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mantari

I saw that topic over there, but I didn't reply, because they don't like replies that aren't open minded. (Example: say something like "I don't like fisting and felching." will get you pounced on.) Of course, I saw the topic here and I thought to myself, "Is someone doing some research with all of this?"

In any case, the thing I regret about being gay is being lumped in with all gay people (and then also being branded for any of their perceived negative behavior). I suppose this is as much about other gay people as it is people who lump us all into one group. But in middle America, the kind of exposure that people got for years was those wacky gay pride parades with leather daddies yanking around their 'pet' on a chain, and other over-the-top images. Take a story like gay marriage, and the local news is fed (from the national network) pictures of older mustache-men kissing. And that's what is going to be in everyone's head.

I purchase my a house, and everyone expects me to be Christopher Lowell or something. Or, because I'm gay, I'm totally defined in a sexual role that some people can't unfixate themselves from. "Gay people will have sex with any man! Hey, I know another gay guy, let me set you up. You're gay, he's gay, it is a perfect match!"

So, what I regret about being gay is the baggage that comes with the label. The image in middle America is so much more negative than positive. It drags you down.

EDIT: Typo fixed.

coffeeboy2k

I completely agree with you, Mantari. The stereotypes are certainly something that needs to be overcome, and I think uit's happening – albeit at a very slow rate.

It's somewhat frustrating for me here in the Philippines. Strangely, they are very open-minded about the gay culture here -- provided you work in a beauty parlor, dress as a woman, or do/say outrageous things. Gay, here is usually interpreted as "fey". And while theres absolutely nothing wrong with being that, not all of us are like that. It's a constant struggle to break stereotypes. I'm sure a lot of you feel that way at times. Bottom line, being who you are is the most important thing.

There's really nothing I regret, but there is something I hate -- being asked "In a relationship, are you the girl or the guy?" GRRR!!!!

vitamin

I think that there is nothing to regret in a gay life: we are the ones who are allowed to do anything!!!

Since when would a straight guy dress up like a woman just for the fun of it? (except at carneval ;-)) ) We can be stylish when we like to even wear a suit for grocery shopping at 6 am. Everybody will just think "oh he´s gay, that´s ok

And i have to agree with coffeeboy2k about archetypes…
Meanwhile my only answer to the question "who is the girl" is "both of us because we are a lesbian couple, can´t u tell?" gg

Anyway there is nothing to regret: we have better sex, we have more fun and we look better than straight people (at least in austria) :-))

coffeeboy2k

@vitamin:

Anyway there is nothing to regret: we have better sex, we have more fun and we look better than straight people (at least in austria) :-))

Amen to that! BTW, a study showed that gay men have 70% more sex that straight men. Now is that something to be regretful about? I think not!!!

F00F

@coffeeboy2k:

Amen to that! BTW, a study showed that gay men have 70% more sex that straight men. Now is that something to be regretful about? I think not!!!

That's because 50% of the breeders always suffers from headaches.

greenhatboy

absolutly no regrets well about being gay anyways….

raphjd

I don't regret a single thing.

I do wish that being gay made no difference to anyone and that we were treated as total equals in society.

thomas261989

Having kids! Of course, my boyfriend and I cannot have our biological kids but there are many ways out there to have kids to raise. So, nothing to regret at all!

CountAchee

attitude against homosexual people, especially in my country

thevodkarose

I regret the bitchy gay scene. It's not my thing, and I now avoid it.

I much prefer nights out in a breeders rock club. They are full of nice gay emos anyway. :lol:

twinkerzzz

Well regret is a strong but specific term - here's the dictionary definition:

verb
feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, )
used in polite formulas to express apology for or sadness over something unfortunate or unpleasant.
archaic feel sorrow for the loss or absence of (something pleasant).
noun
a feeling of sadness, repentance, or disappointment over something that has happened or been done.
(often regrets) an instance or cause of such a feeling.
(often one's regrets) used in polite formulas to express apology for or sadness at an occurrence or an inability to accept an invitation : please give your grandmother my regrets.

The second part of your question applies this notion to any notion of being gay.
SO no - there is not anything i regret as such about being gay
BUT
there are other words i do use like resent and annoyed to specifically describe prejudice , the damage prejudice does to people and the experiences that are potentially denied them because of that damage.

Regret has connotations of selfreproach. All humans have to contend with a degree of failure or mistakes made in a life time - regret is part of coming to terms with oneself - part of the process of learning, growing and getting through life - but i don't think it should be an end in itself - that is too morbid, too defeatist and whether striaght , bi or gay - i would say you shouldnt regret life itself.

Alex9989

Honestly, it just really annoys me when people say "Oh, thats so gay", but not as in a gay person, as in like a stupid thing.
Like if their phone isn't working they'll say "God my phone is so gay". That bothers me, because its like saying gay=stupid.

lovehole

difinitely, no! ever since, when i was a child i always wanted to be happy with my life. finally, i'm happy right now so, regret i never a choice! honestly, i don't care what people is saying behind my back! or front! one thing, for sure they will never understand us because they were never in our shoes… these poeple who think them self as superior than ours! they are clearly, blinded by their cons!

DAB

I have no regrets, whatsoever. I do find problems, with the people around me who are ignorant about homosexuality (and so many other things…).

Being gay has made me very strong, and I think it is a good move by whatever caused me to put me in this position. Not being able to make babies with a partner that would seem natural to me, is a bummer, but life is not fair to begin with, so what am I bitching about?

And really, what is there to regret about something you had no say in? I could regret the shittiness of the world, but what's the use?