First gay crush
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Having been in such a boat myself, I know that feeling all too well. By the simple fact alone that he's clearly been observing you would suggest to me that there's some sort of attraction to you. Perhaps he's afraid of approaching you for the same reason that you have this little dilemma with approaching him. I know for my days at the gym that I generally tended to keep to myself for fear of creating an unpleasant situation, despite the number of times that I could swear I was being cruised. Perhaps starting with some sort of casual conversation may also be a good place to start to kind of see how things go.
My recommendation would be to start with asking about his workout plan as it were. Playing dumb is often a good way to stir some conversation. Depending on how things go from there would determine what the next step would be. If possible, casually start to turn the conversation from the workout to a more general level, as to get a sense of where his interests are. It is quite likely from the sounds of it that he may either be closeted, or is possibly afraid to make the first advance on anyone for fear that they may be straight.
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Having been in such a boat myself, I know that feeling all too well. By the simple fact alone that he's clearly been observing you would suggest to me that there's some sort of attraction to you. Perhaps he's afraid of approaching you for the same reason that you have this little dilemma with approaching him. I know for my days at the gym that I generally tended to keep to myself for fear of creating an unpleasant situation, despite the number of times that I could swear I was being cruised. Perhaps starting with some sort of casual conversation may also be a good place to start to kind of see how things go.
My recommendation would be to start with asking about his workout plan as it were. Playing dumb is often a good way to stir some conversation. Depending on how things go from there would determine what the next step would be. If possible, casually start to turn the conversation from the workout to a more general level, as to get a sense of where his interests are. It is quite likely from the sounds of it that he may either be closeted, or is possibly afraid to make the first advance on anyone for fear that they may be straight.
Good to see someone which faced the same situation. I will compliment him next time I see him, and I will see if he will extend the conversation. If not, I will try asking about his workout plan as suggested.
Thanks =]
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I would go with MrMazda's suggestion. General chat about something in the news, the weather, price of petrol, sports results etc, can tease out more information about each other without being too blatant, therefore reducing the chance of scaring him off. Soak up any nuggets of information he tells you, read up on it if necessary and bring the subject up the next time. At worst, if it all comes to nothing, you will still have the exciting 'thrill of the chase' experience to look back on.
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So, I complimented him today. But his face looked so gloom and apathetic that I couldn't engage a conversation (that's odd, since he looked happy on the day of equipment sharing, even being that nervous). Maybe he had a bad day, dunno.
Let's see on wednesday, when we meet again ;D
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if he has been staring at you more than once than that'd definitely a sign!, talk to the guy, think of something :p, b creative
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I remember my first and only gay crush. One of my coaches in high school football seemed to like me. One day he was talking to me and he just smiled and stared for a bit. I was always to afraid to try anything, and besides that, he was married. All I can tell you is just get to know him, and don't expect anything. You might end up with a new friend, or even better.
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What happened? ???
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Austin St. John? (The origional Red Ranger lol) he was fine back then x=
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Talk to him about anything. I usually use the lines of "You look so familiar, do I know you from somewhere?" then you take it from there.
Don't build castles in the sky though; unless you are 100 percent sure that he is attracted to you, do not make a move; some guys will feel complimented when you tell them they are hot, some guys will get violent, so be careful. Also, because you are already biased about him and you are infatuated with him you may want him to like you and therefore, you will see things that are not there… don't make assumptions and just take it slow getting to know him first. Start with casual conversation and go from there.. yes, I know you want to rip his clothes off right now and make love to him, but remember this, Rome was not built in one day
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So, I complimented him today. But his face looked so gloom and apathetic that I couldn't engage a conversation (that's odd, since he looked happy on the day of equipment sharing, even being that nervous). Maybe he had a bad day, dunno.
Let's see on wednesday, when we meet again ;D
Aww no update!!??
But anyway, my first crush was probably a gym teacher from middle school. I even have my yearbook from that year, still.
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