

This thought is another stereotype . It's sounds like, all the gay act like females and bi, don't. Wrong.

4. Jealousy. This is stupid but I don't know how I'd feel about dating a bisexual man who would be interested in women more than men. It would always make me feel inferior and jealous.

This is only caused by your insecurity.

1. Lack of explanation. Why don't bisexual men tell me which gender they prefer over the other when I am interested in them? Like, do you prefer men sexually and women romantically? It's far more confusing than hetero- or homo- preferences.
2. We aren't part of a community. This whole "LGBT" nonsense is just a way to group some people together under a label. I have nothing in common with a bisexual person just because we are both attracted to men.
3. They don't face as much discrimination. A lot of the time, bisexual men act "straighter" and can assimilate in straight culture than gay men. I can't say how many times a straight guy has wanted me to be bi instead of gay so I could go to bars and clubs and help him pick up women. Bisexual men and women should stop saying they face the same kind of discrimination or more discrimination than I do. They don't.
4. Jealousy. This is stupid but I don't know how I'd feel about dating a bisexual man who would be interested in women more than men. It would always make me feel inferior and jealous.

I can't even imagine the torture those souls go through, the whole LGBTQRSVP I mean, that lot have a worse lot than Lot's wife.

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