"Should I include that I am disabled in my dating profile?" – Josh Galassi
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It's not my personal opinion. Anti-Discrimination laws for HIV+ status are organized under Disability rights.
ie.If you are living with HIV or AIDS, you are protected against discrimination under Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and Title II of the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA).
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It's not my personal opinion. Anti-Discrimination laws for HIV+ status are organized under Disability rights.
ie.If you are living with HIV or AIDS, you are protected against discrimination under Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973 and Title II of the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990 (ADA).
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I've seen a few people on dating site mentioning it.
One of them was like the whole wall of text (it was a couple I guess) and then there was that last sentence "One of us doesn't have an arm since they were born" and I was like "aha". It was kind of funny writing about all the expectations they have and all the details and then going like "oh and one of us has one hand". Like it's a big deal but it's not at the same time. It shouldn't be. But it still is. Hm, still can't figure it out. Some guy I saw had just a profile pic on the wheelchair, and I think that was kinda cool. "This is how I look. It's not who I am, but this is how I look, and that wheel chair is a part of my appearance" at least I took it that way. I kinda feel sympathy for guys like this. I think you should be upfront with it. Well it's like with being gay. We tend to say and shout that being guy doesn't describe us as people. So you don't introduce and say "I'm Josh, I'm gay", the same way you wouldn't say "hi, I like your photos, I'm disabled" but on the other hand it's such a big info. Someone might feel disappointed or just cheated if you don't say it.
For me it's like with other guys. If a guy is disabled and not my type well, just no. But there are some disabled people I find attractive. I guess I follow two or three of them on instagram, and they're post are really great. One guy is on a wheelchair and still hot. You know it's like it's easy to let go when something happens to you and while the disabled thing doesn't describe you as a person it probably reflects itself in your insecurities and lack of confidence. But there are guys who take care of themselves, go to gym don't get a belly despite being immobilized and that's really attractive. They're full of energy and infect you with it. There's also a guy (bionicguy) who has an artifiical leg and well… you wouldn't tell. He's such a pro with it, always hitting gym and just looking fucking badass and I would totally date this guy and that's hardly a disability in my eyes. -
I've seen a few people on dating site mentioning it.
One of them was like the whole wall of text (it was a couple I guess) and then there was that last sentence "One of us doesn't have an arm since they were born" and I was like "aha". It was kind of funny writing about all the expectations they have and all the details and then going like "oh and one of us has one hand". Like it's a big deal but it's not at the same time. It shouldn't be. But it still is. Hm, still can't figure it out. Some guy I saw had just a profile pic on the wheelchair, and I think that was kinda cool. "This is how I look. It's not who I am, but this is how I look, and that wheel chair is a part of my appearance" at least I took it that way. I kinda feel sympathy for guys like this. I think you should be upfront with it. Well it's like with being gay. We tend to say and shout that being guy doesn't describe us as people. So you don't introduce and say "I'm Josh, I'm gay", the same way you wouldn't say "hi, I like your photos, I'm disabled" but on the other hand it's such a big info. Someone might feel disappointed or just cheated if you don't say it.
For me it's like with other guys. If a guy is disabled and not my type well, just no. But there are some disabled people I find attractive. I guess I follow two or three of them on instagram, and they're post are really great. One guy is on a wheelchair and still hot. You know it's like it's easy to let go when something happens to you and while the disabled thing doesn't describe you as a person it probably reflects itself in your insecurities and lack of confidence. But there are guys who take care of themselves, go to gym don't get a belly despite being immobilized and that's really attractive. They're full of energy and infect you with it. There's also a guy (bionicguy) who has an artifiical leg and well… you wouldn't tell. He's such a pro with it, always hitting gym and just looking fucking badass and I would totally date this guy and that's hardly a disability in my eyes.++1
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I am not disabled so I can only hypothesize, but I would include it in my profile for no other reason than to weed out the asshats and jack-offs.
there are a lot of great people out there, but I don't have the time nor inclination to start chatting with someone and half an hour in mention it and them back off because their imagination runs wild. Or worse meet up with people who clearly came for one thing but arrive and see another and have them grimace awkwardly through a date, knowing their "I'll give you a call sometime" lines were as empty as their heads. :police:If you are upfront about it in your profile, without excuses or overly long explanations, I think anyone worth your time and who likes the cut of your gib in general would not see it as inhibitive to dating you. In fact they might view it as a positive that you were straight forward about it. I would think here's a guy that has his head and heart in a good place, I'm going to shoot them a message. :cool2:
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I am not disabled so I can only hypothesize, but I would include it in my profile for no other reason than to weed out the asshats and jack-offs.
there are a lot of great people out there, but I don't have the time nor inclination to start chatting with someone and half an hour in mention it and them back off because their imagination runs wild. Or worse meet up with people who clearly came for one thing but arrive and see another and have them grimace awkwardly through a date, knowing their "I'll give you a call sometime" lines were as empty as their heads. :police:If you are upfront about it in your profile, without excuses or overly long explanations, I think anyone worth your time and who likes the cut of your gib in general would not see it as inhibitive to dating you. In fact they might view it as a positive that you were straight forward about it. I would think here's a guy that has his head and heart in a good place, I'm going to shoot them a message. :cool2:
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In your profile:No. Especially if the disability is one that you feel would make you targeted or bullied. Strangers going through profiles at first glance, you shouldn't have to subject yourself to them with that.
To people who you get close with on the dating site:Yes, in the best comfortable way for you. Someone who you are dating should know this information though.
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Well, there are those who have disability fetishes, such as "stumpies" who from their name is obvious what they are into.
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In your profile:No. Especially if the disability is one that you feel would make you targeted or bullied. Strangers going through profiles at first glance, you shouldn't have to subject yourself to them with that.
To people who you get close with on the dating site:Yes, in the best comfortable way for you. Someone who you are dating should know this information though.
Maybe disclosing this sort of information earlier would bode well for the relationship. The more honesty, the better.
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It sucks getting rejected but I think I'd rather get rejected BEFORE I've put time and effort into the relationship.
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i used not to tell people. but i got sick of expaining everytime. so i inculdet it in my profile. sure, i get alot less attention but better to find a guy who altually likes me.
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You could used the phrase "physically challenged", instead of "disabled".
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Ummm
You mean well but "physically challenged" comes across as a euphenism. If you're going to get rejected for 'Disabled' you'll also be rejected for 'Differently Abled', 'Handicapped', 'Challenged' or (my most hated term) 'Handicapable'.Myself, I'd be more likely to simply describe my impairment.
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Coming from someone who is legally blind I let it be known.
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