Does bottoming hurt?
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I've had three fuckbuddies.
One was a bit below average. I even asked the dreaded "Are you in?" question once.
The next was a bit above average with a good mushroom tip. It hurt going in, and when it popped through, then it didn't hurt at all, but made me feel full inside and massaged me nicely.
The last was really big and attached to a heavy guy who really liked to pound. It hurt me so that I was involuntarily moaning all while being fucked and my ass burned and tingled for a day afterward.I only fantasize about the last guy now.
I'm the same way. Total maso-slut nowadays.
To answer the OP's question, the primary factor is how relaxed you are. It is entirely possible to work your way up to any cock size or dildo size with preparation and care and have absolutely no pain involved. Rimming/reaming is very helpful in this regard, since the anal ring has pleasure sensitive nerves, and a tongue is basically incapable of causing pain. The pleasure helps you to relax, so that you can easily take small to average sized dicks without pain. Larger cocks will require more prep, either with fingers or toys, to get you used to having an object inserted and stretch you out a little ahead of time.
For most guys, I personally don't need any prep because I love receiving and I can relax myself back there without effort. Those muscles are under your control, but you'll probably need some experience receiving before you learn how to use them that way, since they are mostly autonomically controlled.
On the other hand, if you're really nervous and can't relax, and your partner refuses to prep you or doesn't know how, it'll probably hurt. Always remember; 2 virgins + A bed = A mistake.
Oh, random sidenote; someone else said condoms help, but for me it's always been the opposite; they pull at my anal ring and make what should feel good very uncomfortable.
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It doesn't hurt when the top knows how to fuck.
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Hearing some amusing comments - no it shouldn't hurt. Been bottoming for 20 years - am submissive pig bottom and can take an absolute pounding and able to wear out multiple guys.
Relaxing is key - obviously. Condoms feel sticky and grab at times so bareback (skin to skin) is always better feeling.
Use plenty of lube. Take your time. Rimming and fingering can be good but be careful fingering doesn't irritate your hole too much before any of the fun begins.
Highly recommend poppers if you're going to bottom. They help you relax and they make bottoming feel fantastic! Also recommend a little NSID (Motrin) type pain reliever before hand. Like the daily does a hour before. This ensures any residual pain is minimal and reduces inflammation.
As for cleaning - get a hose for your shower from any online sex shop and use low water pressure (I said low water pressure) to fill up your colon and squirt the water out. Do this a few times to rinse things out. Then you can go ass to mouth to ass to mouth and not worry about anything. A good bottom should be able to go ass to mouth to ass to mouth
The type of lube matters. Water based lube is slick and generally good for fucking but it dries out fast so you need to apply it often. If the top doesn't, the bottom will hurt. Silicon lubes last much longer but are often thicker for jacking off. Do NOT use a thick silicone lube for fucking. You will hurt - the top will love it but you will not. So ask around if you don't know whats' best for fucking.
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During my first time I felt nothing AT ALL. He had an average penis (6 inches or so) and we used plenty of lube.
Of course, this may vary from person to person.
(And no I didn't tell him that)
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I've had three fuckbuddies.
One was a bit below average. I even asked the dreaded "Are you in?" question once.
The next was a bit above average with a good mushroom tip. It hurt going in, and when it popped through, then it didn't hurt at all, but made me feel full inside and massaged me nicely.
The last was really big and attached to a heavy guy who really liked to pound. It hurt me so that I was involuntarily moaning all while being fucked and my ass burned and tingled for a day afterward.I only fantasize about the last guy now.
But why would you prefer the last guy if it made you suffer so much? The second only made you feel pleasure If I understood correctly.
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I think he meant he won't have sex with the last guy again and its just limited to fantasizing.
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to me, yes
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Being a TOP, it would appear that now a days they want it to hurt or have instances of pleasure mixed with pain in an aggressive context to be remembered by. being a bottom is a lot of prep and very little effort as the TOP does all the work. In my many conquests I'd have to say that if it hurts, you should find a small, slender penis thats good for 50 pumps and pulls out…lol
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Versatile here, and I definitely do not enjoy pain. With proper lube and a guy who listens to feedback it is extremely pleasant. The first time I came solely from being fucked it was one of the most amazing orgasms ever (partially because I had no idea that was even possible). In fact, cumming from having your A-spot hit the right way is amazing no matter when it happens. Extremely intense, and often makes the guy cum with you at the same time.
Guys who enjoy pain have other issues, as do the ones who enjoy inflicting it.
