Would/Have you ever out someone who is in the closet ?

spam17

@kukashiffr:

So I wanna know that have you out someone who was in the closet or would you ever do it if you know someone who is doing it behind closed doors. How does gossip like so and so celebrity is gay also comes. Someone's is always an instigator there. Weather the allegation is true or not people just call out certain celebrities for the way they act or the ppl they hangout with even if they are openly LGBT.

For e.g ppl always call Will Smith gay and his wife Jada Pinkett a lesbian, same is for Queen Latifah and I think people also used to call Sophie B Hawkins the singer a lesbian back in the 90's but now she is happily married and have kids. So we are all ears. Out with it. :blind:

Nope, because it's all about respect, and I respect their privacy as much as I respect mine.
It's a different case however, if he/she's an annoying prick who has been trying to out me first. Then I might simply give them hell. >:D

As for celebrities, well… from what I can tell (a colleague used to work in local showbiz), they actually know each other sexuality much better than their fans. So their circle of friends highly likely already aware about it, but decided to stay silent because exposing them would have negative effects on their careers as well. Heck, they don't want to risk being outed as well.

:love:

alveer

yes

spam17

@alveer:

yes

Done or might do?

Alexxx1

Never. I know people who think it's an obligation to out people because it's "lying". This grinds my gears. Privacy, folks.

kenjysn1

never. sometimes you will kill them. i think we need rights based on we observe the system, we can’t use sexual orientation as someone’s weakness and criminal. if you want Equal rights , you need treat orientation like nothing. bcos you can’t hurt someone by announcing heterosexuality . as gay do this to gay people makes even hurt than others. how do you feel if your family betrayed you. grosses me out.

vaylon 0

I did a very public outing of a local evangelical preacher about a decade ago. I just couldn't resist it because of his really hate filled anti-gay crap.
Even gave him a chance to stop it beforehand but he refused.
So I let everything I had on him out.
Lost his wife or fiance, church and moved to Arkansas.

fuckall

no no no no, hell no

Josufaurutu

Well, I came out a year ago to a few people. The only people I really care enough to know. Back when I was in the closet for everyone I was dating a guy who recently had been discovered as gay, and gossips flew in college… He always said we met in secret 'cause he didn't want people to treat me like him.
Everyone thought we were good friends, and that I wasn't aware of his sexual life, and tried to "advice me".
When the day came, and I finally came out to close friends and my mom and sister, he broke my heart, he broke up with me on a facebook message. Ended up discovering he still insisted he wasn't gay and tried to convince everyone of that.
Eventually he came out, and months later we met at a party and since then he is trying to convince me to have sex with him, he already has a partner.

I don't mind if someone doesn't feel like coming out, because there was a time I also didn't, but now I just get away as soon as it starts getting like this story again.

ColinTNM

Outing someone is indefensible. There is only one exception to the rule - if that person is actively harming other gay people with their behaviour, i.e. being a hypocrite. Example - politicians who vote for anti-gay legislation but engage in homosexual activity in their private lives - they deserve to have their careers and reputations destroyed for being a self-hating hypocrite.

manrmen 0

As much as I would like to say NO.

However, I am human and prone to weaknesses and may accidentally in the heat of the moment out someone.

But it's still and should be a no for me.

scratcher71

No never, outing somebody is loosing their trust and humiliating them.

Grotomode

I guess only if they are being extremely homophobic?

andergarcia

No, never in my life. It would be one way of denigrating and humilating someone who is not ready to (or simply does not want to) come out.

I wouldn't have liked to be forced to be out of the closet when I was not ready.

A Former User

Never! One of my nephews and one of my nieces are both gay.

My nephew waited until he was financially stable out on his own at 18 before making a public coming out post on Instagram.

My niece is in college and she turned 19 before posting beautiful sappy pictures of her and her girlfriend on Facebook and coming out.

Just a bit irked that the possibility of my alleged status as Favorite Uncle might be due to my orientation and not because of spoiling them. I could have saved some money. (Kidding)

Everyone's journey is different, no way will I be a pothole on their road.

eastonkellan

It will depend on the personality of that closeted guy. Remember the movie East Side Story, I would do the same if I was the girlfriend.

kukashiffr

Well to be honest I asked that question a few years ago because I had faced that issue myself. I live in Pakistan as we all know that how hard it is for being bisexual here. I mean everything happens behind closed doors people don't talk about men having sex with men and females doing a little on the side or even people having sex with animals. But all this is happening yet people are looked down upon or discriminated for having sex with the same gender.

Just like it is quite common for men/women who are deep down gay themselves will loathe or bad mouth other gay ppl to overcome their own guilt. The story is the same here and I think it is much worse. They will be humiliated and verbally abused or even worse they will be forced to have sex against their will.

I shared this with a female friend (who was supposed to be my best friend) in my college days when I was becoming a doctor that I also like men as well as women. Back then I had never had sex but I had interest in both. We were together for four years and I did everything in my power to be her friend emotionally, financially and I took her to events/concerts which she could never even think of going to. She was from a very conservative house but once she was out she used to to be come wild and curse and get crazy of all sorts just to let out her frustration. Due to all this she qas quite popular in the college as well for being very outrageous. She used to extremely funny thing in college like wearing a lab coat and sit right in the middle of the college hallway and started acting like a professional beggar asking for money from everyone who walked by even poor patients and she used to do this even while were were our in large groups in the mall. Every one in the college knew her crazy side but those who didn't knew her used to be shocked. Back in the day it used to be very funny and stupid.

I put my trust in her and after 2 years told her my secret she kept it for a year and in my last year she blurted it all out to everyone in the college. It was a very tough time for me to face everyone talking behind my back and eventually i learned what she had done. Imagine my shock. I had many of her secrets too with me but I never went public with them maybe I am made that way.

I will stop my rant here just wanted to share my story here about this horrific event in my life.

vbear2

In most instances I would say no. It's part of someone's private life.

I would only be tempted with someone who acts against the interest of LGBT+ people as some kind of internalized homophobia. And mostly I would try out them to themselves, and see if they can get help dealing with it.