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    "Should I include that I am disabled in my dating profile?" – Josh Galassi

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    • ColinTNMC Offline
      ColinTNM
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      I am not disabled so I can only hypothesize, but I would include it in my profile for no other reason than to weed out the asshats and jack-offs.
      there are a lot of great people out there, but I don't have the time nor inclination to start chatting with someone and half an hour in mention it and them back off because their imagination runs wild. Or worse meet up with people who clearly came for one thing but arrive and see another and have them grimace awkwardly through a date, knowing their "I'll give you a call sometime" lines were as empty as their heads.  :police:

      If you are upfront about it in your profile, without excuses or overly long explanations, I think anyone worth your time and who likes the cut of your gib in general would not see it as inhibitive to dating you. In fact they might view it as a positive that you were straight forward about it. I would think here's a guy that has his head and heart in a good place, I'm going to shoot them a message.  :cool2:

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        spam17
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        @ColinTNM:

        I am not disabled so I can only hypothesize, but I would include it in my profile for no other reason than to weed out the asshats and jack-offs.
        there are a lot of great people out there, but I don't have the time nor inclination to start chatting with someone and half an hour in mention it and them back off because their imagination runs wild. Or worse meet up with people who clearly came for one thing but arrive and see another and have them grimace awkwardly through a date, knowing their "I'll give you a call sometime" lines were as empty as their heads.  :police:

        If you are upfront about it in your profile, without excuses or overly long explanations, I think anyone worth your time and who likes the cut of your gib in general would not see it as inhibitive to dating you. In fact they might view it as a positive that you were straight forward about it. I would think here's a guy that has his head and heart in a good place, I'm going to shoot them a message.  :cool2:

        :cool2:

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        • DomosukeD Offline
          Domosuke
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          In your profile:No. Especially if the disability is one that you feel would make you targeted or bullied. Strangers going through profiles at first glance, you shouldn't have to subject yourself to them with that.

          To people who you get close with on the dating site:Yes, in the best comfortable way for you. Someone who you are dating should know this information though.

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          • raphjdR Offline
            raphjd Forum Administrator
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            Well, there are those who have disability fetishes, such as "stumpies" who from their name is obvious what they are into.

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            • Z Offline
              Zeitgeist
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              @Domosuke:

              In your profile:No. Especially if the disability is one that you feel would make you targeted or bullied. Strangers going through profiles at first glance, you shouldn't have to subject yourself to them with that.

              To people who you get close with on the dating site:Yes, in the best comfortable way for you. Someone who you are dating should know this information though.

              Maybe disclosing this sort of information earlier would bode well for the relationship. The more honesty, the better.

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              • J Offline
                JohnAllenson
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                It sucks getting rejected but I think I'd rather get rejected BEFORE I've put time and effort into the relationship.

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                • ju6464J Offline
                  ju6464
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                  i used not to tell people. but i got sick of expaining everytime. so i inculdet it in my profile. sure, i get alot less attention but better to find a guy who altually likes me.

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                  • L Offline
                    lf4317
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                    You could used the phrase "physically challenged", instead of "disabled".

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                    • J Offline
                      JohnAllenson
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                      Ummm
                      You mean well but "physically challenged" comes across as a euphenism.  If you're going to get rejected for 'Disabled' you'll also be rejected for 'Differently Abled', 'Handicapped', 'Challenged' or (my most hated term) 'Handicapable'.

                      Myself, I'd be more likely to simply describe my impairment.

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                      • MulderYuffieM Offline
                        MulderYuffie
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                        Coming from someone who is legally blind I let it be known.

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