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Yes it hurt me some times and some times it does not
So i guess finger your hole and prepare before any encounter -
not to me
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yes it does, at start and it can continue to hurt if the top does not take care of you right and understand your needs
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It depends on the top and how nervous/relaxed you are. Once I had a horrible experience and started bleeding a little, the top had an extremely thick cock. Sitting and pooping was a living hell. On the other hand, I hooked up with a guy who would put it in really smooth and then proceed to pound me like there is no tomorrow. No pain at all.
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If this is a survey type post… i vote NO - it doesn't hurt
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Nope.
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I bottomed few or more times in my life. Well hmm. It depends on your mental set-up too I guess. I'm more of a top so it hurt me actually but my last ex was really big. Like REALLY and well it was kind of uncomfortable but worth it. It wasn't some great feeling but I just kept coming and coming for more, I mean even though he didn't force me I would like to sit on his dick and let him fuck me. One of the last times we had sex I guess I adjusted cause it was really good. didn't have any prostate orgasm or smth (not in my whole life) but he did such a great job.
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It truly requires commitment from you and your partner to make it as painless as possible.
I started out as a total bottom, and the first time, it was with a guy who knew what he was doing. He got plenty of lube in me and on his cock and watched my reactions carefully. He eased it in gradually, and left it in when my sphincter was being stretched. It hurt at first, but I became accustomed to it rather quickly, as we stayed stationary until the initial wave of pain had passed. There was very little pain after that, as he gradually made his thrusts deeper so that I could acclimate to the feeling, and it felt so good. He made sure to be expressive because of my love for making other people happy, and I was so focused on how good the two of us were feeling that I came pretty quickly, setting him off.
My next encounter was the next night, with another guy, who didn't care about my pleasure. While his dick was shorter, it was fatter, and he didn't even lube up or give me any sort of warning. He just shoved it in and went to town. It was painful for far longer than it needed to be, and it only really started to feel good when he started to ooze copious amounts of precum in my ass. He kept pounding me for maybe twenty more seconds and then flipped me over and his cum gushed all over me. I realized that I have a huge fetish for cum and stayed the night. We did it again in the morning before I left for work, but I couldn't even enjoy it because my ass was so sore.
Eventually my body learned how to adapt to bottoming. I wish I knew what words to tell you, other than it takes time, and effort. Also, making the motion for pushing out while he's pushing in actually helps with getting it in deeper, since it widens the pathway. But my most important point is that it takes two to make it a pleasurable experience. Do it with someone who wants you to feel the least amount of pain and the most amount of pleasure. If you're choosing to do it with someone you love, then your goals should not be to get off, but to make the experience enjoyable for the other partner.
Btw, it turns out I'm versatile. And I'm really up for doing whatever I know will please my partner. Lately I've been topping so much that I'm starting to miss the awesome feeling of being a bottom.
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always hurt
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Yes A GOD DAMM LOOOOOOOT!
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It truly requires commitment from you and your partner to make it as painless as possible.
I started out as a total bottom, and the first time, it was with a guy who knew what he was doing. He got plenty of lube in me and on his cock and watched my reactions carefully. He eased it in gradually, and left it in when my sphincter was being stretched. It hurt at first, but I became accustomed to it rather quickly, as we stayed stationary until the initial wave of pain had passed. There was very little pain after that, as he gradually made his thrusts deeper so that I could acclimate to the feeling, and it felt so good. He made sure to be expressive because of my love for making other people happy, and I was so focused on how good the two of us were feeling that I came pretty quickly, setting him off.
My next encounter was the next night, with another guy, who didn't care about my pleasure. While his dick was shorter, it was fatter, and he didn't even lube up or give me any sort of warning. He just shoved it in and went to town. It was painful for far longer than it needed to be, and it only really started to feel good when he started to ooze copious amounts of precum in my ass. He kept pounding me for maybe twenty more seconds and then flipped me over and his cum gushed all over me. I realized that I have a huge fetish for cum and stayed the night. We did it again in the morning before I left for work, but I couldn't even enjoy it because my ass was so sore.
Eventually my body learned how to adapt to bottoming. I wish I knew what words to tell you, other than it takes time, and effort. Also, making the motion for pushing out while he's pushing in actually helps with getting it in deeper, since it widens the pathway. But my most important point is that it takes two to make it a pleasurable experience. Do it with someone who wants you to feel the least amount of pain and the most amount of pleasure. If you're choosing to do it with someone you love, then your goals should not be to get off, but to make the experience enjoyable for the other partner.
Btw, it turns out I'm versatile. And I'm really up for doing whatever I know will please my partner. Lately I've been topping so much that I'm starting to miss the awesome feeling of being a bottom.
Nice! I think you're a lucky person for being a versatile.
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