What would you do if you fall into love with a straight man
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It's very difficult as I had crushes at school with str8 guys and later in my working life had the same. Yes they knew I was gay and liked male bonding like hugging, sharing the shower etc and it frustrated me massively. Naturallym I want to keep the strong friendships without crossing that line…
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I believe we've all been on this situation more often than not, simply because most men identify themselves as straight. A lot of people will tell you to go for it and try it, but think about how you'd feel if it was the other way around, if a girl tried to "flip" you. The LGBT community is sometimes so fixed on all orientations deserving respect that we sometimes forget that the cisgender heterosexual people are also an ortientation and deserve as much respect, if the guy turns out to be bi or gay on denial or something of the sorts that's a different story, and in those situations things tend to happen pretty naturally, but on most cases it's better to move on.
TL;DR= clinging to the hopeful belief that any straight man can be turned gay/bi for you is just as offensive and close minded as the religious nuts that believe any gay/bi man can be turned straight for Jesus. They're here, they're NOT queer, we better get used to it.
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Sure, its though, been there, but the worst is loving a gay to pretend to be straight.
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I once fell for my best friend. He's straight, but quite comfy with himself. We talk about quite literally everything. I told him if he ever gets curious, I call dibs.
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Sure, its though, been there, but the worst is loving a gay to pretend to be straight.
Or a guy who's so closeted that he never intends to acknowledge you in public as anything other than your frien
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that would be hard
but i think i would kinda get some distance from him, and try to move on -
Sure, its though, been there, but the worst is loving a gay to pretend to be straight.
Or a guy who's so closeted that he never intends to acknowledge you in public as anything other than your frien
That hurts so much worse. Falling for a straight man is just yearning for the unobtainable, but that's like having something that could, should and would be better, but you just aren't worth it to him…
That's how I felt about it anyway. -
it happened to me so many times. i cant really explain but yes…. its highly painful.
the main problem is, the communication u do with him and the stuff he doesnt understand.
u come back home empty handed.
miserable.....!! -
I'm now in a deep crush with my straight colleague. He is cool and playful. I seem to see him every time I close my eyes.
I know I will be able to move on after he finishes his contract here and move back to the HQ.
I feel very happy every time I am around him. I think It's just a good feeling to be a secret admirer.
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There was a period of time that I was constantly falling for straight guys. This eventually passed; I still have the occasional crush or lust-on, but I'm able to see it for what it is and deal appropriately.
What I discovered after a lot of thought was that during that period of time, I was feeling very distant from the gay scene; I'm not into bars or clubs, am rather plain looking and overweight. In other words, I was feeling very insecure about my looks, body, and social skills, and found trying to get to know other gay guys VERY intimidating.
I was also in a period of self-sabotage (job, etc) where I was so afraid of failing at something that I would either A) opt out and not even try, or B) do something that would end the situation soon after the start. The logic is: the best way to avoid failure is to not participate in the first place. I'm sure we've all done this to ourselves at one time or another.
In the case of falling for straight men, I did it because it was SAFE. I already knew what the outcome would be (nothing) and so indulging in this was a way for me to feel emotional without the risk of having to eventually go through an actual rejection. Trying to connect with a gay guy was far riskier because there was the possibility of some degree of success - and in my own insecure mind, almost a certainty of failure.
I'm not saying this true for everyone else, but I found out that this was my truth.
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There is a certain attraction for the straight guys!
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No matter what, I still think you need to try and also need to know all the consequences that may happen in the future.
First, you should know whether you want to keep the friendship with him if you action failed. if you want, your influence step should be very slow, and in that case I am not sure whether you could keep that feeling that long.
Second, get close to him, play game with him, care about his life and work, but not too much, try to make him feel that you are his close friend.
Third, after being friend, try to let him accept who you are, if he is a homophobic, then you should give up immediately. Because sometimes his homophobic feelings will transform to violent and he also may feel that you cheated him.
Fourth, if he can accept you, try to influence his life habit, and when you can occupy most of his time and normal life, at this time, I think you are very close to the success.
Finally, I do not recommend you to change him. Because when he have to face the pressure from his family and society, he might give up very easy. And all your work and love, at that time, is nothing but trash.
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I had a relationship for two years with a straight guy: it was the weirdest thing ever. We loved each other, even had sex occasionally, and we were very close friends. Then he met a female woman and his urge to procreate and leave his genes for future generations ruined everything. But we're still friends and I'm hoping he'll come to his senses, get a divorce and come back to me
Of course, I've been waiting for 20 years, but who's counting? :cheesy2: -
move on, don't waste your time on someone that will never love you back
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There's this great scene in United States of Tara. Great show, I recommend it to everyone.
Background: The show is about a woman with Dissociative Identity/Multiple Personality Disorder. One persona thinks she's a 17yo slut. Her and her husband have two kids, the younger being openly gay.
Son falls for boy. Boy is pastor's son. Son tries to get closer to boy. Become best friends. Son makes move on boy. Boy approves. They have a closeted relationship. 17yo slut comes out, hits on boy. Mom and boy make out. Son sees. Son flips shit. Sister gets real:Jason is nothing but a bi-curious church monkey who's using you to find some edge.
So maybe he will fuck some guys, and maybe you can get him to fuck you.
But he's gonna marry a girl, and he's never gonna love you the same way that you love him. -
do nothing, get over it
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Been there when I was a teenager, it was tough.
Never done it since. Never will. I know better now.And if you do you just have to stop moping after him and get over it as quickly as possible.
Every day you spend on him is a day wasted. -
already gone through this shit. was in one sided love with my best buddy who was straight.i'm glad it's over and i have grown out of it.
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