I'm always a little perplexed by people who talk about hanging out with exes as friends long after relationships are over, but I've noticed that the people who say that they can do this are the sort of people that have very high relationship turnover (the folks who can point to a long list of exes, and always seem to be "with" somebody, never single for longer than a month or two).

The only thing I can think is that their definition of being "in love" is very different from mine. Love, for me, is drowning in the concept of somebody, and if it goes on long enough, making them a secure fixture in your life. Comfortable and known and reliable. They should never stop making you happy when you get to spend time with them. I don't even cross into the "relationship" zone with them unless I'm literally getting butterflies in the stomach when I think about them.

Others just go "meh" and say "let's see how it goes" and slap that Facebook In-a-Relationship status up at the drop of a hat.

The people who have exes as friends never give themselves over to it as completely as the people who can't be friends with exes do. They're holding parts of themselves back, always guarded, so that they never risk becoming too invested. That's my theory.

It is perfectly possible to stay friends with an ex, providing the end of the 'love affair' period of the relationship ends without animosity and mutual respect.

On the other hand the guy I'm meeting with right now starts as friends. He has contact with some of his exes because they were friends at first and for him the end of relationship doesn't change that.

I don't know why the system doesn't allows me to quote you..  :hug:

I can only speak of my experience but I was open to friendship with him because I love the person he is, not because I wanted us to get back together. It takes time to transition, but we communicated and did everything out of love. I don't think I've ever wanted to get back with someone I've broken up. For me, when shits over, it's over. Why go back? Move on.

Not every relationship ends with insurmountable baggage.
Sometimes things just don't work out and you're not both assholes, so yeah… you can be friends.
Other times.. there's too much baggage.

It's not alot different than divorce.
Sometimes the people can stay civil and be friends, and sometimes they want to shoot on sight.

IMHO : he is very cute and mild temperament. physically : everything that I want from a Daddy e.g Salt and Pepper hair, pot belly, smooth, moustache. I wish no one else is going down the same path like me. It's hurting.. I never be able to moved on and find a new daddy as he is too long inside my mind. I found no one sexier and crazy attractive like him. I lived in a constant depression. It seems like this will never end.

u're not alone in this buddy,actually everyone been in a relationship suffers the same…. everyone has this special guy in his heart but life and people goes on so you must do. that's what i've learned lately

haha.. yep.. he is my foster dad. not my biological.. he adopt me for sexual relief. he strings me for more than 10 years. yep.. you read it right.. more than ten years.. I have grownup as bear cub and he is loosing interest in me, as he is always attracted to twinks.. the person that I was in the last ten years. It is sad to see him stop seeing me on regularly basis and never ever chat to me in discreet. If it is hard for you to visualised it … then, go listen to Daff Punk "instant crush" it will helps you understand.

wooow i only thought that does exist in porn im not judging you it's just never heard a real story about this!!!!! is he a hot one at least lol