@dzirlo:
if you're not an asshole, than you probably have a sense for that topic being called for discussion or not.
sometimes it's extremely wrong, sometimes there's (friendly) space for it.
i've been listening my whole life the "omg u so skinny!" mantra, from my first steps, till today as i meet all kinds of patriarchal gay idiots with the proverbial "never enough of a real man" complex.
i've worked out as long as i could as a result of a social pressure, got seriously injured and now working out for me is over.
must say, people made me really sensitive about that topic.
no, i don't have an issue with my looks. i don't care how i look for myself.
it really is that "the others" made that an issue, as some psychologist said, "it's always the others that kill the suicidal ones".
You have clear thoughts for you.. :love: