Can you be friends with you ex-boyfriend?
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Every relationship I've ever been in has ended very, very badly. So the idea of being friends with my exes is pretty laughable. But I have developed an awkward, touchy truce with a man I was with for about a year and a half. We hadn't spoken in about a year and he hit me up on a dating site when he saw me online. Now, we clearly still carry a great deal of feelings for each other since we didn't get a lot of closure about the end of the relationship. We ended up meeting and spending the night in a hotel together. BAD IDEA. We both know that getting back together is out of the question (there's a reason two people break up), but I feel like we're both kinda silently pining for each other. It's hard to listen to him go on about his sexual conquests and I'm sure it's hard for him to hear about men I'm getting serious about. It's very difficult to be friends with an ex. You know this person on so many levels. It's hard to zap that away and go back. But notice I said "hard" and not "impossible".
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Speaking from personal experience id say that this is all mostly true. I do think there are some cases where you can be friends with your ex but that depends on things like what caused the relationship to end and if you both feel platonic towards each other.
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Well im friends with my ex's and there is not a problem. you just move on
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I tried, I really did, but there was just so much of an intensity of emotions on his part, that it turned out to be impossible… :blownose:
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it is possible to befriend your ex. in my case.. he is still my father.. :cheesy2:
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BEFRIENDING YOUR EX SPARKS HOPE ALL OVER AGAIN! AND IN THE PHIL. WE CALL IT "HOPEYA"
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it is possible to befriend your ex. in my case.. he is still my father.. :cheesy2:
:afr:
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haha.. yep.. he is my foster dad. not my biological.. he adopt me for sexual relief. he strings me for more than 10 years. yep.. you read it right.. more than ten years.. I have grownup as bear cub and he is loosing interest in me, as he is always attracted to twinks.. the person that I was in the last ten years. It is sad to see him stop seeing me on regularly basis and never ever chat to me in discreet. If it is hard for you to visualised it … then, go listen to Daff Punk "instant crush" it will helps you understand.
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haha.. yep.. he is my foster dad. not my biological.. he adopt me for sexual relief. he strings me for more than 10 years. yep.. you read it right.. more than ten years.. I have grownup as bear cub and he is loosing interest in me, as he is always attracted to twinks.. the person that I was in the last ten years. It is sad to see him stop seeing me on regularly basis and never ever chat to me in discreet. If it is hard for you to visualised it … then, go listen to Daff Punk "instant crush" it will helps you understand.
wooow i only thought that does exist in porn im not judging you it's just never heard a real story about this!!!!! is he a hot one at least lol
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Its not. I am not a friend with any of my ex. First of all, if we can be a friend we will continue our relationship….
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IMHO : he is very cute and mild temperament. physically : everything that I want from a Daddy e.g Salt and Pepper hair, pot belly, smooth, moustache. I wish no one else is going down the same path like me. It's hurting.. I never be able to moved on and find a new daddy as he is too long inside my mind. I found no one sexier and crazy attractive like him. I lived in a constant depression. It seems like this will never end.
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IMHO : he is very cute and mild temperament. physically : everything that I want from a Daddy e.g Salt and Pepper hair, pot belly, smooth, moustache. I wish no one else is going down the same path like me. It's hurting.. I never be able to moved on and find a new daddy as he is too long inside my mind. I found no one sexier and crazy attractive like him. I lived in a constant depression. It seems like this will never end.
u're not alone in this buddy,actually everyone been in a relationship suffers the same…. everyone has this special guy in his heart but life and people goes on so you must do. that's what i've learned lately
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Yes.
You can be friends with an ex.
Sometimes.Not every relationship ends with insurmountable baggage.
Sometimes things just don't work out and you're not both assholes, so yeah… you can be friends.
Other times.. there's too much baggage.It's not alot different than divorce.
Sometimes the people can stay civil and be friends, and sometimes they want to shoot on sight. -
I'm friends with my "former partner" (I don't like calling former partners "EXes"). We started off as friends, we were friends during our relationship and we're friends 2 years after our relationship ended.
I can only speak of my experience but I was open to friendship with him because I love the person he is, not because I wanted us to get back together. It takes time to transition, but we communicated and did everything out of love. I don't think I've ever wanted to get back with someone I've broken up. For me, when shits over, it's over. Why go back? Move on.
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I'd say it depends on how bad the breakup was. However, the only two ex's I have, we don't really speak much. One, we were still friends but I haven't seen them in over a year, and I doubt we'll be hanging out anytime soon. My other ex, well, I'll never see him again. We talked for a bit, but there was distance between us and he ended up cutting all ties with me one day.
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thanks durexx.
I don't know why the system doesn't allows me to quote you.. :hug:
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I'm good friends with one of my exes, but that doesn't mean it isn't complicated. And it took a lot of work to stay friends.
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If you once find out that your ex never respected you, you won't be able to befriends with him. That's my sad and real life experience… :cry2:
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I am! ;D
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I'd say you can definitely be friends with ex's. I am, with a couple anyways.
Would depend on why you broke up I guess, if the spark was just gone or any other similar consensual break-up happened then I don't see why not.
As long as it didn't end badly.
And as long as there is no emotional or sexual attraction between you anymore, cus that's just trouble right there.
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